Empathy and Weight Gain

Yes. They are linked.

Most doctors and psychologist focus on the ‘depression’ aspect of uncontrollable weight gain, but the connection with extreme sensitivity to other people’s emotions is often overlooked.

In the “spiritual community” there’s a permeating false idea floating around that to be spiritual means to look like a supermodel. Maybe it’s the frenzy with social media spirituality (who’s the most popular and 100% raw?!), but it seems our societal obsession with perfection has lead us to believe that if we don’t look a certain way, we’re just not spiritual enough (as if women need one more thing to feel guilty about).

Some of the most tuned-in, loving, wise, altruistic people I know carry a few extra pounds. Many of my clients who have extreme empathic/physic abilities almost universally struggle with weight gain and/or health issues. This is due to the way their body translates the energy of others around them.

Often, this over-sensitivity to environment/people stems from a childhood of abuse. In order to compensate for the overhaul of energy felt by those with empathic abilities, their bodies will often carry extra weight as a type of insulation between themselves and others (it’s a form of self- protection).

Even after they’ve worked through their emotional issues/past abuse, many empaths find the extra weight is the last adaptive mechanism remaining with them. Because the excess physical insulation has been so psychologically useful to them in dealing with others’ emotions (and their own), it is often difficult to build the neuropath ways to other soothing forms of self-comfort. Learning to self-sooth is one of the most important healing modalities an empath can learn.

What’s interesting about weight gain caused by empathic abilities, is that often those carrying the extra pounds do not over eat (though some do). Many overweight empaths eat extremely healthy vegan and/or raw food diets. It can be frustrating for these people to lose weight because the issue is emotional/psychological, not an eating obsession or lack of self-control.

The most self-aware empaths are conscious about their body’s tendency to hold on to weight and learn to accept/love themselves as they are. But I find so often that they (women in particular) carry an enormous sense of guilt and shame when it comes to their weight, constantly feeling the need to “fix” themselves. This added stress often leads to additional weight gain.

I personally have dealt with this issue my entire life, often going on extreme (and potentially harmful) deprivation diets in an effort to rid myself of my body’s natural response to processing an overabundance of energy.

Through much therapy and emotional awareness, I’m learning how to have balance and control over how my empathic abilities affect me, and I find that the more I accept my body as it is, the more grounded and powerful I become.

As I’ve learned to love myself unconditionally, I’ve notice my body holds on to less and less weight, because it feels safe with me. It feels loved. Self loves soothes the body and helps it feel less vulnerable in this chaotic world of emotions.

I will be exploring the topic of weight gain in much more detail in my “Empowering Empathic Abilities” online class, but I wanted to send this out for any of you empaths out there who struggle with your weight and feel guilty because of it. Don’t.

Carrying extra weight does not make you any less spiritual or less valuable than anyone else on the planet. Learn to love and accept yourself. Thank your body for how it protects and takes care of you. I promise it will do wonders in your overall health and sense of well-being!

Self-acceptance is always the first step to self-love (which is the ultimate state of enlightenment).

Much love, family!


How to Bend Time

I’m experimenting with bending time.

Have you ever tried it before? I find that consciously recognizing  bending time3time is an illusion, setting an intention, and using visualization tips to break linear constructs and ride the curve of energy, works wonders for speeding up or slowing down time to fit your needs.

This concept is nothing new or special. It’s simply an awareness of higher science. Time does not exist. It never has. But the illusion of time does. Here is an excerpt from The Guardian about Einstein’s theory of time/space reality:

The theory explained

“When Einstein wrote his general theory of relativity in 1915, he found a new way to describe gravity. It was not a force, as Sir Isaac Newton had supposed, but a consequence of the distortion of space and time, conceived together in his theory as ‘space-time’. Any object distorts the fabric of space-time and the bigger it is, the greater the effect.

Just as a bowling ball placed on a trampoline stretches the fabric gravity-bending-space-time-75157774825_xlargeand causes it to sag, so planets and stars warp space-time – a phenomenon known as the ‘geodetic effect’. A marble moving along the trampoline will be drawn inexorably towards the ball.

Thus the planets orbiting the Sun are not being pulled by the Sun; they are following the curved space-time deformation caused by the Sun. The reason the planets never fall into the Sun is because of the speed at which they are travelling.

According to the theory, matter and energy distort space-time, curving it around themselves. ‘Frame dragging’ theoretically occurs when the rotation of a large body ‘twists’ nearby space and time. It is this second part of Einstein’s theory that the Nasa mission has yet to corroborate.”

Einstein was right: space and time bend. Taking this concept once step further, you can practice bending time in your own day-to-day life.

Here are three techniques to help you bend time:

1.Go into deep mediation: People underestimate what they can do in a superconscious state. On the astral plane, time does not exist. It is the perfect place to reassemble events/energy flow in your life. There are many different ways of doing this, but I find deep breath followed by a creative visualization works best.

Many people do this out of body, but you don’t have to actually go out of body to experience the results. Simply create the space in your mind where you can materialize whatever you want, and begin visualizing it as if it is already happened in your life. This jump starts the manifestation process and brings it more quickly into your experience.

For more information on how to have an out of body experience, check-out this video by Teal Scott:

2. Do a 360 degree turn: If your life is going in a direction that doesn’t feel good to you, turn it around – literally. I know this may sound crazy, but it’s worked for me:

*Stand up straight facing one direction (preferably the direction that feels most uncomfortable for you to face).

*Now visualize the direction you want your life to go (the stronger the visualization, the better). Imagine what the new direction would feel like.

*Take 5 deep breaths and turn 360 degrees,counterclockwise.

(Remember, time works on a curve, and so does EVERYTHING in nature. The turn you do is not only symbolic, it is physically turning the energy around your electromagnetic field).

3. Ride the Wave of Inspiration: Perhaps the best technique for stretching time. When you act upon the energy of your inspiration (and ride it to the end of its course) you’ll find you can create two weeks of ‘work’ in a few hours. When you are living in your bliss, time literally stands still (or “curves” to move you along your path in the fastest way possible!). Acting upon your inspiration is the most powerful way to create.

Abraham-Hicks offers powerful insight on how to do this:


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Intuitive Reading/Mentoring Session

Intuitive readings are not something mystical or otherworldly. They LoveHeals(2are not a demonstration of any special “gifts” I have that you don’t have. They are not psychic readings. An intuitive reading with me is an opportunity to open you up to your OWN abilities – a chance for you to take a deeper look at what is going on in your physical, emotional, and energetic bodies. It’s an experience of seeing yourself outside of the 3rd dimensional perspective and remembering who you truly are.

My intention and hope with every session I do is that you feel uplifted, spiritually and mentally clear, empowered, and confident about your own unique abilities. I want you to see how magnificent and beautiful you are, and to truly know and experience how much you are loved by the Universe. I want you to feel seen. You have infinite value and worth, and it is my belief that all dis-ease begins (at some level) with you forgetting who and what you truly are, and there is usually a vibrational thought/emotional pattern that keeps you from accessing that knowledge. Through these sessions, I help you find those vibrational patterns and change them to reflect your true essence.

The way I access this information is primarily through intuitive chakrasempathy (otherwise known as clairsentience). I often “feel” within my body what a person is feeling, or pick-up on blockages and energy within another person. I usually receive pictures and images in my mind that also relate to a person’s circumstances surrounding their current energetic expression.

When I connect with your energy I do a body scan of your Chakras. I physically see colors and impressions/images in my mind as I look at your energetic field, but mostly I feel your energy within my own body. As I tap into your energy, I write down all the impressions/downloads that come to me. These impressions come in the form of visuals and can include anything from herbs, rocks, and crystals, to geological features, sounds and colors. It’s different for every person.

Sometimes I receive images of past lives (or symbolic lives that are a vibrational match to your current energy), but I find that if something like this does come up, it is ALWAYS related to this life and your current vibrational expression (rather than calling them past lives, I like to think of these types of energy as “themes”).

Intuitive Reading/Mentoring Session $122

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Mentoring Empathic Abilities package

One of my unique talents is helping people uncover their own inner spaceempathic abilities and helping them see what might be blocking them from accessing/thriving with these “superpowers” (as I like to call them).

Everyone has an ability to tap into their extrasensory abilities, but some are more sensitive than others. I’ve found with my own life (and the clients that I’ve worked with) that learning how to live with an extreme sensitivity to energy can be exceedingly difficult and cause problems such as

  • Depression
  • Weight gain
  • A sense of isolation/invisibility/and a constant feeling of being “unknown.”
  • Co-dependent relationships
  •  Anthropophobia

Because the Universe tends to bring people to me with this specific need (and because I’ve had to learn how to work with these abilities in my own life), I do offer month long mentoring sessions for people who feel that they need healing/guidance on a deeper level in order to really understand their empathic abilities and how to thrive with them.

If you are interested in mentoring, please fill out the form at the top of the page, along with dates/times you are available (and your time zone) so we can arrange a 15 min phone consultation to see if the mentoring sessions fit what you are looking for.

Mentoring Empathic Abilities package $444

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“I recently experienced Amanda’s Meditation Healing Elixir and to say it was profound would be an understatement. To go through cropped-7chakra.jpgthis process is truly unique, and one that I had never experienced before. Amanda has a genetic ability to perceive and translate information specific to an individual that is simply cutting edge in this spiritual industry. She also has the ability to remove her own ego from the process so the information you get is truly for you. My elixir contained within it so much validation and direction along this path I have chosen to walk. It was such a beautiful experience and one that I can truly say assisted me in a great leap forward on my journey. The whole process is one that I HIGHLY recommend ” Amy Woods, Numerologist

 “The whole experience we shared together was life changing for me! You really set my mind straight with what I’m feeling, and the things that are flowing through my mind, body, and soul. You gave me MORE of a push to my potential. Since our session I get more excited everyday about LIFE itself and the path that’s ahead for myself and the people around me, and the world around US. Really exciting times right now. I’m glad I got to have that time with you. Thank you, Amanda!” Piotr F., Canada

“Amanda has such amazing energy! Our session flowed so beautifully. I didn’t feel like I was getting a reading, I felt like I was possibilityspeaking to a friend. The conversation was casual but extremely informative. Amanda takes the time to go into meditation before a reading to get a better understanding of her client and it definitely shows. Her insights were accurate and eye opening. She was able to answer every one of my questions with great detail. Amanda went above and beyond to make sure that I was satisfied with my reading. After my reading I felt so great. I went on with my day feeling empowered and enlightened. For anyone looking for a reader who is down to earth but also deeply insightful, I would highly recommend booking a session with Amanda.”  Justin Lemus, California

“Speaking with Amanda was amazing. I wasn’t sure what to expect exactly, and was very nervous to say the least. But once we connected, it was like talking to an old friend. She opened me up to parts of myself I’m still learning about. Not only did it help me spiritually, but her energy reading physically cleared up blockages as well. It was a fantastic experience! Amanda was wonderful to work with and I definitely recommend a session to anyone & everyone!” Tabitha Johnson, Georgia

 “There’s absolutely NO way I can describe the absolute joy, peace and oneness I encountered during my reading with Amanda! It was so complete. She channeled many of my past lives, images of me in this life and little snippets of my future! She beautifully elaborated on the images she was receiving and gave me her interpretation. I went through an emotional roller coaster that left me so aware of myself, my past and my future. By the end I felt so in tune with the universe, I get shivers every time I think about it! I was completely activated by Amanda. She lit a fire in me a few weeks ago and now that fire is blazing. This activation doesn’t end when the conversation ends, it’s with you for a lifetime! Amanda’s gifts are beautiful, otherworldly and incredibly guided by the divine universe. LOVE you Amanda!” Athena Ziegler, Aromatherapist

“The night I visited Amanda she did a life activation in me – I literally felt high for days afterwards and I’m still feeling that way now; the morning after I actually felt euphoric. Amanda helped me realize some huge things about myself and helped me heal a friendship, too. She just went with the flow of what she was ‘getting’ and I’m really glad I got to experience that with her.  It was definitely the most fulfilling experience I had had in a long time. “ Andrea Nance, Portland, Oregon.

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About Amanda

Who am I? Writer. Intuitive. Teacher.  Seeker of magic. amandagraduation

Intentions/Dreams/Passion? To create a vortex of magic, imagination, and conscious bliss on this planet. I’m passionate about traveling and meeting people who are creating/revealing beauty. I share their stories on this blog, too.

Loves: Music (all kinds). Enchantment. Travel. Books. High vibe food. Poetry. Beauty. Self-awareness. Human potential.

Current Projects: Teaching online workshops on understanding and empowering empathic abilities.

Upcoming Adventures: 2014 is a year of traveling to magical places, meeting magical people, and creating more magic in my life. I’ll be bringing Chakra Center readers along with me. Stay-tuned.



Fully Raw Wine

As someone who LOVES wine (and worked in the wine industry for 8 years) I am always looking for alternative drinks that can still give me a nice “buzz” but also pumps my body full of nutrients and vitamins.

Maybe it’s just the high of eating raw foods, but I love this recipe from “Fully Raw Kristina.” I think the wine glass and decanter really make it feel like I’m having the full wine experience (not to mention the intoxicating color of the juice).

Try it and let me know what you think!


20 Things to Let Go of This Year!

You all know I love the content on MindBodyGreen. Yesterday, a ID-100219792good friend sent me this article and I felt myself sigh a deep breath of relief. Seeing all the limiting beliefs I’ve carried around — paraded before me in a long list — somehow gave me the permission I needed to finally let them go. I, for one, am choosing to make a conscious decision to release all of these beliefs for the New Year. I choose to believe I am worthy of living my dreams, worthy of love, and I am physically, spiritually, and emotionally ready to take responsibility for what I have created in my life. This year I am replacing all of these beliefs with words and emotions that bring empowerment.

So today, Jan. 1st, 2014, what limiting beliefs do you want to let go of? Start your New Year with healthy and empowering perspective of who and what you are. Your body, mind, and soul will thank you.

Here are 20 things to let go of in order to reach unlimited happiness.

1. Let go of all thoughts that don’t make you feel empowered and strong.

2. Let go of feeling guilty for doing what you truly want to do.

3. Let go of the fear of the unknown; take one small step and watch the path reveal itself.

4. Let go of regrets; at one point in your life, that “whatever” was exactly what you wanted.

5. Let go of worrying; worrying is like praying for what you don’t want.

6. Let go of blaming anyone for anything; be accountable for your own life. If you don’t like something, you have two choices, accept it or change it.

7. Let go of thinking you are damaged; you matter, and the world needs you just as you are.

8. Let go of thinking your dreams are not important; always follow your heart.

9. Let go of being the “go-to person” for everyone, all the time; stop blowing yourself off and take care of yourself first … because you matter.

10. Let go of thinking everyone else is happier, more successful or better off than you. You are right where you need to be. Your journey is unfolding perfectly for you.

11. Let go of thinking there’s a right and wrong way to do things or to see the world. Enjoy the contrast and celebrate the diversity and richness of life.

12. Let go of cheating on your future with your past. It’s time to move on and tell a new story.

13. Let go of thinking you are not where you should be. You are right where you need to be to get to where you want to go, so start asking yourself where you want to go.

14. Let go of anger toward ex lovers and family. We all deserve happiness and love; just because it is over doesn’t mean the love was wrong.

15. Let go of the need to do more and be more; for today, you’ve done the best you can, and that’s enough.

16. Let go of thinking you have to know how to make it happen; we learn the way on the way.

17. Let go of your money woes — make a plan to pay off debt and focus on your abundance.

18. Let go of trying to save or change people. Everyone has her own path, and the best thing you can do is work on yourself and stop focusing on others.

19. Let go of trying to fit in and be accepted by everyone. Your uniqueness is what makes you outstanding.

20. Let go of self-hate. You are not the shape of your body or the number on the scale. Who you are matters, and the world needs you as you are. Celebrate you!

For more inspiration and a guide to help you let go, get this FREE kit on loving life to the fullest.

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Calling All Alchemist and Magic Workers for 2014!

Dear Chakra Center followers,

2013 has been a year of lessons for me! I’ve started many new projects, watched some of them take root, some drift away in the wind, and others transform into unexpected magic! I want to say ‘thank you’ for staying with me, offering encouragement, and sharing your hearts. I feel you are my family and I’m full of gratitude for our connection!

This year I received a loud and clear message about what I’m here to do. I learned more about my unique gifts (and what I’m really not so good at) and have come to understand what I really want Chakra Center to be used for. I was confused at times and humbled…A LOT (and I’m thankful for that). I was reminded that when I follow my mind vs. my heart, all that usually follows is mundane living at best, and depression at worst. But when I follow my heart it calls me to a life of enchantment!

When we live in the magic and enchantment of this vibrational Universe, we live a life of FREEDOM!

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by ANY yoke of slavery.” Galatians 5:1

My heart has made it clear to me that 2014 is a year of Alchemy and I’m calling all alchemist and magic workers to be apart of it!

For those of you who have been following me or what’s been happening at Chakra Center, you’ve noticed a lot of change, stagnation, – maybe even uncertainty. But this year I will finally be bringing forth a vision that I had from the beginning, and I can’t wait to unveil it.

I will still be offering online classes, but Spirit has made it clear that I am to work specifically with empaths/intuitives, as one of my most powerful/unique gifts is empowering this new wave of Alchemy workers (I intentionally use this word in place of “light workers,” for reasons I’ll explain in later posts) to live in the full power of freedom, magic, and transformation!

2014 will be a year of gathering for me. I am dedicating this year to Enchanted Living, and my intention is to gather, activate, and empower empaths, alchemists, and magic workers – for I feel 2014 is truly a year of Enchantment, but it is up to us to ride the wave of magic.

I will be traveling a lot, meeting many of you, sharing your stories with the world, interviewing Alchemist who look for magic in life and choose to live from their hearts, and sharing with you the tools and resources to help you do the same. And I want to hear from all of you!

A lot is changing, unfolding, and being revealed. The platform on which to share your magic with the world is growing! Please forgive the chaos on this site in the meantime. I’m still getting this new format organized.

Make sure to sign-up for our newsletter and follow the blog to be a part of the magic! So much is coming and I can’t wait for you to be a part of it!

I wish you all a year of enchantment and I hope Chakra Center will continue to inspire you to live life to the fullest! I pray this year you will feel empowered, creative, abundant, and FREE!

Happy New Year! Here’s to the magic!


PS. For all of you empaths and alchemist out there, start the New Year feeling empowered and clear about your gifts! Join me in my “Empowering and Understanding Empathic Abilities” online class. I can’t wait to connect with all of you!


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Empowering Empathic Abilities Online Class!

Empowering Empathic Abilities Online Workshop Jan. 14th – Jan. 28th

In this two week class we will be exploring what it means to be empathic in a variety of ways:

  • Understanding the different forms of empathic abilities
  • Learning how to control and utilize these abilities for our highest purpose
  • Exploring the dynamics of empaths in relationships
  • The problems many empaths have with codependency
  • The practice of shifting and redirecting the energy in our bodies to filter and clear out the energetic residue of those around us
  • Empathic abilities and weight gain
  • Uncovering the links between empathic abilities and low self-esteem
  • Letting go of our energetic stories
  • Creating new energy grids for the planet to heal and transmute energy

We will also explore the unique ways we all read the energy around us, and help each other discover our own power tools for balancing and controlling these abilities.

A lot of extremely powerful empaths are out there who have never fully explored their potential as healers/energy workers due to having unhealed emotional wounds. Most empaths don’t even realize they have a unique gift — they simple live in a world a emotional baggage and pain, carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders and never understanding the power they have to redirect the energy, transmute it, and heal (not only themselves, but others!).  Imagine what would happen if empaths joined forces together to clear energy fields and tap into their unique power for transforming old energy and patterns on a global, collective scale? Imagine what new grid lines we could create. Imagine the impact we could have on the world!

Empathic abilities has by far been the topic I’ve received the ID-1002035most questions about on Chakra Center — while in my intuitive work I seem to primarily attract people who are empathic and are seeking help in understanding this ability. Of course, we always attract what we need most, and working with empaths has been the single most healing and beneficial thing I’ve done with my own intuitive/empathic abilities.

Because I continue to receive questions and clients who want to go deeper in their understanding of this topic, I’ve felt and strong desire to work on a more global/collective scale with empaths. There are so many empaths on this planet right now who are waking up to their gifts but have no idea how to heal themselves or use it for the benefit of others. That is why I created this course! I have a powerful vision of what we empaths could do if we joined forces.

I am so excited to be leading this workshop, as I am realizing working with empaths is part of the intention I set for this life before coming here and I am in the gathering phase! So, I’m calling all empaths, skilled and unskilled, to come together and join forces.  I know there will be much more to come! Hope to see you there!

TO REGISTER for the class, fill out the form below and complete your purchase through Paypal. The entirety of the class will be held in a private Facebook forum. I will post weekly videos/workshop content, as well as be available daily to answer any questions you may have. The forum format also gives participants the opportunity to interact with each other and even post video responses to the material (should you wish to do so).

Class begins Jan. 14th – Jan. 28th

This two week course is only $22.

*Your spot will not be reserved until payment is received.

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For past videos I’ve done on empathic abilities, check to link below:


Mental Health: How Being an Empath Can Ruin Relationships


Empaths and relationships. It’s that underbelly hot topic that many people in the “New Age” community tend to ignore. But I think it’s important to understand the Shadow aspects of all things, because the more self-awareness we become, the more growth and expansion can occur in our lives.

One of the biggest problems I’ve seen (both in my own life and with empathic clients I’ve worked with) is the issue of co-dependent relationships. Most empaths see this happen in their lives at least once, if not over and over. It can be hard for an empathic person to learn healthy boundaries because they naturally (and subconsciously) spend so much time exploring other people’s auras, that it can be difficult to know where they end and the other person begins.

I found this article to be highly informative, honest, and exactly the tendencies many of us empaths need to understand about ourselves in order to develop healthy relationships and break the damaging patterns of co-dependency.  I hope it helps shed light on some of the more destructive aspects of empathy.

By Marilisa Sachteleben

Fourteen years ago, I discovered I’m an empath. I always knew, even as a child, that I felt others; pain, but it was good to discover that intense sensitivity had a name. Empath Guide defines it well: Criticism, suffering, hurt, humiliation, shame are hard enough for me to bear. Watching others feel them is agonizing. Knowing I’m an empath explains a lot about my interpersonal struggles. It can ruin or heal relationships.

* I can read hearts. Sympathy is feeling for another person while staying inside one’s self. Empathy is feeling with someone. It’s like I live inside their heads and hearts. I understand others’ motives and reasons better than they sometimes do. I make excuses for them they’ve never thought of.

* I’m in constant pain. Empaths often act depressed. We are. Continually feeling others’ pain is exhausting. Sometimes, it’s plain miserable. It’s like having the weight of the world, with all its sin, hurt and sorrow on our shoulders.

* I’m paranoid. As an empath mom and wife, I feel a flood of compassion, sympathy and closeness with my family. That’s good, except that I worry about them 24-7-365. I could easily become a “smother mother.” I read about a mom who couldn’t let her kids out of her sight for fear something might happen and she wouldn’t be there to stop it. I know how that feels. Other parents, sometimes spouses and kids, most of society doesn’t get that. They just think we’re over-controlling, helicopter paranoiacs. We are. We have to be. Empathy dictates that we be constantly vigilant.

* I try to control others. Because empaths feel everyone’s pain, we start to believe we’re responsible for it and can stop it. The guilt is all-consuming. To assuage it, we try to correct, fix and change others’ behavior. We hope to stop them hurting themselves and us by default.

* I drive people away. I had my empath epiphany at a roller-skating party. A stranger fell and broke her arm. I began to sob and shake. I was incoherent. I felt her arm pain, shock and fright. My friends felt sorry for her, but were horrified by my reaction. One said, “Mar, you really take the gospel injunction to ‘bear one another’s burdens’ seriously!” They acted wary of me after that. And these were friends.

* I’m crazy-vulnerable. If friends can’t take extreme empathy, imagine how raw an empath is with unsafe people. We easily fall prey to victimizers and predators. I have been scolded, shamed, punished, abused, mocked and taken advantage of because of my empathy. Empaths are an addict’s codependent-mate fantasy!

* Empathy is a gift and a curse. Being able to get inside someone else’s heart is a double-edged sword. I’ve seen things that will never cease to traumatize me. Compassion frankly hurts. And all the while I’m being hurt, I kept on empathizing. I intuitively understand where behavior comes from. I can never really be angry with anyone because I can’t distance from them. Anger at someone else is just anger at myself.

* I have panic attacks. This part is the hardest to admit, but the most necessary for me and other empaths to hear. In my agony, I have melted down and hurt myself and those I love. Weird isn’t it, that I would hurt those who I worry most about protecting. I used to feel unbearable guilt for this. Now I realize it’s the logical result of so much inner torment. When loved ones do things to hurt themselves, they’re hurting me doubly. When I rage at them, it’s myself I’m livid with.

My story is still being written, but I think it’s going to have a happy ending. I’m fortunate to have a loving family who supports me. I’m learning to recognize obsessive empathy and redirect it. I’m using this existential crisis to understand myself, my relationships and my purpose. I’m seeking positive outlets so I’m not engulfed by angst. I’m finding healthy diversions and channels for my empathy.

(originally published on Yahoo!).



Signs That You’re An Empath

Ever since I posted my experience with understanding my own ID-100152875empathic abilities, I’ve received dozens of emails and questions from people who realize they are deeply sensitive but unsure if they are “empathic” or what do about it. Understanding what’s going on with your emotions is the first step to living a  balanced, healthy life as an empath, and in my experience, beyond that it is learning how you uniquely read other people’s emotions so you can develop the skills to control that gift, rather than allowing it to control you.

Anna Sayce wrote an excellent article outlining signs of empathic abilities a couple years ago, and in light of recent questions I’ve received, I thought I’d share it with my readers here at Chakra Center. Be sure to check-out her site for related articles on empathic abilities and how to control them. You can also check-out my own video on understanding empathic abilities below.

Signs That You’re An Empath

“What’s an empath?

In short, an empath is someone who feels what other people are feeling.  This doesn’t mean you can get an idea for how other people feel just some of the time.  Being an empath means you were born with the ability to enter someone’s aura and explore their feelings and experience of life on an intimate level. Much of the time this is done unconsciously. On the upside, you know what it feels like to be another person, so you’re often great at relating to others (empathy is, after all, a psychic gift and you can use it to read other people).

On the downside you are like a sponge who is often wet and full of other peoples’ emotions – the conscious one and the unconscious ones. This can be a heavy burden of energy to carry around.

It gets tiring.  That’s why I wrote this article.

Signs that you’re an ‘unskilled’ empath include:

  • Feeling the world’s suffering on a large scale and wishing you could do something to help. Ironically, this makes you less equipped to help, because you feel overwhelmed.
  • Finding it difficult to watch the news or distressing images because you feel the pain of the person/people you’re watching – as if you’re them
  • Finding it difficult to fully be present to yourself and your own feelings when conversing with other people. This is because you’re busy exploring their aura and responses to life – not your own.
  • Shyness – empathy can make you somewhat self-conscious as you’re very aware of the effect your words have on another person and what they’re thinking and feeling in response.
  • A tendency to say yes to the requests and demands of other people – almost as a reflex; without thinking about whether you actually want to. When you’re so immersed in another person’s experience of life and what they need – how can you say no? It’s only afterwards that you realize you forgot yourself and your own needs.
  • A general tendency to put your needs last, or serve others at your own expense.
  • A liking for distance in relationships, and for solitude.  This occurs because as an empath, intimacy and closeness is your default.  But when you don’t know how to stop yourself from exploring other peoples’ auras, you need some space on your own, where you aren’t around other people.
  • Feeling an affinity with the animal kingdom.  When you’re an animal empath, you can get a feel for how other species experience life and you are able to relate to animals on a deep level.  Some people are plant empaths, so the same is possible for plants.
  • Feeling responsible for how other people feel – and going out of your way to help them to feel better (even when it doesn’t serve you.)  After all – you feel their emotions so keenly.
  • A tendency to let relationships and friendships get too heavy (and too close) – too fast.
  • A strange tendency to feel aches and pains, but only around certain people.
  • Finding yourself often in a counseling role, where people dump their emotions on you, and being very drained by it.
  • An emotional over-identification with characters in novels, films and plays. It doesn’t matter that they’re not real – you can still feel how they felt.
  • A tendency to forget to have fun and lighten up.

If you related to many of the above signs it is important for you to understand that you can control these feelings. Instead of automatically exploring the aura of most of the people you meet, you can turn your empathy on only when you need it. That makes life a lot lighter.”

For more details on how I’ve learned to control my own empathic abilities, you can check out the video I posted below:


What Everyone Needs to Know About Their Chakras

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This morning I was browsing through Mindbodygreen and stumbled across this article by Deepak Chopra.  Deepak offers a in-depth and unique perspective on the Chakras I just had to share! Enjoy!

Each of the seven chakras are governed by spiritual laws, principles of consciousness that we can use to cultivate greater harmony, happiness, and wellbeing in our lives and in the world.

The First Center: The Root Chakra

The root chakra, known in Sanskrit as muladhara, is located at the base of the spine. It governs your most basic survival needs. When this chakra is clear and energy flows through it freely, we feel secure and confident that we can easily fulfill our needs. However, blockage in this area can cause us to feel anxious and worried.

The spiritual Law of Karma governs the first energy center. On the physical plane, every action you perform results in a corresponding reaction. To maximize the possibility that your actions generate evolutionary reactions, you can use your body as a choice determining instrument.

Consider the possibilities in front of you and listen to signals from your body. These sensations generating from the root chakra are either comfortable or uncomfortable. Your body evaluates every possible decision in terms of its likelihood to meet your needs for safety or increase the level of threat you experience. The first chakra, which connects you with the earth, provides essential information as to the potential nourishment or toxicity that is available to you as a result of the actions you are taking.

The Second Center: Creativity Chakra

The creativity chakra, called svadhishtana, is associated with creativity in all its expressions. Located in the area of your sexual organs, the energy of this center can be used for biological reproduction. When channeled into higher energy centers, it fuels the creative force that enables you to paint a beautiful picture, build a business, or create a life of love and abundance.

The Law of Least Effort is lively in the second chakra. When your vital energy is flowing through your center of creativity, you co-create your life. The solution to every problem is rarely on the level of the problem. Rather, it comes from a deeper domain of creativity. Creativity is the process of taking the same raw material and creating different contexts and relationships between the components.

For example, when a composer creates a new piece of music, he is using the same notes in a new relationship with one another other, resulting in the emergence of something that did not exist before. The second chakra utilizes the raw material of the root chakra to create the world anew each day.

The Third Center: Energy Chakra

The energy chakra, manipura, is localized in your solar plexus. It’s the seat of your power in the world. When this center is open and flowing, you are capable of translating your intentions and desires into manifestation. When it is blocked, you feel frustrated and ineffectual.

The Law of Intention and Desire governs the third chakra. The seeds of intentions and desires reside in your personal soul. Nourishing the seeds you wish to germinate with your attention will lead to their full expression. It is important to be clear about your intentions so you are not surprised when they bear fruit.

The process of manifesting your desires is to first bring them into consciousness, followed by expanding your awareness through meditation, and finally releasing your intentions and detaching from the outcome. You can control your actions, however you cannot control the fruit of your actions. Keep your life energy flowing freely through your third chakra and the light and heat of your intentions will radiate on the world.

The Fourth Center: Heart Chakra

The heart chakra represents the unifying energy of love and compassion. Known as anahata, it is located at the center of the chest. The heart chakra is dedicated to overcoming separation and division. When the heart center is blocked, there is a sense of alienation from others. When the heart center is open and flowing, you feel connected at a deep level to all beings in your life.

The Law of Giving and Receiving governs the heart chakra. Love can take many different forms at different stages of life. The love of child for her mother is different than a mother’s love for her child. A friend’s love is different than that of a passionate lover or the love of a student for his teacher. However so, the common thread in each of these expressions of love is the impulse to unify—to overcome separation. This is the nature of the heart.

Every act of giving is simultaneously an act of receiving. Each time you welcome a gift into your life, you are providing the opportunity for someone to give. Just as a healthy physical heart receives blood from the periphery which it then oxygenates and pumps back out, your emotional heart stays healthy by receiving and giving love in all its forms.

The Fifth Center: Expression Chakra

The throat chakra, called visshuddha in Sanskrit, is the center of expression. When the fifth chakra is open and flowing, you have the confidence that you are capable of communicating your needs. When the fifth chakra is obstructed, a person will often feel that they are not being heard. In order to feel alive and empowered, it’s important that this energy center is clear. Blockages in this area are often associated with thyroid problems or chronic neck pain.

The Law of Detachment governs the throat chakra. An open fifth chakra enables you to express your truth without concern for censors or critics. This does not mean you say things that are intentionally hurtful or insensitive. On the contrary, people with open centers of communication are skillful in expressing their needs in ways that are life supporting. Anxiety over how people will react to your views does not arise when energy is flowing freely through the chakra of expression.

The Law of Detachment reminds you that you can choose your words and actions, but you cannot control the response to your words and action. When your intentions are clear, and your heart is open, you will spontaneously demonstrate right speech trusting that the universe will handle the details.

The Sixth Center: Intuition Chakra

The intuition chakra, known in Sanskrit as ajna, is located in the forehead. It is the center of insight and intuition. When this center is open, you have a deep sense of connection to your inner voice, and feel guided in your choices. When blocked, there is a sense of self-doubt and distrust. The opening of this chakra is usually associated with a clear sense of connection to ones dharma, or purpose in life.

The Law of Dharma or Cause and Effect governs the sixth chakra. You have within you a wise voice guiding you to express the highest aspects of your nature. Listen to this still inner voice, which is guiding you to manifest your full potential. Quiet the internal turbulence that is filled with the voices of others so you can identify the sound of your own soul. It has only one desire—for you to remember your essential nature as a spark of the divine.

The Seventh Center: Consciousness Chakra

The consciousness chakra, known as dahaswara, is visualized as a lotus flower at the crown of the head. When the lotus unfolds its petals, the memory of wholeness is restored. Remember that your essential nature is unbounded, and that you are spirit in disguise as a person. This is the full expression of yoga – the unification of being with action, of universality with individuality.

The Law of Pure Potentiality governs the seventh chakra. When your roots are receiving nourishment from the earth in the first chakra, your creative juices are flowing in the second, your intentions are empowered in the third, your heart is open and exchanging love with those around you in the fourth, you are spontaneously expressing your highest self in the fifth, you are in touch with your inner voice in the sixth, only then, does energy move into the crown chakra and you remember your essential nature as infinite and unbounded. The thousand-petaled lotus flower unfolds and you know yourself as a spiritual being temporarily localized to a body and mind.

The Yoga of Meditation The Upanishads tell us, “As great as the infinite space beyond is the space within the lotus of the heart.” From the time of your birth, you have been called to explore the world outside of you. Meditation is the exploration of your inner world. Yoga encourages you to be as familiar with your inner world of thoughts, feelings, memories, desires, and imagination as you are with the outer world. When you can move through both the inner and outer domains of life with freedom and joy, you fulfill the highest purpose of yoga.

Deepak Chopra, M.D. co-founded the Chopra Center for Wellbeing in 1996 with the late Dr. David Simon, who co-wrote this article and the book The Seven Spiritual Laws of Yoga. You can learn more by visiting the Chopra Center’s resource page.

Tidings of Joy Custom Elixir!


I forgot to mention to all my Chakra Center followers that Soul Sister Alchemy is now offering a small, custom aromatherapy elixir for the holiday season called “Tidings of Joy!.”

There are only two more days left to order (to receive this lil’ gift of magic by Christmas).
Here is a an except from the website:

“Experience the magic and enchantment of the holidays with your own personal channeled message and aromatherapy blend!

Simply tell us your Christmas wish (for yourself or the recipient of your gift) and we will create a custom aromatherapy blend and personal channeled message. These elixirs are created to facilitate a positive shift in your subtle energy and tune your vibrations to your highest intentions for the New Year!

This alchemical holiday elixir is only $33! A perfect gift for family and friends! Your aromatherapy blend will be intuitively chosen by Athena with three potent essential oils to symbolize the 3 gifts given by the Wise Men to the infant Jesus.

***To receive your order by Christmas, order by December 17th!”

In other news, as many of you may have noticed not much activity has been happening on Chakra Center. This is all due to some major life renovations. Much beautiful change IS coming. I promise. Stay-tuned!

Wednesday’s Wondrous World: Perseverance

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Perseverance is the difference between a fleeting notion and the pursuit of an idea.  Our ability to persevere is another self-made wonder of the wondrous world.

Perseverance is not simply having an idea, it is moving forward in making the intangible idea into a tangible thing.  It is a part of the means to the ends.

Dictionary.com defines perseverance thus:


1.steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement.


Perseverance is the course of action, the purpose – for example, choosing your own way.  Making your own decisions and choices in regards to pursuing the destiny you most want to find.

I do not want to sit back and let my life just happen…I want to make it happen.  I do not want others choosing for me…I want to make the choices.  I do not want my emotions to be a result of the influences of the world around me…I want to choose how I will feel.  I want, ultimately, to be content with my life, and happy with the choices I am making for it.

Yes, there will be bad days. You get doubtful, and frustrated when progress is not what you might desire it to be.  But this is just a part of human nature.  Even the happiest, most satisfied people in the world are not in that state absolutely all the time.


That is why you persevere.  That is why you make the efforts you make, you strive for the journey and the ultimate goal.  Ultimately, you want to be happy and satisfied, and that is worth striving for.

I look at the world in the way I have always wanted to.  It is not a nightmare place filled with terrible people, tragedies and horrors…it is a world of endless possibilities, of good people, of possibilities and beauty and wonders.  Yes, it is imperfect, yes there ARE all the bad things out there as well as the good, but I can see the world for all its positives more than its negatives.

Turning a blind eye to the adversities of the world?  Wearing rose-colored glasses?  NO.  I see that there are horrid people and awful things in the world perfectly clearly.  But I am not giving them my focus, not giving them my energies, not giving them my attentions and intentions.  I am persevering instead to look at the good people and wonderful things in the world.  And frankly, without those negatives, we would be incapable of seeing the positives.

I am persevering still.  Are you?


(Note to the reader:  If you also visit my blog, you will see that this week’s Pathwalking is a variation of this same post.  I believe the topic of the self is so important, I wanted to spread it to a wider audience.)



Me 3-25-13 smallerI am MJ Blehart,  “Wednesday’s Wondrous World” author and photographer (these shots are the progression of the hike up Camelback Mountain in Phoenix, Arizona).  Every week I share a magical wonder of this amazing world, and I hope you will enjoy the journey with me!

Check out my blog, The Ramblings of a Titanium Don, for more of my work.

Also now available, Pathwalking: A 21st Century Philosophy in Book and Kindle form!

How Our Brain 4-D Prints Reality


Let’s Shift our brain’s processing to 4D!

Originally posted on The Committed Parent:

“We do not see things as they are. We see things as we are.”                    ~ The Talmud

Okay, this is a hard one. Why? Because the world feels real … and solid … and mostly outside of everything I consider to be me. But let’s begin with a brief, simple example.

The Love Emporium
Ollie’s Love Emporium

I recently built a small outbuilding in our woods: “Ollie’s Love Emporium.” It’s a segregation pen and a small building for visiting female Bernese Mountain dogs in heat for the breeding business my wife has recently started up. It’s made of real wood and metal and glass, and you can touch it and walk inside it. But interestingly when we showed the Love Emporium to three different people they each had their own take on it. Zack, who’s exhausted from being a primary caregiver for his ill significant other, said, “What a great retreat…

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