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Wednesday’s Wondrous World: Sedona

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One of my favorite places in the whole of the United States is Sedona, Arizona.

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There are so many wonders, so many places of amazing beauty, words can barely do it justice.

The red rocks are incredible, and so very unique.  The stratification of the stones, showing eons of time, are fairly unique to this part of the world.  Over the decades, many movies have been shot here, because the natural beauty of the area is a wonder to behold.

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And then there are the vortexes.  The energy vortexes of Sedona are incredible, and if you are energy sensitive, empathic, or at all in tune with your sixth sense abilities you will find it possible to feel Gaia at her most open and reachable.  It has felt to me like I was communing with the earth in the most intimate and sensitive manner imaginable.  I am saddened that it has now been several years since my last chance to visit.

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I know there is a big world out there, but given any opportunity to travel, I would not hesitate to pay a visit to Sedona for all its natural beauty again.

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A wondrous place in our wondrous world.

 

Me 3-25-13 smallerI am MJ Blehart, “Wednesday’s Wondrous World” writer and photographer.  Every week I share a magical wonder of this amazing world, and I hope you will enjoy the journey with me!

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Self-Forgiveness: Proper Atonement

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Young woman in a wheat fieldMany of us struggle with the concept of forgiveness.  Forgiveness seems pointless, permissive, and often times can feel like a betrayal of the self.  However, when we struggle to forgive others, it’s usually not because the other party must be punished, nor is it usually because the anger and resentment is such a powerful tool we use to motivate ourselves so we can “show them.”  Quite the contrary; when we struggle to forgive others, it’s most commonly indicative of our underlying inability to forgive ourselves for our transgressions against others and ourselves.

How Do We Start Punishing Ourselves?

When we engage in behavior that goes against our alignment, we are programmed to self-loathe.  Do you remember being a child and being called ”bad” for something you weren’t supposed to do?  Do you remember being expected to do exactly as you were told, and if not, then you were the “problem child?”  Our childhoods are wrought with structures and social norms to make us belittle ourselves in an effort to be humble and to disregard the maintenance of our present self.

This doesn’t make our parents or caretakers bad people.  It just means they weren’t the human conceptualization of perfect, and that is okay.  What we need to realize is some of our belief systems or behavior processes simply aren’t useful for having the best life, nor creating the best world.

What Happens When We Don’t Forgive Ourselves?

This is perhaps the most important question to ask because if you are like I was, you might be thinking, “Well, it only hurts me if I don’t forgive myself.   Besides, it really doesn’t hurt if I just don’t think about
it.”  I used to fully believe that punishing myself for the things I wasn’t proud of was the best way to keep myself on track and to never again do those things.  Let’s take a look at what is really going on though when we go through this punishment type of atonement.

If you want to live a happy, fulfilled life but you are engaging in behaviors and feelings of unforgiveness, you begin offering a contradictory vibration to the universe.  Your conscious vibration might be a layer of happiness, contentment, and even excitement depending on your situation.  However, there is an underlying, subconscious vibration of underserving, self-loathing, self-doubt, and self-depreciation.

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These feelings create a lower frequency cumulative wave that goes out to the universe as your manifestation order from the Universal creative menu.  What ends up coming to your life table either turns out to not be what you ordered or comes back with a bug in it.  This not only affects your life, but also affects the world on both an energetic and physical level.

Everything in this world is made of energetic and matter components (more on this in my next article).  Because we are biological energetic transmitters and channels, our energetic outputs affect our environments and the entire universe.  Once we manifest those energetic outputs into our physical space, we’ve created an energetic contract for that experience.  It doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind, but what you’ve done is created the physical, sensorial experience you didn’t want.

Keep in mind, this can manifest in a number of ways, including: manifesting the situation you were fearful of, manifesting the right opportunity at the wrong time, manifesting almost the experience you wanted but it’s just not quite there, or even manifesting the experience you wanted and then engaging in self-sabotaging behavior.  There are other scenarios, of course, but these are the big ones.

As you can see, in order to live in alignment, joy, and fulfillment, it’s important to go through the process of self-forgiveness.

How Do We Start Forgiving Ourselves?

nature loveYou may be wondering, “What is the self-forgiveness process?  How can I overcome the years of programming, guilt, self-sabotage, suboptimal manifesting, and unhealthy emotional processing?”  Luckily, I’m going to tell you.

Forgiving yourself is an expression of self-love and self-acceptance.  That does not mean you accept or condone your behavior.  Instead, you are choosing to acknowledge and take responsibility for your “out of alignment” decisions.

In order to forgive yourself, you need to do the inner work which led you to the original decision to begin with; it is important to note that the “why” of things is not always important, but if you can notice your own patterns and triggers, then you can develop new healthy habits and ways of dealing with these instigative situations.

The next step is to realize the person you are in this moment, is not the person you were in the previous moment.   While your actions had consequences, you do not have to atone for those actions through self-loathing tactics of any kind.  Atonement is more effective when done through the acknowledgement of your out of alignment choice, integrating all of the lessons learned from that experience, and choosing to expand from that experience into a newer, more aligned version of yourself.

When you choose the path of self-forgiveness, you choose the path of expansion, self-worth, and empathy for the human experience.  We did not come here to be perfect, we came here to learn and come back into self-love after seeing ourselves through the veil of separateness and imperfection.

I will leave you with a quote of my belief about life and I hope it will inspire you to fully love and forgive yourself in every moment of every day.  ” I believe life is all about learning to unabashedly, unconditionally love yourself because when you love the creation and the infinite spark of Source, you are glorifying all of divinity.”

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I want you to consider an area of your life, or specific experience, where you’re having a difficult time forgiving yourself.  You can either share that experience in the comments below, or choose to go through the process of forgiving yourself and share that experience.  We’d love to hear about your  experiences with self-forgiveness.

Much Love & Big Nonlocal Quantum Hugs

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The Prophet: Love

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Then said Almitra, “Speak to us of Love.”
And he raised his head and looked upon the people, and there fell a stillness upon them. And with a great voice he said:
When love beckons to you follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth. Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God’s sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; For love is sufficient unto love. When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, I am in the heart of God.”
And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.

The Prophet, by Kahlil Gibran

Meditation Monday: How to Create a ‘Love Orb.’

I love creating energy orbs. In fact, it’s one of the primary forms of energy work I do at Soul Sister Alchemy. I Soulsister Alchemyalso teach my students how to do it as well, and I’ve seen some profound and potent effects come from these powerfully charged orbs.

Today I thought I’d share this simple technique with my readers here at Chakra Center. Feel free to send in stories of your experience with this. I’d love to hear how it works for you!

How to Create a “Love Orb”:

First of all, what is an orb? In the context of this exercise, an orb is an energetic medicine capsule (so to speak) you visually place around your body (through meditation). These orbs are set to remain around you for a predetermined period of time to help smooth your aura and raise your vibration.

You can use these orbs for any intention you choose, but today’s orb is intended to put your love energy in a healthy, powerful state.

Instructions:

*To prepare for this meditation, you will first need to grab a pen and paper and begin making a list of all things you love and appreciate. It can be anything from your favorite color or flower, to a beautiful sunset, or an experience or memory from you past. Write down anything and everything you can think of, and as you’re writing, allow yourself to feel the vibration of each thing you write. Allow the vibration to each memory/thing to fully encompass you.

Using your list of things you love, you will do a visual meditation to create an energetic “orb” around your etheric, energetic, and physical bodies. Please read over the instructions a couple times before doing the visual meditation so you understand how to proceed:

Before doing the meditation, make sure you have your ‘love list” next to you. Read over everything you listed and try to *feel* the energy of each item again. Notice where you feel the emotion in your body. Take deep breaths and breathe the energy of happiness into your heart charka. Feel it expand.

Open all of your chakras and imagine a white light cleansing, opening, and expanding each energy point around your body. If you have experience working with your 8th, 9th, 10th, and 11th Chakras, feel free to open those as well.

Now ask your Higher Self to give you a stone (in your mind, of course. You will use this stone for the meditation).  Trust the first impression that comes to you. It may be a specific type of crystal (like an amethyst or ruby) or a stone like an opal or onyx. If you don’t know the name of what you are given, that’s okay. Just memorize what it looks like and notice where you feel the vibration of it in your body. Write it down on your list.

Now, imagine an orb forming from your heart Chakra around your entire body (keep “breathing” into it until it is about 3 feet around you in every direction). Imbue the orb with any color you want – whatever makes you the happiest – whatever intensifies your feeling of safety, peace, and harmony.

Using the list you created, begin visually adding each item into the orb you’ve created around your body. Essentially, you are adding the energetic vibration of each of “ingredient.”  As you put each item into your orb, notice and relish in the “feeling” of each vibration. Notice where you feel their energy in your body. Allow their energy to fully absorb and blend with your aura, your energy, and your vibration. Make sure you add everything on your list and anything else you feel  inspired to include.

Remember, these “ingredients” for your orb don’t have to be limited to “things” (like your favorite color, flower, or animal) they can be intangible ingredients like an experience you’ve had, a song that makes you feel good, or just a emotions you like. Don’t put any limitations on your joy. Whatever raises your vibration and brings you a sense of peace and love, add.

Once you’ve finished adding all of your ingredients, you will inject your “orb” with raw honey (or tree sap, whichever feels right to you). This thick, amber like substance will act as a binder, holding together the energy of all the ingredients in your orb.

Visualize the golden liquid going into your orb and feel its soothing, therapeutic vibration. Notice how it makes you feel. Allow yourself to see, feel, taste, sense the energy of what is occurring around you. In a very literal sense, these energies are changing your vibration.

Finally, take the stone your Guides or Higher Self gave you, and trace the outer layer of your orb. See the stone drawing a thick line around your orb in its unique color. The energy of your particular stone will seal in the energies of this orb to keep it active and intact around you for its allotted time (I recommend looking-up the meaning/healing properties of your stone before you do the meditation. Every time I do this I am amazed that the stone my Guides give me always match the exact frequency of the healing I intend for the orb).

Now set the intention for this orb to remain around you for whatever amount of time you feel led to set (I usually do anywhere from 3 to 7 days). Through the allotted period, take time each day to feel and notice the orb around your body.

Keep a journal of how you feel. Notice anything and everything you experience in your energetic, emotional, etheric, and physical bodies. In a very real sense, this orb is set to smooth out the rough edges and help heal your energy. When the medicine of the orb is finished working its magic on you, the outer layer you set with the stone will begin to crumble way and your incubated love energy will be dispersed into the quantum field while your own individual energy will harmonize and reintegrate at a higher frequency/vibration than it was before you did the meditation.

You can repeat this meditation as needed and alter it in any way you feel guided to do so. This is a basic template I use for the healing work I do at Soul Sister Alchemy, and I have to tell you, it has profound effects on people.

It is important that our energy is always in a high, loving state. This is just as important (if not more so) than recycling or taking care of the planet – when you take care of your own energetic field, you are doing your part in respecting the field of Universal Consciousness. You are not separate from anyone or anything around you. We are all quantumly entangled. Everything you think and feel affects Universal Consciousness, so know that loving yourself is loving all of us. By taking care of your energy, you are taking care of the world. Happy loving!

Namaste!

Twin Flames: Fact or Myth?

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In recent years, the spiritual community has adopted the concept of “Twin Flames” and made it a common focal point for discussion and estimation of the success of one’s life and level of happiness. The Twin Flame concept is essentially a re-branded version of Soul Mates.

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With the intention of ever becoming more fully conscious beings – is this something we can accurately believe in and pursue?

Is it true that for each person there is one other being, either physical or non physical (and isn’t that a tragedy if your Twin Flame didn’t incarnate this time around….) that is perfectly attuned for partnership and cosmic, enlightened love?

Often explanations of the Twin Flame idea include an assertion that prior to incarnation, one soul was actually split into two and put into separate bodies. Is this even possible? Let’s examine the concept and see.

For many in the Lightworker, Starseed, New Age community, there is a desire to continue on a path of purposeful, conscious, soul evolution. This is not a novel idea – the same basic thought was expressed by Jesus when he spoke of the Kingdom of Heaven, a place of thought and feeling originating within each person rather than a physical location, as well as by Buddha when he spoke of a state of Enlightenment.

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Over the course of physical incarnations, with the various lifetimes experienced by a soul or group of souls varying in length, location, and experience, one accumulates and synthesizes events, emotions, and energetic/thought patterns in order to evolve a soul (which can also be thought of as a sentient non-physical energy pattern) by the learning that happens through varied experience.

So where does this leave the Twin Flame theory?

What are Twin Flames?

If you do a simple internet search on Twin Flames, you are likely to find a plethora of information in articles and videos that is highly romantic and sometimes heartbreaking, singing the praises (sometimes literally) of the experience of a deep, connected, “only-one-out-there-for-me” romantic love. You will see that Twin Flames are often described as one soul that has been broken apart into two pieces and incarnated into two different physical bodies, neither of which able to feel complete until they have reconnected with each other and fallen in love.

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This hearkens back to the idea of the Soul Mate – one person, somewhere on the globe (often conveniently in the same country or at least speaking the same language) that is “meant” to be in romantic love with another.

The concept of Soul Mates, and now Twin Flames, is usually accompanied by a bittersweet feeling of intense longing and a sort of pleading with the Universe –
“Please bring my Twin Flame to me.”

“I cannot continue my evolution as a soul in joy and completeness until I find that perfect love.”
“I can feel my Twin Flame out there – where is she/he?”
“I am in love. Could this be my Twin Flame?”

The latter question is asked with the unspoken assumption that if this person actually is the Twin Flame, then the relationship should be perfect, and if she or he is not the Twin Flame, then the relationship is doomed.

Are Twin Flames Real?

To begin, the general concept of Twin Flames leaves out one very important piece of information regarding what an incarnation lived on this planet actually is. The school of Gaia, which we are each now experiencing because of our presence on this planet at all, is one of balance, the completion of the duality paradigm, and, now more than ever, attaining a grasp of the effortless skill of perfect manifestation and creation of life experiences through focus, balanced thought, the energetic pattern of abundance, and self-care.

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Every experience had by any person in any lifetime is brought for the purpose of learning and evolution.

These experiences are not always beautiful and easy – in fact, the majority of lessons are learned through pain historically – but as a soul learns to attain a level of conscious creation, life experiences become more harmonious.  This is a logical progression, because if the goal is conscious creation, then things would obviously feel more smooth and pleasant as this goal comes closer to being reached.

Beginning with the idea that we all experience exactly what we need in order to learn and that our goal is to become cognizant of our state as creators and skilled at the act of creating, then it would not make sense that one external human (or non-human as the case may be, there are MANY beliefs about this subject) is floating around somewhere, waiting to be discovered.

Beginning with the idea that we all experience exactly what we need in order to learn and that our goal is to become cognizant of our state as creators and skilled at the act of creating, then it would not make sense that one external human (or non-human as the case may be, there are MANY beliefs about this subject) is floating around somewhere, waiting to be discovered.

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How Does Love Work?

The energy of love is much like the energy of financial abundance, a.k.a. money. The creation of experiences of love, in the creation’s energetic matrix, is much like the creation pattern needed when manifesting experiences of bountiful financial abundance.

This often means that if the state of “not enough” is focused on and fed emotion, then the abundance option is pushed away.

If you long for your love, thinking about how unhappy you are until you find them, you are likely pushing that love away. This is completely unrelated to whether this love is possible with one person or a thousand people.

If you long for financial abundance and focus on your empty bank account, giving it thought and emotion, then you are pushing abundance away – whether that abundance comes from only one option of a job or career, or many options.

If you focus on the pure enjoyment of your life, within the parameters you have but without thinking of your lack, then the abundance of love, money, or both will find you.

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If you enjoy your own company and the company of friends, you are much more likely to emit a vibration to the Universe that will attract an experience of beautiful romantic love, which will of course bring its own challenges.

If you work within your budget and make it a point to have experiences that feel decadent whether or not they cost any money at all, it is much more likely that you will draw in the experience of enough money to pay for whatever experience you wish to have.

The difficult thing about this idea is that it is impossible to prove after the fact.  I know a lovely couple made up of an American man and a German woman who had a very interesting internet-based meeting. He had just bought a new computer and installed a chat program. She had just gotten the idea that she needed to practice her English language fluency by chatting with someone online.

Ten minutes after he opened up his chat window for the first time, she randomly picked his name off of a list of English speakers to introduce herself to in order to practice her English. Just after their meeting and short conversation, she went on a business trip and he was too busy to log on to the internet again for weeks. The next time he logged on, she had just returned from her business trip. They met again. Now they live in Virginia, married with three delightful children.

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Some would argue that this experience proves the Twin Flame idea with the caveat that no matter where your Twin Flame lives, you will meet him or her when the time is right.

But perhaps a more accurate way to look at this is that if you are ready vibrationally to experience love, then love will find you and has an infinite amount of possible way to appear in your realm of experience.

So What is the Real Way to Think of Love?

We are each a being holding a unique energetic signature. We create our reality through our planned lessons (often prior to incarnation) combined with the belief systems and energetic/vibrational patterns we currently hold as physical beings with unique life histories.

So with this truth in mind, we can look at the surrounding population of eligible romantic partners and see logically that some subset of these available individuals will be compatible in their energetic signatures, belief systems, and life circumstances for romantic partners.

It is true that we often make agreements with members of our soul pod, or family, prior to incarnating about the parameters of any given relationship that occurs between us in our lifetime.

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However, this is not a helpful thought when thinking of romantic love and attempting to draw it in.

The most clean and effective way to view this experience is by isolating our own energetic pattern regarding romance that we are projecting to the Universe and that is therefore being presented back to us as experience.

Do we believe that we need a relationship with another being in order to feel fulfilled? It is likely that if we do, we will attract relationship patterns that disprove this theory via heartbreak and possibly betrayal until we change the projecting pattern we are emanating.

Do we believe that we easily find love and each relationship serves as a learning experience and an opportunity to grow love and compassion? If so, it is likely that we will have a more harmonious romantic life – although the rigid grasp that many people have on an idea of “one love only per lifetime” is being disproven often these days. And just because one finds love, this does not mean that the challenge is over.

The lessons learned in the most intensely loving and connected relationships are some of the most challenging in an incarnation – romantic love is an energetic opportunity to learn in infinite ways, but these are always tempered and shaped by our beliefs and our level of self-love.

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If we choose to accept only the best, it is likely that increasingly better experiences will present themselves to us. If we have a problem with spiritual bypass or denial, then it is likely that our experiences will become progressively more painful until we wake up, stop bypassing and denying, and honestly look at our belief system around our worthiness as individuals.

Every being on this planet deserves love. This of course includes you. And the more fully you believe this, the more beautiful your loves will be – both romantic and platonic.

The fairy tale idea of the Twin Flame is incorrect and misleading. However, the truth is much more beautiful and open. If you are waiting for love, then begin to emanate love – for yourself, for your friends, and for your loved ones. Love will come to you. And there does not need to be one person somewhere in the world to search out – the experience will appear before you, effortlessly.

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Charis Melina Brown serves as an ambassador to realms of  existence that our modern Western culture has denied the existence of in recent centuries.

She carries an MA in Transpersonal Psychology, and is the author of two books, Journal of a Starseed: Discovering the Real Worldand Instruction of a Starseed. She is a regular contributor for our Starseed corner at Chakra Center.

Charis has a beautiful website and YouTube channel, sharing all things blissful and metaphysical.  Check her out at the following links:

YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/charisbrownmalloy

Website: http://www.charismelina.com/

Ever Onward: Boys to Men: Notes on The Seduction Community, Modern Manhood, and the Spiritual Path

Somewhere in the world right now, a man is approaching a woman at a bar. He desires connection with her, and depending on his makeup, he may see her as a conquest, a status symbol, a mystery to be solved, a terrifying prospect, a potential partner with whom to create and experience joy and beauty…

Whether he knows it or not, what surrounds this seemingly simple and common act contains within it entrance points to a profoundly spiritual quest.

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For readers of a blog such as Chakra Center, this interaction may more likely see a juice bar as the backdrop (I dig that, too.)  Regardless, I don’t think former punk rocker and occultist Vadge Moore was exaggerating when he stated at the end of this article:

The way to true enlightenment was also the way to life. Sex is the basis of all things. The uniting of opposites is the secret of the world.

Volumes could be written and debated on that. We’re going to focus  particularly  on some of the ways this is all navigated by men (since my resume states that I am one).

Please note, while I’m talking largely about heterosexual men, this article is for everyone. And of course these polarities and their attendant challenges and lessons still exist within GLBT individuals as well. The energy is just situated differently than in a heterosexual individual.

As our springboard I will, however, turn to something decidedly for men (but when functioning at its higher levels, seeks to  serve and celebrate women just as much.):

“The Seduction Community.”

For some this may be old news, but in case it’s not: there’s a large amount of teachers and schools of thought offering literature, seminars, videos and workshops that break down external techniques and/or internal belief re-structurings that seek to make men “better” with women. It’s an industry that has exploded in the Internet age.

A few years ago, a friend passed along some of the material to me, and while I meandered through this world (which of course contains much ridiculousness), I eventually discovered the more noble and higher-level expressions it. The current Wikipedia page on the term “seduction community” dismisses most of the ideas as based in “pseudo-science,” (given the personalities that article focuses on, that may well be the case) and talks about the more base “pick up” aspects of it.

A quick Google search on the topic will likely yield the lowest denominator. Please know that there’s people out there like Zan Perrion and his whole raison d’être, and that’s what I personally have found value and inspiration in.

Truly, the upper echelons and outer periphery of “the seduction community” is not really about seduction in the old sense of the word (and often, thankfully,  not even called that), but rather holistic psychological, emotional and spiritual maturity for men. I sat, fascinated, through long videos going deep into human psychology from the likes of people such as Dr. Geoffrey Miller.

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If I could boil down the material that resonated with me into a credo it would be:

Become so well-rounded, so at peace and happy with yourself, that you will naturally just attract and be attracted to exceptional women.

If a man paid for this stuff just wanting pickup lines, he’d be in for an absolute shock.

My reason in mentioning all this: as with anything, the very existence of this scene is a symptom of something deeper, a need looking to be met.

In part it reflects the confusion and chaos that precedes changing paradigms, which in this case is about the changing nature of sexuality and masculine/feminine dynamics. For men in particular, it demonstrates a severe lack of guidance and role models in recent decades (you’ll hear that repeated again and again in these circles).

A weekend night out in any major city, or surfing the TV channels, will affirm that there’s no shortage of men out there who are long on testosterone but short on maturity. The Unhinged Masculine. However, perhaps like never before in recent cultural memory, there’s also the disenfranchised, emasculated, or at best neutral man. The Stilted Masculine.

I was not alive until the end of the twentieth century, but I have never heard anything to counter the complaint that something about men is definitely not what it used to be (as noted in books like Boys Adrift). That’s not to say that I propose we return to the social mores of the 1950s. But please follow me down the rabbit hole for a moment.

You have feminist Camille Paglia in this NY Times article pointing out that:Man-child

…visually, American men remain perpetual boys, as shown by the bulky T-shirts, loose shorts and sneakers they wear from preschool through midlife. The sexes, which used to occupy intriguingly separate worlds, are suffering from over-familiarity, a curse of the mundane. There’s no mystery left.

You have a trend in movies (Knocked Up, Our Idiot Brother) where men are portrayed as childish buffoons. Of course those movies wouldn’t exist if these trends didn’t exist in society first. The bumbling dad is a sitcom staple.

And perhaps as a salve to such things, there’s people such as Zan Perrion and his acolytes creating salon events for men in bars and lounges around the world (women are encouraged to attend) that invite people thusly:

We host these salons because we love the conversation– we love talking about the subject– the subject that everyone is fascinated by but everyone seems to avoid. Everywhere we go people want the same thing: to be themselves and be loved for it, and everywhere we go we spread light as to how.

Much of modern life has been politically correct-isized and anesthetized. I do believe that men and women (and everyone and thing in between) are ultimately more similar than different, and in the grandest sense, that’s the most important thing to remember.

Nonetheless, we’re still here to experience and enjoy this reality. For most people, whether they care to admit it or not, one of the finest enjoyments is that sweet tension that exists when we can fully share, interact, enjoy, and grow with those of the opposite sex (or shall we say, those aligned in an energetic polarity different yet complementary to our own). We tease out and activate each other’s essences.

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As the French say, “vive la différence.”

I recently discovered this article by Drew Gerald on the age old “why girls like jerks” question. In it he summizes that the stereotypical “jerk” at least displays masculine traits. And on an unconscious, gut level (because really, that’s where it all initially happens), those masculine traits flip the attraction switches in a woman– even if those masculine traits  are expressed in a very skewed manner.

Some masculinity, in this case, is “better” than none.

The girl or woman who has the wherewithal to know better nonetheless cannot intellectually make herself attracted to “nice” but emasculated males she encounters. Thus she may sit at home, frustrated.

So what’s all this mean for the man on the path of the heart, a seeker of wisdom, an evolutionary?

Being spiritual doesn’t necessarily mean you get to circumvent all of this and what it brings up. And please watch out for the trappings of what you may think it means to be “spiritual.” You could be robbing yourself of the way masculine energy can fully express through and as you.shiva3

If you’ll allow me to submit a little anecdotal evidence for consideration, I know several women who participate in or even make their livings from things spiritual, and they nonetheless echo what a lot of women everywhere lament:

“Where are the real men?” 

Some of these women devoted to spirituality decided to marry men whose closest thing to a  spiritual experience would be seeing their favorite team win the Super Bowl.

Of course there’s nothing wrong with that on its own (in fact I’m about to watch the Super Bowl myself)…but put in this context, it’s a fascinating challenge that some people cannot share one of the biggest and most important parts of their lives with their own spouses.

So the question can become: how to integrate and better enjoy our own inner masculine? And how will that synergize with our feminine energies as well, leading to a place of great power, purpose, and balance?

Again, I refer to Zan Perrion, who wisely pointed out this possible path of growth for a man in the dating world, which I’ll paraphrase. It’s an allegory for all sorts of things:

-At first a man tries to “get the girl” by being super nice, conciliatory, buying candy, flowers etc. If he gets a date, he buys the expensive wine and glances at her, hoping she’s impressed, wondering how he’s “doing.” He’s not really bringing himself into the equation. She just wants to be friends. Her feminine romantic desires remain unmoved. His kindness is weakness.

-Frustrated, the man changes his approach, learns some tips and techniques. Maybe he’s built up a wall, so he does his own thing more, he seems a little tougher, and lo and behold, he starts attracting more women. Maybe this works for a while, but eventually, something in him knows he’s not being all he can, and he yearns for something truer. He’s projecting false, rootless strength as compensation.

-Having gone through a journey, he then knows himself more, and simply wants to enjoy his life, lets go and freely offers to share himself. He again buys the expensive wine on a date, but this time, it’s simply because that’s what he likes, and he delights in his date’s appreciation of the wine equally. There’s an implicit vibe that he’s wholly enjoying himself as he moves through the world, and the woman who catches his eye is invited to join that celebration. His kindness is supported by inner strength.

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The first and third points may look similar on an exterior level to the untrained eye–but the subtle differences of energy, belief, and self-perception that undergird them make a significant  difference, one that is intuitively palpable to many women.

Indeed, this idea of extreme opposites at first appearing to be the same–say, the fool and the sage–is one I find to be extremely useful in facilitating discernment.

Now, do men need to go through that middle phase of being jaded or jerky? Of course not. Somehow in some way, however, transformation beckons.

So here again, we find the mechanics and the language of a spiritual quest. That woman (or man) you long to talk to, to connect with, to just have a chance to get to know–and really how you approach that whole situation– is one of life’s biggest and boldest reflections of your own powers and vulnerabilities.

Your own grail of self-actualization could lie in walking through this flame.

Some of the higher level material about male empowerment discusses bringing into balance the different archetypes that exist within men (similar material exists for women as well). You’ll often see a quadrant drawn, with each one representing the archetypes of King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover. There are several different versions of this.

Someone who voluntarily joins the army would obviously be skewed more Warrior, whereas someone who always knows how to get out of compromising situations using his  humor would be more Magician. The idea is to recognize where your nature and nurturing lead you, and cultivate in yourself the opposite energies in order to bring yourself into better balance.

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So to the guys who do yoga, or are vegan treehuggers, or watch Spirit Science (I’m currently most of those): am I saying you should go sign up for boxing classes? Not unless you really want to of course.

But cultivate it somehow.

If you’re walking the path of the heart, seeking the wisdom of Source–imagine the power that is possible when you add what we’re talking about here, in whatever ways you see fit?

It won’t be simply base and primal if you’ve already been awakening your compassionate and intuitive natures. Rather, that primordial male essence will be transposed when it chemicalizes and interacts with those beautiful traits you’ve already developed.

What we’re talking about here is what we all seek: Wholeness.

Ergo: there’s no need to shrink from the “masculine” in Divine Masculine.

Also, consider: we hear about integrating/finding our “inner feminine” quite often.

First, it needs to be tempered and properly balanced with your native masculinity. pre1098c

Second, recognize that it’s also outside of you. Truly connecting with, appreciating, seeing, and being present with the women in your life is a healing and restorative act for you both. It’s at once more innocent, and yet much deeper and thrilling, than the average modern experience.

And ladies–please remember your incredible power here (I’m thinking about the plot of Lysistrata). You can set the social pace. The boys usually follow the girls (ask anyone who organizes social events). When you acquiesce to men whose standards and behaviors you find you’ve already grown past, you perpetuate the existence of those standards and behavior.

Men have their own way of doing this too. We can all create a positive feedback loop through our standards and what we expect, ask of, and offer those we seek to connect with.

All of this  brings me back to one of the most wrestled with concepts for spiritual types:

Duality.

It’s a hot button: many people are either unconsciously being used by Duality, trying to navigate it wisely, or trying to transcend it altogether. I like to live in the fulcrum between the latter two. I currently subscribe to the notion that you have to go through duality in order to transcend it. Thesis-Antithesis-Synthesis. That’s what I take away from the quote in the beginning of this article brought to us by Vadge Moore (pseudonyms aside).

Sun_and_Moon_by_ZiasThus, unless you’re called to a monastic life, you’re going to have to deal with the male-female balances in and around you at some point.

Who knows the reality of other, non-dual dimensions? I’ve had whiffs, but nonetheless, I wake up every day in this universe of positive and negative magnetic/electrical forces, yin and yang, male and female.

That’s why I’ve felt it a benefit to integrate the approaches of the more enlightened lovers and romantics into my framework. Incidentally, they’ll often advise other men to get out of their own heads and into the intuitive–sometimes becoming more of a man means accessing more of your feminine gifts. One affects the other. It’s all very dynamic.

I believe that when we’re talking about the Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine (as opposed to the unbalanced iterations of each), the intense focus on the differences, the feeling of a stark polarity, fades. It may still be there– it’s  just not as big of a deal. And a lot easier to enjoy that way.

The planetary energies on Earth currently scream at us to pay attention to male/female dynamics only because they have been so grossly imbalanced, and need attention.

My vision is that we come out the other side of this time of re-calibration with the best of both worlds.

This means: more fluidity, openness and respect. A wider range of accepted relationship dynamics, and the 540px-Yin-Yang-Yuan_Symbolsvg-1complete loving acceptance of various sexual preferences. And yet…more clarity, groundedness and peace surrounding all of it. Notice how much more feminine all that sounds when compared to what’s been the status quo. The world needs to become more feminine. But part and parcel of that is having a lot of integrated, balanced men in it.

And yes, I do sense the potentials of moving into expanded experiences of synthesis, moving beyond polarity, the yin-yang-yuan, Triality in all of this.

Whatever shall come to pass, as we evolve further through it all, humanity won’t have need to fret as much over the masculine/feminine spectrum, but may well continue to increasingly enjoy its expressions, in all of their richness and glory, still joyously proclaiming:

“vive la différence!”

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Meditation Monday: The Power of Mantra

Words are powerful. Every word carries a specific wordsvibration and frequency. When we allow the vibration of words to penetrate our hearts, they literally change the way we feel and think and perceive, by changing our very frequencies to match that of the words (or the emotions behind the words) we are allowing within our hearts. In doing this, we become a match for more of those feelings to enter our auric field.

It’s the same idea with thoughts, but unlike most thoughts, words have the added potency of carrying a sound vibration. In the book of Genesis, it is said that there was darkness, a void over the face of the earth and when God spoke, creation came into Being.

Words are also used in spells and incantations for the very same reason – the sound vibration of words have the _words_can_hurt_or_heal_smallpower to create. Even inaudible words or subliminal messages have this effect on our energetic and emotional bodies – it occurs even without our conscious awareness. It is critical to be mindful of the words we use and expose ourselves to. Our emotional and spiritual health depends on it.

Just as abusive words can have a negative effect on the body’s overall energetic field, so can positive words and specific sounds can raise our frequencies, opening of channels for healing, and smooth out our auric field.

One of my favorite ways to connect to the power of words is through mantra. Wikipedia’s definition of a mantra is “a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of ‘creating transformation.’”

I couldn’t have said it better myself. Mantra does just that – The Power of Words-marca águacreates transformation. When repeated several times out loud over a period of time (especially when this is your daily practice), mantras have the power of rewiring the brain by firing new waves and creating new neuropath ways. It’s phenomenal.

To really get specific about the etymology and history of the word mantra (and its link to practices in India and all different forms of yoga) would be another article entirely. The purpose of this post is to simply introduce you to a few mantras that I use to help me start my day feeling in total alignment with Source.

Sit in a comfortable position (preferably with your spine Shanti mantrastraight and upright). Take several, conscious, deep breaths and repeat the following mantras as many times as necessary. The idea is to repeat the mantra until you truly “feel” the power of them within you. For me, I know when they have deeply penetrated my heart when I can’t stop smiling, or suddenly feel tears of joy on my face. It’s a powerful experience.

A couple things to remember about mantras (or words in general):

  • what you put out, you get back
  • find mantras to use that make you feel good

You can create your own mantras. Just find something positive that resonates with you and doesn’t carry a negative intent to hurt others.

Here are some mantras that I’ve crafted for myself (each Mantrasentence can be its own mantra, or you can combine them all together to be one mantra):

“I Am connected to the Source of Love. I Am giving and receiving Love. I Am following the path of Love. I Am Love.”

“I Am always guided and protected by Love. I Am using my experiences in this world to grow and expand Love. I Am full of the power of Love.”

“I Am connected and transformed by the Light. I Am restored by the Light. I Am ready for wisdom. I am ready for Love.”

I think it is important to connect with the Source of Love daily. Know it intimately. Make sure that your own love energy is always in a healthy, powerful state. This is your only true power, because ultimately, Love is all there is. When you are full of love, you have everything you could ever need to thrive in this world.

Namaste.

Sandy Hook Tragedy: Lightworkers, Why the Bypass?!

There seems to be this belief floating around the “spiritual” bear heartcommunity that feeling any emotion other than happiness and joy is somehow “wrong.”

It’s as if we’ve taken the Law of Attraction to be another kind of All Knowing, Judging God. Only now the sin is any emotion outside the realm of Pollyanna thinking and over-stretching optimism. While I certainly feel that joy is our most natural state, bypassing pain is not the way to get there. Remember the age-old adage: “what you resist persists.” Yet it seems after all we’ve learned through understanding how the Universe works, the message we have bought into is this: Ignore pain. Ignore suffering. Just be happy.

I noticed this heavily after the shooting in Sandy Hook Elementary. Our hearts are brokenMy normally very vocal and active spiritual community online was surprisingly silent. Only a few people (I noticed) said anything at all. The same people who make an online ruckus over a moon cycles and how important love is, were barely able to give a nod to the atrocity of the events on Friday.

I even noticed this struggle in my own heart. My first response was “turn it off. Don’t give it any energy.” It was as if we are afraid that to look at the suffering of those in Connecticut, because to look at it means we are choosing it to be our reality.

The concept of “we are all one” seems to go out the window when those aspects of us that are in incredible pain take a more public platform. It’s like we all wanted to pretend that that atrocity was caused by someone else’s low vibration, not ours, and to acknowledge it at all is to give it a presence in our lives that may perhaps reveal our own shadows. Or perhaps it makes us look “unspiritual,” because, after all, the truly enlightened have no emotional reaction to anything because they “know” the higher reality. Right?

This is why I disagree:

You can never truly heal if you don’t go THROUGH the emotion – bypassing is not healing. And healing is not the same as ignoring. Choosing to focus on sending love to those who are suffering is not the same as focusing on the atrocity.

Focusing on pain or tragedy seems to strike fear in the heart of many light workers, dreading that “terrible” event of a “lowered vibration.”  And to be fair, it is certainly easy to get pulled into the drama of tragic events if we’re not careful to stay present to our hearts while facing the pain.

But it is possible to face pain and hold a space of love while keeping Hugging true compassionyour vibration high. It’s called transmutation. And it the foundation of all healing. In fact, it’s the foundation of our light-work, is it not?

True healing is not bypassing the pain, it’s going right into it with love and compassion.  This step can’t be skipped. It’s impossible to heal without it.

Holding a space of love for the suffering of others and our own “shadows,” is not the same as ignoring suffering all together. Like it or not, pain DOES still exist in this world. There is still a shadow…and that shadow will grow bigger if it is not faced in love, validated, and healed.

If life has taught me anything, it is that ignoring a problem does not make it go away. Grief is necessary for true healing. In fact, grief can be a truly liberating and freeing emotion.

After my mom died, I didn’t grieve for years – I just simply didn’t know how. But pretending I was okay didn’t work. No matter how hard I tried to be happy, somewhere deep inside me desperately ached, and by not giving that pain validation, it grew.

We are all called to walk that delicate line between acceptance/surrender and resistance/despair. Bypassing the work of healing all together is the root of suffering . If we refuse to face our shadow, it will find a way to get our attention – and the more we ignore it, the bigger it gets.

Just look at the man who instigated the shootings at Sandy Hook police-huggingElementary – he was clearly suffering from unhealed aspects of his own shadow. And I’ll be bold enough to say that by ignoring the suffering of these people (who are other aspects of ourselves), we are perpetuating the same problem that caused these deaths to begin with.

What happened in Connecticut is not a reflection of somebody else “out there”; it’s a reflection of ALL OF US, because we are not separate from these people. Whether we choose to look at it or not, the suffering of the families in Connecticut (and around the world) affect us. It is our suffering. And these sufferings will continue to affect us until we embrace true healing. If someone else is hurting, we all are hurting. There is no way around it.

It strikes me as odd that the very people claiming love is the only answer, are unsure of what to do when people are in need of it. By choosing to ignore the pain and suffering of those in Connecticut, we are choosing to ignore our own shadow.

And I don’t just mean the “victims’’” pain, but also the man who inflicted it. Yes, he too is a reflection of all of us, and we have to face this. Hating him will not heal anyone, anymore than ignoring him will make him go away.

It’s time to come to terms with who and what we truly are. We must Sandy Hook vigilembrace all aspects of ourselves. We are not in this alone. We are not separate from those people suffering in Connecticut or Darfur or Iraq. It may seem far removed from us, but it’s still there, and it is desperate for validation, love, and healing.

I cannot speak for the majority of light workers, this is just what I experienced on Friday: near silence, a few nods of acknowledgement, and several philosophical, New Age babble about how it is all meant to be – how these kids created their reality and in some “higher perspective” out there it’s all good. And that’s all fine and well, but the fact of the matter still exist: these people are hurting. Like it or not, that is our global reality.

I know all of my fellow light workers are powerful healers, with deep empathic abilities and loving intentions for the transformation of this world. So where was the love on Friday?  Why aren’t we bonding together to meditate and send healing to these people? I’m still trying to figure that one out.

I once posted a blog on Chakra Center about hugging trees and to-date it’s had more views, feedback and shares than any other article I’ve posted on this site, even more than my call out for a meditation of love for the people in the Sandy Hook Elementary school tragedy.

Light workers! What’s with the silence? It is in times like these when your love and powerful abilities are needed most.  It is in deep suffering that people need to know they are not alone. In order for pain to heal, it must first be validated, then we must do our best to surround them with the love within us.

We should never let a problem to be solved, a fear of “low vibration,” or any “New Age” belief become more important than a person to be loved.

Just something to think about.

Connecticut Community Copes With Aftermath Of Elementary School Mass Shooting

Holding a Space of Love for Sandy Hook Elementary

In place of our regular Meditation Monday post, we are asking all bear heartof our readers to hold a special meditation prayer for the peace and comfort of the beautiful lives lost on Friday in the Sandy Hook Elementary school shooting. We were also inspired by a post on Facebook from one sister of light:

“I’ve been racking my brain and heart on how to actively move forward in love to counter-act (on some level) what  happened to the children, teachers, families, and community in Connecticut. An idea came to me that I thought I would share:

My kids and I are going to do 26 acts of love and kindness, one for every angel that just entered heaven. We will help light the lanterns of hope, Gods love and unfailing light in what seems to be very dark times. I invite anyone who wants to do the same…

LET’S ALL DO THIS AND ENCOURAGE OTHERS AS WELL IN HONOR OF REMEMBRANCE OF ALL THE SWEET ANGELS! IMAGINE THE RIPPLE EFFECT IT COULD HAVE ON OUR WORLD!! Every person that you do an act of kindess for will usually pay it forward and the impact of LOVE it could spread would be amazing!! ♥” – Nicole Ramirez (and idea inspired by her sister, Jennie Larsen).

Love is more powerful than hate. Although we can’t take away the suffering of those involved in this tragedy, we can do our part in heart planethelping to hold a space of love for this small community. We can pray for the healing of their hearts and the hearts of those around the world that face atrocities like this every day. We can keep our faith in humanity, and choose to believe the true nature of all people is love. We can use our wisdom to remember all pain, all psychosis, and all evil acts stem from a place of suffering. We can choose to face our own shadows with compassion. We can use our thoughts and emotions to create a world where this kind of pain no longer exists.

We cannot combat hate with hate. Love is the only solution. Love is the answer.

Please consider joining us in 27 special acts of kindness, each in remembrance of the lives lost at Sandy Hook Elementary. And continue to pray for the suffering of everyone around the world.

Feel free to share your stories with us here at Charka Center.

Let’s spread love! The world desperately needs it.

Namaste.

For each act of kindness you give this holiday season, consider doing it in the name of one of these 27 beautiful souls:

– Charlotte Bacon, Female, 02-22-06 

– Daniel Barden, Male, 09-25-05

– Rachel Davino, Female, 07-17-83 

– Olivia Engel, Female, 07-18-06

– Josephine Gay, Female, 12-11-05

– Ana Marquez-Greene, Female, 04-04-06

– Dylan Hockley, Male, 03-08-06 

- Dawn Hochsprung, Female, 06-28-65

– Madeleine F. Hsu, Female, 07-10-06

– Catherine V. Hubbard, Female, 06-08-06

– Chase Kowalski, Male, 10-31-05 

– Jesse Lewis, Male, 06-30-06

– James Mattioli, Male, 03-22-06

– Grace McDonnell, Female, 11-04-05

– Anne Marie Murphy, Female, 07-25-60

 – Emilie Parker, Female, 05-12-06

– Jack Pinto, Male, 05-06-06 

– Noah Pozner, Male, 11-20-06

– Caroline Previdi, Female, 09-07-06

– Jessica Rekos, Female, 05-10-06

– Avielle Richman, Female, 10-17-06

– Lauren Rousseau, Female, 06-?-82 

– Mary Sherlach, Female, 02-11-56

– Victoria Soto, Female, 11-04-85 

– Benjamin Wheeler, Male, 09-12-06

– Allison N. Wyatt, Female, 07-03-06