When we don’t own how we feel, when we don’t take responsibility for our emotions and accept them without judgment (even the negative ones) we disempower ourselves. We make other people responsible for our emotions and then we feel powerless to the effect their attitude has on us (for good or for ill).
The problem with shifting the responsibility of our emotions onto the world “out there” is that it leaves us with no other option but to blame, fight, and resent.
As empaths, it is especially crucial not to fall into the trap of blaming others for how we feel. Just because we may be able to pick up on the emotions and feelings of others, does not make our emotional stability their responsibility or their fault (and vice versa). We are the only ones that have the power and insight to recognize how we feel, validate it, and do what we need to do to take care of ourselves. Nobody else has the capacity to do it for us. If we don’t do it, it won’t get done.
Of course, we don’t always know how we feel. Sometimes we don’t realize how we feel until days, sometimes weeks after an event occurs. That’s okay. It just means we’re out of practice with listening to our emotional selves. Start asking yourself every day, every 5 minutes if you have to, “How do I feel?
“What do I need?”
Validation of our emotions is crucial. While friends/family, therapists, etc. can be amazing tools for helping us learn to validate ourselves, ultimately WE have to have the final say on whether or not our emotions are valid (and they are!). If we don’t validate (once and for all) that EVERY EMOTION we feel belongs here (even if it may be out of context), we will constantly feel the need to seek that validation from the outside world around us. And that is the ultimate form of disempowerment.
Yes. Sometimes we need reminders. We’re human. We’ve all been programed to believe we are powerless. We’ve all bought into the lie that to care about how we feel is “selfish” and that sacrificing our needs for the needs of others is some kind of holy virtue. And of course, altruism is a beautiful thing. But not at the expense of our health. If we don’t take care of ourselves, we’ll have NOTHING to offer the world – and certainly not the best parts of us– and that is the truly selfish crime.
At those times we do feel we need support and validation from those around us, we can – by all means – seek it out. But it’s important for us to remember that sometimes the best “support” will come in the form of nobody validating us – nobody showing up. In fact, it is in those times where we feel utterly alone and abandoned that we often find our greatest strength. The truth is, in some cases, not having support is exactly what we need to finally recognize how crucial it is for us to show up for ourselves. That’s when we find out what we’re made of.
We all must come to a point where we realize, if we don’t validate/love/take care of our emotions, nobody else will. It is in those times where we realize we DO have what it takes to love ourselves, and THAT is when true healing can begin.
When you are feeling invalidated and unsupported by the world around you, remember that you are your greatest guide and the world around you (no matter WHAT the circumstances may be) is your greatest teacher. YOU have strength within you (and the power of Source/Love/God). You have access to that unending fountain of hope, love, and support and it is CRUCIAL that you find it. It is within. As Jesus said, “the kingdom of God is within you.” It is when we take responsibility for ourselves that we can truly begin our journey to the kingdom inside our own hearts.
In order to feel empowered and truly heal we must take responsibility for:
*How we feel
*What we need (and give ourselves that)
*What we are creating
WE are the creators of our lives. Every day each thought/feeling/inspiration/decision we make is literally shaping our future.
Take the driver’s seat of your life. Start caring about how you feel and what you need above all else. Begin to believe you have something within you that is truly worth giving to the world, and it’s not the half-empty, run-down “self-sacrificer” you’ve been told you have to be, but something FAR more powerful, loving, and inspiring.
How you feel matters. You matter. Own that and experience the wonder of true empowerment.
More goodness from Lotus Effect. I’ve been actively/consciously making a lot of internal/external shifts in my life, and I have to say, it’s amazing how quickly our point of attraction changes when we tune into the frequencies that feel good, rather than carry around and listen to the same ol’ junk we’ve somehow believed is inescapable. I wrote this article to explain how making some simple changes can drastically change our lives. I’d love to hear your experience with this as well!
3 Important Tips to Raise Your Vibration
There’s been a lot of talk in the spiritual community about frequency. Frequency is the measurable rate of electrical energy flow constant between any two points. Energetically, it is impossible for two opposing frequencies to share the same space. In other words, in order to hear what is broadcasting on 94.9 FM one cannot be listening to 94.9 AM.
Everything in existence carries frequency, or what many in the esoteric world call an “energy signature.” Your own body/health/emotions, etc. emit frequencies (which are actually scientifically measurable). Emotions such as sadness, fear, grief, and loneliness, all vibrate at a low frequencies, while feelings of joy, love, and hope rank high on the frequency scale.
Why is this important to know? At any given time the frequency your very body emits will attract a matching frequency in the environment around you. It’s basic physics. So all this talk about the law of attraction does have a scientific basis. It’s measurable. And understanding how this works is key.
By now we’ve all come to recognize the value our emotions play in overall health. Daily prioritizing our emotions is crucial, but using our feelings and thoughts to attract more good things into our lives isn’t the only thing we can do to raise our vibration. Clearing things out of our environment that have a low energy signature can help facilitate a shift in our lives, as well as paying attention to the frequency of the things we put on and in our body.
Here are 3 important tips to help raise your vibration and overall energetic health:
Eat high vibe food: Organic, living food free from cruelty vibrates at a much higher frequency than the pesticide ridden, torture induced food most Americans consume. Remember, the frequency of the energy you eat attracts more of the same energy, so eating low energy foods makes your body more vulnerable to illness and depressing emotions. Eating high vibe food is crucial to overall mental and emotional health.
Clean and organize your surroundings: Have you considered what’s in the environment around you? Are your surroundings messy and chaotic? Do you have pictures on the wall or music playing that feel low vibe? Take a look around. Everything (even inanimate objects) project a frequency, and those frequencies are attracting like frequencies. If something in your environment feels negative, remove it. You don’t have to keep things around that drain your life force.
Pay attention to what you put on your body: What about what goes on your body? Are the shampoos, soaps, and clothes you put on your skin vibrating at a low or high frequency? Many people don’t pay attention to what they put on their skin because they labor under the false idea that things external from us are somehow separate. Not true.
The skin is the largest organ in the body and is our immune system’s first defense. Quantumly speaking, the skin is just a frequency, not an actual solid barrier that separates us from the outside world. If what you put on your skin is high frequency in nature, it goes to follow it would naturally assist in attuning your body to higher frequencies within.
Apart from wearing environmentally friendly fabrics (hopefully not produced from slave labor), one of the best ways to raise the frequency on the surface of your body is with essential oils. “Clinical research shows essential oils have the highest frequency of any natural substance known to man, creating an environment in which disease, bacteria, virus, fungus, etc., cannot live.” (healingpress.com). Because the chemistry and frequency of essential oils can greatly affect the overall energetic signature of your body, they can be an important part of a daily routine to keep your vibes high.
What makes aromatherapy such a powerful health advocate is its connection to the central nervous system and the limbic portion of the brain associated with memory, mood, instinct, and emotion. When we inhale these powerful frequencies, olfactory receptors in our nostrils transmits the energy message to our limbic system and the response is triggered at a deeper cellular level. This is perhaps why smell has been called our most powerful connection to memory.
Scents our nose picks up can immediately put us in a high or low vibe state – the response is instantaneous. Essential oil mists are a great thing to keep with you at all times. Spray yourself (and your environment) with a dose of these high vibes any time you feel your energy getting low. Just make sure they are organic, pure essential oils (free from hazardous chemicals).
Healthy eating, emotional validation, clean products, positive environments, and aromatherapy are some of the most important things to consider when trying to maintain a high vibration. As we dive deeper into the nature of true health, we see it is much more holistic and connected than we’ve been led to believe. So what kind of frequency are you emitting today? What frequency are you tuning in to? The answer to these questions will shape and define your entire experience so you may want to pay close attention.
So many of us are disconnected from the present moment. We regret the past and worry about the future. We spend way too much time in feared and imagined possibilities and potentials that we cease to see what is manifested right before us. I wrote about this a couple weeks back for LOTUS EFFECT and I thought I’d share it today for all of my readers on CHAKRA CENTER.
3 Tips for Being in the Now
The power of now is unlimited potential. In this moment you get to choose. What perspective do you want to have about your life? Where do you want to direct your focus? What you choose to do with your now will shape and direct your entire future. Now is the only thing that truly exist.
Dragging the past into the present drains the now of its power. Past pain, disappointments, fears, patterns, all of them are simply our journey of growth and expansion. They only have the power to affect the now if we allow them to. Our past doesn’t belong now. The now is for the NEW.
What if you left the past in the past and allowed your now to be a clean slate? Doing this does not require you to bypass your emotions, ignore trauma or wounds, or even deny the way the past has lent itself to your current situation. Being in the now simply gives you the freedom to have a new perspective. What meaning are you giving the past? Is that meaning true?
The now invites you to release your judgments and comparisons about the past and realize the gift of the moment. Every moment is new. The now is where you hold all your power and that power is perspective. You can ALWAYS choose how you will see the world – what meaning you will give to each passing moment.
If you have trouble keeping the past in the past, here are 3 tips to help change your perspective:
Acknowlege and validate all past wounds and traumas. Often those who bring their past in the future have never actually validated their pain, but hold on like hell to their story and conclusion about it. This is what a “victim mentality” truly is. If we can’t validate and accept our wounds, we will always be a victim to them.
Question your beliefs about wounds. If a child is sexually abused, they may form a belief about themselves because of the trauma. Maybe they believe they deserved it or they are not worthy of love. Perhaps they conclude they are dirty or defiled. Although the pain that caused these beliefs is very real, the beliefs themselves don’t have to be. Is what you believe about yourself true? Can you gain another perspective? You must be brave enough to question everything about your current belief system if you want to utilize the full power of the “now.” Beliefs and judgments only serve as limitations. The beliefs around our wounds are what cause the true damage.
Get a new perspective. Now it’s time to tell a new story. Yes we’ve been wounded. Yes it matters. Yes we need time to heal. But we get to choose how we will define our pain. We can choose to allow it to make us stronger. What will your new perspective on life be? How do you want to see the world?
The past can hurt us, yes, but it does not have to rob us of our present. It does not need to define our now. Allow your NOW to be a new definition of your power. Let the power of your now shift your perspective and expand your beliefs about what is possible. Utilize its abundant potential. Now is all there is. Use it wisely.
You know those people who seem perfectly nice and you feel as if you should be just fine spending time with them, and yet you do not like interacting with them and feel yucky or drained afterward? Even if they may love being around you?
The reason that you feel icky is that these folks are not watching their energetic hygiene. This is a skill not taught in our culture – as long as we smile, talk politely, and remain within the cultural balance taught in the physical world, energetic bullying, messiness, projection, and pulling is not mentioned nor is it brought consciously into balance by most people in our world.
Not only will this course address how to deal with others with sub-par energetic hygiene, it will help us to make sure our OWN auras are shiny, bright, and integrated harmoniously with those around us. We have all had our moments of being “energetically stinky” and this course is designed to help you become conscious of what you are participating in energetically at all times, so you can direct what you are giving and receiving with full lucidity.
The truth is that our world is NOT always butterflies and rainbows.
Each of us has a shadow side that, when not integrated, can sabotage our efforts at balance, joy, and prosperity. When integrated, however, these shadow aspects simply become more notes in the harmonic chord that each of our presences on this planet create, allowing us to heal ourselves and those around us with our clarity, love, understanding, compassion, and the way we embrace our own unique power and responsibility here.
A taste of the course: Day 1: The Importance of Owning and Honoring Your Inner Shade… Day 3: Allowing Our Power to be Perceived…
Enrollment in the course includes a free garnet amulet necklace.
A huge part of the course will be in charging this stone with intentions (matching its natural clarification and transmutation properties) that align with course objectives.
This work is real and intense – and the crystal will hold the vibrations of what we do here, assisting you in continued integration indefinitely after the course has come to an end.
Every individual is unique and the variations in their lives and life choices are physical manifestations of the distinctive energy, essence, and disposition they possess. When an individual is searching for mental and emotional healing modalities, there is a need for therapy that is personal, effective, cost efficient, and uplifting so the person can move forward with their life in a positive way; emotional freedom techniques (EFT) surpass those expectations.
What Is EFT?
EFT is rooted in energy psychology, applying Ancient Chinese medicine theology, which focuses on the body’s energy grid. The energy grid utilizes pathways and nodal points through which your chi, or life force, flows. This theory states a traumatic event, negative psychological conditioning, or other experiences can cause a disruption in your energy flow through a blockage or imbalance, prohibiting the proper flow of chi; when your chi is imbalanced or blocked, mental and emotional illnesses, disorders, and issues will arise.
Gary Craig, the founder of the EFT technique, discovered by employing these medicinal philosophies, you would be able to tap specific acupressure points, the meridian or nodal points on the body’s energy grid, releasing the blockage and bringing your body’s energy flow back into a state of homeostasis.
However, EFT doesn’t just make use of acupressure point stimulation; this technique incorporates other psychotherapies already being used in conventional cognitive behavioral therapies, such as relaxation and memory recall, causing a long term cognitive restructuring within the brain.
When your brain reconstructs its cognitive processes, you no longer process thoughts or emotions the way you did before, meaning you can nullify the negative feelings or reactions you currently have, or have had for years, resulting in a neutral reaction to the same memory or situation when successfully employing EFT.
What The Research Says
EFT has proven to be a useful technique for a wide variety of disorders or illnesses; in various studies, EFT has successfully treated anxiety disorders, depression, hostility, aggression, posttraumatic stress disorder, addictions, phobias, eating disorders, obsessive compulsive disorders, panic, attention deficit disorder, hypertension, social anxiety, career issues, and somatoform disorders. EFT also has improved colds, headaches, joint pains, arthritis, chronic fatigue syndrome, rashes, lower cortisol levels, irritable bowel syndrome, and fibromyalgia. Let’s take a look at some of these studies and experiments a little closer.
In a case study cited by Feinstein (2010), a 52 year old woman with stage IV breast cancer decided against conventional medicine interventions and instead used EFT on numerous personal issues that surfaced after she was diagnosed. The patient received six clinical EFT tapping sessions, lasting 60 to 90 minutes in length, then continued to use the methods daily until a follow up examination eight months after the diagnosis; the appointment revealed no trace of cancer, but some scar tissue where the cancer had been (Feinstein et al., 2010).
Stapleton, Sheldon, Porter, and Whitty (2011) conducted a randomized clinical trial on the effects EFT exerted over food cravings, the perceived power of food, psychological symptoms, and will power of 96 overweight and obese adults. When the researchers initially retested the participants, immediately after receiving their EFT treatment, the participants had significant reductions in food cravings, food wielded less power over the participants, and will power was improved. The improvements in cravings and the power of food were maintained at the six month follow-up.
Another randomized controlled study performed by Church, Brooks, and DeAsis (2012) with 30 first-year psychology students scoring in the moderate to severely depressed ranges on the Beck Depression Inventory. The participants in the experimental group received four EFT sessions of 90 minutes; the treatment proved to be both clinically and statistically significant, as the average post treatment depression score of the EFT condition group resulted in not depressed.
In a controlled pilot study by Benor, Ledger, Toussaint, and Hett (2009) with Canadian college students with severe to moderate test anxiety, EFT accomplished benefits equal to that of five cognitive behavioral therapy sessions.
Click here for images of brain scans from an experiment by Andrade and Feinstein (2004) using EFT treatments for participants with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD); these scans show the average brain scan procession over a course of four weeks with twelve sessions of EFT. The first scan is what an ideal brain scan looks like and the second scan is the average scan of the participants with (GAD) before they began EFT sessions; the brain scans progress toward their natural or ideal homeostasis state through EFT, reducing dysfunctional brain wave frequencies.
This study contrasted EFT with cognitive behavioral therapy, combined with medication when necessary, as a control mechanism. The EFT participants were more likely to maintain their new functional brain wave patterns compared to the cognitive behavioral group. Moreover, Andrade and Feinstein (2004) noted people treated with antianxiety medications did reduce their anxiety symptoms, but their brain scans maintained brain wave frequency dysfunction, implying the medication acts as a cosmetic layer without actually addressing the real issue(s).
How It Works
The research shows you the beginnings of the wide applications for EFT, but I want to explain to you why and how it works because there are several stratums to consider. The first level we will consider is the electroconductivity of the human body, then epigenetics, and finally the cognitive restructuring process.
Your body is a beautiful and amazing transmitter and receiver of energy as represented by its electromagnetic field. The human body produces electromagnetic fields with cells and tissues that can be measured on the skin, while all of our organs produce biomagnetic energy.
Within these energy fields, diseases and disturbances can often be measured before their physical symptoms can be detected. EFT literally taps into these specific energy fields to redirect their flow in a proper, balanced manner, alleviating electromagnetic and biomagnetic fields of disturbances and blocks.
Epigenetics is a subfield of genetic research, exposing an inherent variability within genetic expression previously thought impossible. Your DNA does not actually come with a concrete, inflexible blueprint dictating your every thought, action, and countenance; conversely, it is a vast set of probabilities, combining information from your default genetic expression, your thoughts, your beliefs, your behaviors, and your environmental and biochemical influences.
All of these inputs interact on the cellular level, communicating with the entirety of your body about the information received,responding by activating or deactivating the potentials within your unique genetic expression. This is why over time identical twins, people born with duplicate DNA, begin to look different; each individual has their own experiences, psychology, and environmental exposures offering an alternative expression of active and inactive genetic potentials.
As epigenetics proves genetic and cellular expression is affected by conscious thought and behavioral inputs, EFT offers somatic and cognitive inputs that activate positive, balanced potentials, while deactivating genetic potentials expressing imbalance and harm.
Researchers and practitioners assert the physical activity with the activation of mental processes alters the targeted response because the stimulation of acupressure points transmits signals to the amygdala and related brain structures, reducing hyperarousal to the given stimulus or memory; the brain then reconsolidates the memory, cognition, feeling, or mental picture, while the newly reduced or absent hyperarousal is retained as the new reaction to the initial stimuli (Feinstein, 2008).
Ruden (2010) asserts EFT techniques focusing on stress-producing cues, such as fear or traumatic memories, depotentiate the neural pathways maintaining maladaptive conditioned responses; this means the EFT techniques recode the conditioned responses that produce ill effects with desired behaviors or feelings. This creates a cognitive restructuring of the brain, so old paradigms no longer regulate your responses.
There is a basic EFT procedure, consisting of tapping on each of eight energy meridian points while using an affirmation statement that coincides with a memory or a feeling. The procession of tapping can vary depending on the therapist or practitioner you are working with, as can the affirmation statements.
Some practitioners use the industry standard, “Even though I have (or feel) this fear of rejection, I deeply and profoundly accept myself,” while other practitioners prefer a stream of consciousness dialogue. With the latter method, you would tap as you say whatever comes to mind that you would like to work with, using a shorter phrase to repeat as you continue to tap on the proceeding points to reinforce the issue you are working on.
Even though the sequence of point tapping may vary, I am going to share with you what has worked for me, which also seems to be the most common. As you repeat your chosen phrase or issue, you tap on your karate chop point, or the side of your hand, followed by the inside of your eyebrows, then the side of your eyes, the bone under your eyes, under the nose, between your lower lip and chin, then your collarbone point, under the arm, and then the top of the head. This would conclude one repetition.
You want to be sure not to tap too hard. You want to stimulate the meridians, but you do not want to cause bruising or pain. Look at the following chart for a visual representation of the proper tapping points.
Where Can I Learn It?
There are several ways to learn or administer EFT, such as with the help of a therapist or a certified EFT practitioner in both group and individual settings. If you are able, I suggest learning in a setting where you can have a certified EFT practitioner make sure you are accurately tapping your energy meridians. Because this method is so quick and easy to learn, you do not have to pour money into endless sessions with an EFT therapist. This is something you can do on your own, wherever and whenever you would like, empowering you in your health and healing.
If you decide to learn or try EFT, I suggest staying well hydrated to increase your biological electroconductivity and to do one session right before you go to bed. When you learn something new, or alter a pattern of thinking, and immediately go to sleep, you have several hours to integrate the new template in your brain without interruptions, resulting in a more effective and solidified change.
Spiritual & Personal Implications
By successfully implementing EFT into your daily routine, you empower yourself to take control over your emotions, thoughts, and how you choose to experience your life. Imagine eradicating irrational fears as they enter your consciousness or overcoming a traumatic event that has stifled some part of your life.
You no longer have to live captive to thought processes that do not serve your highest good or take medications that only serve as a temporary band aid while poisoning your system. You would not have to try to suppress negative emotions or thoughts because as they enter your awareness, you can safely and painlessly extinguish them.
By bringing balance and inner peace to your life, you offer more balance and peace to the world. Every energy field is interconnected, ebbing and flowing together to create an even larger field of energy. By correcting your energy flow, you aid in balancing the whole. You have the ability to heal yourself in many ways; EFT is quick, easy, cost effective, and encourages your unique zenith expression.
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**Disclaimer: Before engaging in any health program, it is best to contact a doctor or health provider you trust to make the best decision for your individual needs.**
Many of us struggle with the concept of forgiveness. Forgiveness seems pointless, permissive, and often times can feel like a betrayal of the self. However, when we struggle to forgive others, it’s usually not because the other party must be punished, nor is it usually because the anger and resentment is such a powerful tool we use to motivate ourselves so we can “show them.” Quite the contrary; when we struggle to forgive others, it’s most commonly indicative of our underlying inability to forgive ourselves for our transgressions against others and ourselves.
How Do We Start Punishing Ourselves?
When we engage in behavior that goes against our alignment, we are programmed to self-loathe. Do you remember being a child and being called ”bad” for something you weren’t supposed to do? Do you remember being expected to do exactly as you were told, and if not, then you were the “problem child?” Our childhoods are wrought with structures and social norms to make us belittle ourselves in an effort to be humble and to disregard the maintenance of our present self.
This doesn’t make our parents or caretakers bad people. It just means they weren’t the human conceptualization of perfect, and that is okay. What we need to realize is some of our belief systems or behavior processes simply aren’t useful for having the best life, nor creating the best world.
What Happens When We Don’t Forgive Ourselves?
This is perhaps the most important question to ask because if you are like I was, you might be thinking, “Well, it only hurts me if I don’t forgive myself. Besides, it really doesn’t hurt if I just don’t think about
it.” I used to fully believe that punishing myself for the things I wasn’t proud of was the best way to keep myself on track and to never again do those things. Let’s take a look at what is really going on though when we go through this punishment type of atonement.
If you want to live a happy, fulfilled life but you are engaging in behaviors and feelings of unforgiveness, you begin offering a contradictory vibration to the universe. Your conscious vibration might be a layer of happiness, contentment, and even excitement depending on your situation. However, there is an underlying, subconscious vibration of underserving, self-loathing, self-doubt, and self-depreciation.
These feelings create a lower frequency cumulative wave that goes out to the universe as your manifestation order from the Universal creative menu. What ends up coming to your life table either turns out to not be what you ordered or comes back with a bug in it. This not only affects your life, but also affects the world on both an energetic and physical level.
Everything in this world is made of energetic and matter components (more on this in my next article). Because we are biological energetic transmitters and channels, our energetic outputs affect our environments and the entire universe. Once we manifest those energetic outputs into our physical space, we’ve created an energetic contract for that experience. It doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind, but what you’ve done is created the physical, sensorial experience you didn’t want.
Keep in mind, this can manifest in a number of ways, including: manifesting the situation you were fearful of, manifesting the right opportunity at the wrong time, manifesting almost the experience you wanted but it’s just not quite there, or even manifesting the experience you wanted and then engaging in self-sabotaging behavior. There are other scenarios, of course, but these are the big ones.
As you can see, in order to live in alignment, joy, and fulfillment, it’s important to go through the process of self-forgiveness.
How Do We Start Forgiving Ourselves?
You may be wondering, “What is the self-forgiveness process? How can I overcome the years of programming, guilt, self-sabotage, suboptimal manifesting, and unhealthy emotional processing?” Luckily, I’m going to tell you.
Forgiving yourself is an expression of self-love and self-acceptance. That does not mean you accept or condone your behavior. Instead, you are choosing to acknowledge and take responsibility for your “out of alignment” decisions.
In order to forgive yourself, you need to do the inner work which led you to the original decision to begin with; it is important to note that the “why” of things is not always important, but if you can notice your own patterns and triggers, then you can develop new healthy habits and ways of dealing with these instigative situations.
The next step is to realize the person you are in this moment, is not the person you were in the previous moment. While your actions had consequences, you do not have to atone for those actions through self-loathing tactics of any kind. Atonement is more effective when done through the acknowledgement of your out of alignment choice, integrating all of the lessons learned from that experience, and choosing to expand from that experience into a newer, more aligned version of yourself.
When you choose the path of self-forgiveness, you choose the path of expansion, self-worth, and empathy for the human experience. We did not come here to be perfect, we came here to learn and come back into self-love after seeing ourselves through the veil of separateness and imperfection.
I will leave you with a quote of my belief about life and I hope it will inspire you to fully love and forgive yourself in every moment of every day. ” I believe life is all about learning to unabashedly, unconditionally love yourself because when you love the creation and the infinite spark of Source, you are glorifying all of divinity.”
I want you to consider an area of your life, or specific experience, where you’re having a difficult time forgiving yourself. You can either share that experience in the comments below, or choose to go through the process of forgiving yourself and share that experience. We’d love to hear about your experiences with self-forgiveness.
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I love creating energy orbs. In fact, it’s one of the primary forms of energy work I do at Soul Sister Alchemy.I also teach my students how to do it as well, and I’ve seen some profound and potent effects come from these powerfully charged orbs.
Today I thought I’d share this simple technique with my readers here at Chakra Center. Feel free to send in stories of your experience with this. I’d love to hear how it works for you!
How to Create a “Love Orb”:
First of all, what is an orb? In the context of this exercise, an orb is an energetic medicine capsule (so to speak) you visually place around your body (through meditation). These orbs are set to remain around you for a predetermined period of time to help smooth your aura and raise your vibration.
You can use these orbs for any intention you choose, but today’s orb is intended to put your love energy in a healthy, powerful state.
*To prepare for this meditation, you will first need to grab a pen and paper and begin making a list of all things you love and appreciate. It can be anything from your favorite color or flower, to a beautiful sunset, or an experience or memory from you past. Write down anything and everything you can think of, and as you’re writing, allow yourself to feel the vibration of each thing you write. Allow the vibration to each memory/thing to fully encompass you.
Using your list of things you love, you will do a visual meditation to create an energetic “orb” around your etheric, energetic, and physical bodies. Please read over the instructions a couple times before doing the visual meditation so you understand how to proceed:
Before doing the meditation, make sure you have your ‘love list” next to you. Read over everything you listed and try to *feel* the energy of each item again. Notice where you feel the emotion in your body. Take deep breaths and breathe the energy of happiness into your heart charka. Feel it expand.
Open all of your chakras and imagine a white light cleansing, opening, and expanding each energy point around your body. If you have experience working with your 8th, 9th, 10th, and 11th Chakras, feel free to open those as well.
Now ask your Higher Self to give you a stone (in your mind, of course. You will use this stone for the meditation). Trust the first impression that comes to you. It may be a specific type of crystal (like an amethyst or ruby) or a stone like an opal or onyx. If you don’t know the name of what you are given, that’s okay. Just memorize what it looks like and notice where you feel the vibration of it in your body. Write it down on your list.
Now, imagine an orb forming from your heart Chakra around your entire body (keep “breathing” into it until it is about 3 feet around you in every direction). Imbue the orb with any color you want – whatever makes you the happiest – whatever intensifies your feeling of safety, peace, and harmony.
Using the list you created, begin visually adding each item into the orb you’ve created around your body. Essentially, you are adding the energetic vibration of each of “ingredient.” As you put each item into your orb, notice and relish in the “feeling” of each vibration. Notice where you feel their energy in your body. Allow their energy to fully absorb and blend with your aura, your energy, and your vibration. Make sure you add everything on your list and anything else you feel inspired to include.
Remember, these “ingredients” for your orb don’t have to be limited to “things” (like your favorite color, flower, or animal) they can be intangible ingredients like an experience you’ve had, a song that makes you feel good, or just a emotions you like. Don’t put any limitations on your joy. Whatever raises your vibration and brings you a sense of peace and love, add.
Once you’ve finished adding all of your ingredients, you will inject your “orb” with raw honey (or tree sap, whichever feels right to you). This thick, amber like substance will act as a binder, holding together the energy of all the ingredients in your orb.
Visualize the golden liquid going into your orb and feel its soothing, therapeutic vibration. Notice how it makes you feel. Allow yourself to see, feel, taste, sense the energy of what is occurring around you. In a very literal sense, these energies are changing your vibration.
Finally, take the stone your Guides or Higher Self gave you, and trace the outer layer of your orb. See the stone drawing a thick line around your orb in its unique color. The energy of your particular stone will seal in the energies of this orb to keep it active and intact around you for its allotted time (I recommend looking-up the meaning/healing properties of your stone before you do the meditation. Every time I do this I am amazed that the stone my Guides give me always match the exact frequency of the healing I intend for the orb).
Now set the intention for this orb to remain around you for whatever amount of time you feel led to set (I usually do anywhere from 3 to 7 days). Through the allotted period, take time each day to feel and notice the orb around your body.
Keep a journal of how you feel. Notice anything and everything you experience in your energetic, emotional, etheric, and physical bodies. In a very real sense, this orb is set to smooth out the rough edges and help heal your energy. When the medicine of the orb is finished working its magic on you, the outer layer you set with the stone will begin to crumble way and your incubated love energy will be dispersed into the quantum field while your own individual energy will harmonize and reintegrate at a higher frequency/vibration than it was before you did the meditation.
You can repeat this meditation as needed and alter it in any way you feel guided to do so. This is a basic template I use for the healing work I do at Soul Sister Alchemy, and I have to tell you, it has profound effects on people.
It is important that our energy is always in a high, loving state. This is just as important (if not more so) than recycling or taking care of the planet – when you take care of your own energetic field, you are doing your part in respecting the field of Universal Consciousness. You are not separate from anyone or anything around you. We are all quantumly entangled. Everything you think and feel affects Universal Consciousness, so know that loving yourself is loving all of us. By taking care of your energy, you are taking care of the world. Happy loving!
The funny thing about life is it never really happens quite how you think it will. The way I see it, we can either be dragged along kicking and screaming resisting the whole thing, or we can walk along gracefully with the current, accepting what is without giving up hope for what could be. This is far more obvious on paper (or screen) than it is in 3D life.
It has been my experience that we reach many points in our lives where we can take the “easy” path or the “hard” path.
Logic dictates taking the easy path makes more sense. In our society generally we are taught that taking the hard path yields more abundant and fruitful results.
Whether this is 100% true or not is totally up to you but just form observing my life for the past 26 years, I can tell that this really isn’t the case.
I started out accepting what came to me with open arms and very thankful for the experiences I received. I went from one synchronicity to the next not really worrying about what happened next. No one taught me to be this way, that’s just how I operated.
Then I got involved in an organization that taught me to “dream big.” I was very involved in dream building and searching for what would really make me happy.
I consider this a great skill of manifestation in my current life even though this organization didn’t really have any idea of how to make these dreams become 3D reality.
It never dawned on me that I was already happy.
Yes there were things I wanted to accomplish and experiences that I worked towards but I was just as happy getting there as I was when I got there.
Once I left this organization I felt very different. My old way of doing things seemed wrong some how and I felt totally lost.
I wandered for a few years after that becoming more and more detached.
I was angry that I had acquired all these wants without the know how to do anything about it until I finally just gave up.
I worked jobs that I hated with people that disrespected and abused me.
I ate food that made me feel like crap and I watched TV shows that made me feel like I never had enough.
I fought with everyone I knew, hurt those that I loved and gave up everything that I cared about. This was and still is my personal rock bottom.
In retrospect, it’s not really that bad, not now. At the time it was hell and I made it that way. Plenty of other people go through much worse in their lives and my heart goes out to them. I truly hope they pay attention to the signs that lead them out of that place like I did. It took everything crashing down (somewhat literally) around me for me to wake up and start to care about myself again.
But all of that taught me so many vital lessons that I would never give up. I learned to listen to myself again, to trust myself and most importantly of all, to love myself.
Had my life not gone totally in the crapper I wouldn’t have learned these things with such intensity that they were fused into my soul.
Coming full circle was the most valuable experience of all.
Not only am I back to where I started, now I have the understanding and wisdom to truly appreciate where I was supposed to be all along, exactly where I am.
The Saturday Post: Jamie Mortinson, self proclaimed renaissance women extraordinaire, tackles life with the same fortitude as her handicapped house duck. Together they fly through the realms of spirituality and self expression in almost every way possible. From organic gardening and duck farming to painting and crochet, no part of life’s “creation-fest” is off limits. Interior design, wild edible foods, reading, writing, cooking, self-sufficiency, photography, meditation, yoga and a general love of life encompass nearly all of her time. Those moments not promised to her passions are extended to her husband, and their celestial children: a dog, two cats, and lots of ducks and chickens. She resides in Wisconsin but her home is the world and all the people in it are her family.
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Most of us don’t have the means to receive bodywork as much as we’d like or need to. Whether it be more sound sleep, decreased anxiety, increased blood flow, flush of toxins, more agility through lengthened muscles, or touch healing – the benefits are endless! Setting aside some time in the week for your own personal pampering is an act of self love. We can experience much greater heights in our lives when we feed of this art.
However, I feel the greatest benefit to bodywork is pushing through energetic blockages in the body, which then allows energy to flow through us more swiftly, enabling us to be a circuit of constantly renewed energy and an inviting channel for The Higher Self.
This week, I’m going to share a few cheap and simple goodies with you so you can experience some yummy pampering at home. Most of us aren’t fully aware of how much tension we have built up in our bodies, but once someone or something touches the area of tension…we cringe with awareness.
Becoming aware of your body is yet another way to become aware of your inner landscape (I look at it as a more “physical” type of shadow work).
With these crafty remedies, you can discover your tensions first person and be present with yourself in the release of your trigger points (knots) – giving yourself credit for all of it. It is empowering and a perfect way to embody bliss.
1. Exercise and stretching
Trigger points have been known to show up through overuse or underuse of muscles, but there is always a weakness within the system which made it possible for the imbalance to appear in the first place. Whatever the weakness may be, exercise such as walking or running is a fantastic way to get the bodies energy moving and changing. It raises the body’s vibration. It aids in excreting blockages and toxins that are built up and harbored in muscles.
Stretching is heaven. It calms, prepares, awakens, elongates, and rejuvenates muscles. Stretching IS release. Both exercise and stretching are healing art forms in and of themselves. Feed of them!
2. Tennis or Reflexology balls
Tennis or reflexology balls are wonderful tools for massage or trigger point release. Tennis balls are easier to access, but reflexology balls are usually made of a better material for our goal and have little protuberances for better grip. You can start by rolling around on them, using the weight of your own body. When you’ve found a tender spot – stay on it – breathe deep into the muscle and give it permission to let go. Once the pain has mostly subside, you can let it be and move on. Don’t overwork a trigger point, it can fester and become worse.
I especially love to roll around on a single tennis ball on my back, hip, and gluteal muscles. Some also like to put two tennis balls inside of a tube sock and tie a knot at the end, like so:
You can then lay yourself down on the sock, with the tennis balls sufficiently spaced on each side of your spine (DO NOT press anything directing on your spine, ever) and make gentle rocking movements.
A lot of people love sitting a while with the paired tennis balls wedged at the base of their occipital ridge, it’s a huge release for mental and emotional stress.
3. Bouncy balls
When was that last time you thought of these? Perhaps the last time you visited an arcade vending machine…in the early 90’s. Bouncy balls can be used just like the tennis balls, if you desire – but it seems that most people use them for their feet. However, remember that no matter which method you are using; the smaller the ball, the more fine and acute pressure you will experience on any given point. Pin the ball to the ground with your foot and roll it around. Find the spots that hurt-so-good!
If you haven’t heard of reflexology; it is an alternative healing modality that claims the feet to be a map of the entire body and you can press certain points that correspond with that part of the body for healing purposes.
Here is a simple chart for you:
Some charts vary drastically and some are much more detailed than others. Find a reflexology book or search online for the chart that your body says “yes” to.
4. Rolling pins or foam rollers
Dig through your cupboards for the old fashioned rolling pin and strip your tight muscles into a supple dough! This works best for the IT band, quadriceps and hamstrings.
You can also buy a foam roller that is designed for this type of thing, like you see in this picture below. The only difference between this and a rolling pin is you are using your whole body to maneuver the weight distribution, not just your arm strength.
5. Scalp massagers
Scalp massage is by far my favorite to receive. It’s so relaxing and pampering. I’m convinced that if we all got a daily scalp massage, we’d be an immensely less stressed species. There are some extremely cheap scalp massagers on the market that all look similar to this:
This tool gives you just as much of a tickle as it does a massage. It stimulates the scalp, relaxes the mind, and rejuvenates your senses. And if you don’t feel like doing it on yourself, it’s as simple as pie for someone else to assist you. I love this lil’ guy!
6. Body Back Buddy
Although I don’t have one, I’ve played with one, and know that it’s a seriously good tool to invest in. This isn’t the only version of this tool, so find the one for you. I’ll let you do the watching.
7. Self massage
Self massage can be a very meditative experience. I enjoy self massage on my scalp and abdomen the very most. If all of these make-shift methods fail, remember the greatest healer of all – you. Everyone has been given the sense and gift of touch. The touch of your hands can be very healing if done with a relaxed, tender, and loving intent.
Disclaimer: These are simply feel-good, at-home ideas for pampering and alternative healing, for those who want some extra attention. They should not be used as a substitute for any severe medical conditions and should always be performed carefully, with common sense and caution.
EmBody Bliss is a bi-weekly column written by intuitive massage therapist, Kierstie Leavitt.
Still thinking about joining the Writing to Heal and Embody the Higher Self online class? There’s still time! Class begins this Monday, January 14th and registration will close Sunday at midnight.
In this class we will use writing/meditation and other techniques to heal our thoughts, shift our focus our inner Kingdom, and learn to bring it forth!
For specific details click on the link above. You can also check out the class syllabus below for an idea of how the class will flow.
Writing to Heal and Embody the Higher Self Class Syllabus:
This is a four week online class dedicated to healing our thoughts, changing our focus, and bringing forth the kingdom within!
All you will need for this class is:
A notebook or journal (preferably one you will use just for this class)
A writing utensil
Access to Facebook
All assignments, conversation, videos, reminders – EVERYTHING – will be posted on our Facebook group private page:
Here’s the low down on each week:
Video every Monday and Friday: I will post a video on the Facebook page every Monday and Friday. In the video I will talk about the week’s assignments, stuff I’ve learned from the journey I’m taking you on, tools and techniques you can use, energy healing, and anything else that feels inspirational to add
Daily “Thankful” post: Each day from here until the end of the class (four weeks!) I am challenging you to post something in our Facebook forum that you are thankful for. But there’s a catch; your post cannot be general (“I am thankful for my family, friends, kids, etc), but rather specific (“I am thankful for my husband’s laugh because it always puts me in a good mood no matter what I’m feeling”.)
See the difference? The later causes you to pause and really consider what brings you joy – what you are truly thankful for in your life, and why. Make sure you include not only specifically what you are thankful for, but also why. The purpose of this exercise is to daily put our heart and mind in a state of appreciation. If you’re wondering what this has to do with healing, let me just say, it has EVERYTHING to with it (but we’ll get more into that later). And yes, I will be doing this with you.
Weekly Meditation: The primary assignment each week will be a meditation/writing exercise. The instructions for the assignment will be posted in a Word document on our Facebook page. These meditations will be posted on Monday, giving us the entire week to work through them and process them together as a class. We will be sharing our experiences on the Facebook page during the week of that particular assignment. Remember, this is a private page, so nobody will be able to see what you are posting. Because all of us will work at our own pace, I’m giving us the entire week to do these assignments, but make sure to visit the group page daily to post your day’s “Thankful” and look for any special posts/videos I may share with you.
Because the group is small it is vitally important that you keep-up with the weekly writing/meditation journeys. The class doesn’t really function the way it’s meant to if everybody is not participating. Remember, you have a week to do the meditation/assignment and post your experience so people can comment, give you feedback, and support you on your journey. It works best if you post your experiences with the meditation/assignment by Friday at the latest, so we have the weekend to process together.
Morning pages: No, they don’t actually need to be done in the morning (although it does help). In addition to the weekly meditations I give you, I encourage all of you to keep a daily notebook throughout the four week period to help you clear your mind, process any emotions/feelings that may be coming-up for you, and get your creative juices flowing. I am a firm believer that creativity is linked to healing, because as we create, we find reasons to allow ourselves to thrive. I will talk more about what morning pages are and how they can be useful in our visit video. Just be prepared to commit to writing for at least 15-20 min a day in your notebook. I truly believe this is a major component of the class, so try not to skip it.
I can’t wait to go on this adventure with you. We are a small group, which gives us the opportunity to be vulnerable, real, and emotionally raw with each other. This is a safe space and I know we all have much to offer each other. You are all respectful and amazing, but I want everyone to know that I will remove anyone from the group for any hurtful comments or unnecessary negativity. This class is about acceptance and non-judgment, so people can feel free to share from their hearts.
Remember, ultimately it is YOUR faith that heals you. Have faith in yourself throughout the process. You have a wealth of knowledge, gifts, and abilities within you just waiting to be unleashed. That’s what this class is all about: Waking you up to who and what you truly are. You are your own greatest teacher.
*For a current list of all Amanda’s spiritual development courses, visit http://amandaleighflaker.weebly.com/spiritual-development-courses.html
There seems to be this belief floating around the “spiritual” community that feeling any emotion other than happiness and joy is somehow “wrong.”
It’s as if we’ve taken the Law of Attraction to be another kind of All Knowing, Judging God. Only now the sin is any emotion outside the realm of Pollyanna thinking and over-stretching optimism. While I certainly feel that joy is our most natural state, bypassing pain is not the way to get there. Remember the age-old adage: “what you resist persists.” Yet it seems after all we’ve learned through understanding how the Universe works, the message we have bought into is this: Ignore pain. Ignore suffering. Just be happy.
I noticed this heavily after the shooting in Sandy Hook Elementary. My normally very vocal and active spiritual community online was surprisingly silent. Only a few people (I noticed) said anything at all. The same people who make an online ruckus over a moon cycles and how important love is, were barely able to give a nod to the atrocity of the events on Friday.
I even noticed this struggle in my own heart. My first response was “turn it off. Don’t give it any energy.” It was as if we are afraid that to look at the suffering of those in Connecticut, because to look at it means we are choosing it to be our reality.
The concept of “we are all one” seems to go out the window when those aspects of us that are in incredible pain take a more public platform. It’s like we all wanted to pretend that that atrocity was caused by someone else’s low vibration, not ours, and to acknowledge it at all is to give it a presence in our lives that may perhaps reveal our own shadows. Or perhaps it makes us look “unspiritual,” because, after all, the truly enlightened have no emotional reaction to anything because they “know” the higher reality. Right?
This is why I disagree:
You can never truly heal if you don’t go THROUGH the emotion – bypassing is not healing. And healing is not the same as ignoring. Choosing to focus on sending love to those who are suffering is not the same as focusing on the atrocity.
Focusing on pain or tragedy seems to strike fear in the heart of many light workers, dreading that “terrible” event of a “lowered vibration.” And to be fair, it is certainly easy to get pulled into the drama of tragic events if we’re not careful to stay present to our hearts while facing the pain.
But it is possible to face pain and hold a space of love while keeping your vibration high. It’s called transmutation. And it the foundation of all healing. In fact, it’s the foundation of our light-work, is it not?
True healing is not bypassing the pain, it’s going right into it with love and compassion. This step can’t be skipped. It’s impossible to heal without it.
Holding a space of love for the suffering of others and our own “shadows,” is not the same as ignoring suffering all together. Like it or not, pain DOES still exist in this world. There is still a shadow…and that shadow will grow bigger if it is not faced in love, validated, and healed.
If life has taught me anything, it is that ignoring a problem does not make it go away. Grief is necessary for true healing. In fact, grief can be a truly liberating and freeing emotion.
After my mom died, I didn’t grieve for years – I just simply didn’t know how. But pretending I was okay didn’t work. No matter how hard I tried to be happy, somewhere deep inside me desperately ached, and by not giving that pain validation, it grew.
We are all called to walk that delicate line between acceptance/surrender and resistance/despair. Bypassing the work of healing all together is the root of suffering . If we refuse to face our shadow, it will find a way to get our attention – and the more we ignore it, the bigger it gets.
Just look at the man who instigated the shootings at Sandy Hook Elementary – he was clearly suffering from unhealed aspects of his own shadow. And I’ll be bold enough to say that by ignoring the suffering of these people (who are other aspects of ourselves), we are perpetuating the same problem that caused these deaths to begin with.
What happened in Connecticut is not a reflection of somebody else “out there”; it’s a reflection of ALL OF US, because we are not separate from these people. Whether we choose to look at it or not, the suffering of the families in Connecticut (and around the world) affect us. It is our suffering. And these sufferings will continue to affect us until we embrace true healing. If someone else is hurting, we all are hurting. There is no way around it.
It strikes me as odd that the very people claiming love is the only answer, are unsure of what to do when people are in need of it. By choosing to ignore the pain and suffering of those in Connecticut, we are choosing to ignore our own shadow.
And I don’t just mean the “victims’’” pain, but also the man who inflicted it. Yes, he too is a reflection of all of us, and we have to face this. Hating him will not heal anyone, anymore than ignoring him will make him go away.
It’s time to come to terms with who and what we truly are. We must embrace all aspects of ourselves. We are not in this alone. We are not separate from those people suffering in Connecticut or Darfur or Iraq. It may seem far removed from us, but it’s still there, and it is desperate for validation, love, and healing.
I cannot speak for the majority of light workers, this is just what I experienced on Friday: near silence, a few nods of acknowledgement, and several philosophical, New Age babble about how it is all meant to be – how these kids created their reality and in some “higher perspective” out there it’s all good. And that’s all fine and well, but the fact of the matter still exist: these people are hurting. Like it or not, that is our global reality.
I know all of my fellow light workers are powerful healers, with deep empathic abilities and loving intentions for the transformation of this world. So where was the love on Friday? Why aren’t we bonding together to meditate and send healing to these people? I’m still trying to figure that one out.
I once posted a blog on Chakra Center about hugging trees and to-date it’s had more views, feedback and shares than any other article I’ve posted on this site, even more than my call out for a meditation of love for the people in the Sandy Hook Elementary school tragedy.
Light workers! What’s with the silence? It is in times like these when your love and powerful abilities are needed most. It is in deep suffering that people need to know they are not alone. In order for pain to heal, it must first be validated, then we must do our best to surround them with the love within us.
We should never let a problem to be solved, a fear of “low vibration,” or any “New Age” belief become more important than a person to be loved.
In place of our regular Meditation Monday post, we are asking all of our readers to hold a special meditation prayer for the peace and comfort of the beautiful lives lost on Friday in the Sandy Hook Elementary school shooting. We were also inspired by a post on Facebook from one sister of light:
“I’ve been racking my brain and heart on how to actively move forward in love to counter-act (on some level) what happened to the children, teachers, families, and community in Connecticut. An idea came to me that I thought I would share:
My kids and I are going to do 26 acts of love and kindness, one for every angel that just entered heaven. We will help light the lanterns of hope, Gods love and unfailing light in what seems to be very dark times. I invite anyone who wants to do the same…
LET’S ALL DO THIS AND ENCOURAGE OTHERS AS WELL IN HONOR OF REMEMBRANCE OF ALL THE SWEET ANGELS! IMAGINE THE RIPPLE EFFECT IT COULD HAVE ON OUR WORLD!! Every person that you do an act of kindess for will usually pay it forward and the impact of LOVE it could spread would be amazing!! ♥” – Nicole Ramirez (and idea inspired by her sister, Jennie Larsen).
Love is more powerful than hate. Although we can’t take away the suffering of those involved in this tragedy, we can do our part in helping to hold a space of love for this small community. We can pray for the healing of their hearts and the hearts of those around the world that face atrocities like this every day. We can keep our faith in humanity, and choose to believe the true nature of all people is love. We can use our wisdom to remember all pain, all psychosis, and all evil acts stem from a place of suffering. We can choose to face our own shadows with compassion. We can use our thoughts and emotions to create a world where this kind of pain no longer exists.
We cannot combat hate with hate. Love is the only solution. Love is the answer.
Please consider joining us in 27 special acts of kindness, each in remembrance of the lives lost at Sandy Hook Elementary. And continue to pray for the suffering of everyone around the world.
Feel free to share your stories with us here at Charka Center.
Let’s spread love! The world desperately needs it.
For each act of kindness you give this holiday season, consider doing it in the name of one of these 27 beautiful souls:
For today’s meditation, I thought I’d offer another excerpt from the “Writing to Connect with the Elves” online class.
Access beauty, restore balance of the masculine and feminine energies within you, and release your deepest desires from resistance.
“To see this realm – the realm of thought forms, is to see resistance to your desires. It is to see yourself in a mirror; it is to see wounds, to see joy, and forgotten bliss.
It takes courage to enter this realm. But what you will need most of all is creativity, and this comes from directly connecting to your feminine energy. To master this realm, your feminine/creative side must be employed. Everyone has feminine and masculine energy within, but most people use their masculine energy to go after what they desire. What you desire, however, is not something to conquer, it is something to receive, because it’s already available for you. That is why it is the feminine energy, not the masculine, that will most serve you here.
In your dimension, there is an imbalance of masculine and feminine energy (within each individual, and as a whole), that if not restored, will prevent you from fully entering our realm.
To “Pursue and conquer” is in the masculine agenda. It has a direct course of action, and the energy moves in straight lines. It is a beautiful energy that serves a very specific purpose, but when applied in the wrong context (or without its equal, feminine counterpart), it can produce devastating results.
Ironically, the Elvin realm can actually be more difficult for woman to enter, (if they have a lot of barriers around their heart) as your world has taught women some very harsh lessons about femininity.
Femininity is not honored or respected in your world. It is usually seen as weakness. Woman, in your dimensions, are taught they are too much, and not enough, and the feminine energy is confused and remains hidden within most hearts. To be poised, creative, and graceful, is to be vulnerable, used, and misunderstood.
True beauty, in our realm, reflects as a direct result from energetic beauty through our physical forms. The beauty we posses is an exact mirror of our hearts.
Here there is no understanding of hiding beauty. The concept does not make sense to us. Beauty is not something to be feared or envied, it just simply exists within all Beings, and should be allowed to flourish. Beauty is highly respected and honored. It is not the material, external, object you’ve come to understand it as. No, beauty is inspiration, it’s hope, it’s comfort. It is the vibrant spiraling energy of creation, passion, and love.
Sometimes only beauty speaks, which is why you often go into nature when you are lonely, or why you give flowers at funerals. You have an understanding how beauty heals, but most of you have not yet translated this concept to your own bodies, you own soul, your own heart. Most of you hide.
The subject of beauty is of much importance. And it must be understood if you are to continue further on your quest. Indeed, to find your own heart is to discover and reveal your own beauty to the world. This is the feminine counterpart of your energy (we will discuss the male counterpart in our next journey – which is of tremendous value).
You each have both feminine and masculine energy within you and these energies need to be balanced. Our realm can help you accomplish this task. For balance between these two energies is what we all carry within us. When one gets unbalanced, they slowly tip out of this realm. So to enter our realm, is to fill the perfect balance of male and feminine energy. Do you feel it?
Notice how you feel within our realm. Which part of you feels most at home and at rest? Which part of you is most uncomfortable?
In this writing meditation, you will focus on discovering beauty. This beauty is all around you. You will enter into the realm and ask your Elven guide to reveal your beauty. This region of the Elvin realm that your guide takes you will be a direct reflection of YOU.
Allow the vision to come.
Allow the message to come, the symbols, the words. Don’t judge or think. Simply observe. Ask any questions you feel led to ask. Look deeply into beauty – what it truly is, what it represents, and where you carry it within you. Each of you has a rare and exquisite beauty to be revealed – and it is a beauty the world desperately needs. Today you will look further into the Elvin realm to discover the essence of your feminine energy – your true beauty. It may be hidden deep, but it is there. It always has been. You carry an Essence of the Divine within you. And it is this Essence that heals and restores balance to the World, and to your own life. Allow it to come forth. Allow it to shine.
Your beauty is needed.”
As an added bonus, enjoy one of our guided audio meditations in the Elven realm:
Right now is a time of climax; for every moment is, as it offers its fullness. Release comes when you’re willing to be taken in by that very fullness. As we commit to release, we may pass pain, but as we surface out the other side we recognize that release was the climax of alignment. Our Source stream is no longer being blocked or finely funneled and energy rushes in fully. Finally.
A few weeks ago, I learned a valuable lesson as I boarded a bus. I sat down across the isle from a young girl and opened up a book to read on my travels. On the next stop, an unkempt man boarded. As the bus continued, I noticed that I could not focus on what I was reading and started to feel nauseous. I typically do feel dizzy when I read and ride in a vehicle simultaneously, however, once I had decided to put away my book, I still felt an intense energy adding to my nausea. It was intense enough to make me question my surroundings.
Becoming very empathic, I picked up on the chaotic vibrations around me. The energy swirled until I became a bit worried about vomiting. I then noticed that I was trying to block out the energy around me, which was intensifying my condition. Knowing that anything I resist will persist, I decided to face the situation with acceptance. Better yet, approve of it. I let myself inhale and understand the energy that I was sharing with these people and then let it flow out my feet.
I envisioned myself as a circuit where energy goes to renew, rather than a stubborn brick wall separate from the situation, where energy goes to die. I surrendered fully to what was happening, with trust that health was still mine. Nearly three minutes after, the Universe orchestrated with detail, everything I needed to no longer share the space with those energies that were adding to my nausea.
With this, came an acute understanding that endless energy flows in and out of us always, and to remain in resistance is to block the flow of renewed energy that is available to us. As one big organism, we’d all ideally know any energy as something we’ve created and approve of it—no matter the lack or mask in which it’s disguised. Release is experienced upon that fearless foundation of allowing.
Just as one aspect of alignment within us cannot leave another unchanged, it is important to take notice of the simple forms of release we have such as; a sneeze, a yawn, a cough, deep breath, a burp, an orgasm, etc. These little blessings enable your body to rid itself of old energies and open to the new, giving your muscles and the entirety of your body new life.
Let’s address what we’ve discovered in our last “Muscle Listening Meditation” more closely…
Like channels always being pulled towards Source but sometimes slightly off-kilter, we walk a thin, wobbly platform above the sea of Source, extremely susceptible to falling into its ecstasy. What does the water underneath you convey? How easily do you see yourself falling into its nourishment? Do you even recognize its nourishment? What would tear you from your seemingly safe platform? What would you like to release? What were the answers you received from your eager body in our last visit?
Once you have received the answers and recognize the root of your physical tension, come up with a statement that reflects its essence (i.e. I am not loved). Then take a look at it with utmost care and ask yourself how this belief may have been conceived of in the first place and if you truly believe it. Spend some time exploring it.
At that point, find the antithesis of it. This is when embracing the severity of your issue becomes beautiful because the greater your pain, the greater your antithesis.
Is your antithesis to feel completely carefree and trusting? Is it to experience greater abundance in your life? Is it to follow your deepest heart and dreams? Is it to be as easy and flexible as nature? Is it to know of unconditional love?
Whatever it is, we want to start working our way into alignment with it, that is to say, match our frequency to it. When any desire in you is born, a pathway is paved. This pathway delightfully waits for you to step foot into its vortex. Put your first foot forward by writing down every way in which you already feel, know, or live this antithesis. Do this every day. The more you focus on the ways that you already have your antithesis, you will be gifted more evidence of it. Soon enough, your issue will no longer be fed by your thoughts and you will both be stepping off of the platform into Universal nourishment, in a state of blissful release.