Join the Empowering Empaths Online Community

Empaths, Spirituality, Starseed Corner

For empaths seeking a community of support and encouragement, empathic abilitiesI have created a free, private online Facebook group.

Much like the online classes I’ve taught in the past, this group will be a place where I share videos about healing and understanding empathic abilities, as well as excerpts from my upcoming book, Empathic Healing.

Members can join for free, invite others to the group, share  experiences, ask any questions, and even post their own videos too! All are welcome, but only members can see what’s posted.

My intention is for empaths to have a safe place where they feel empowered and supported. All videos/info I post will only be available through this private group, so as to attract only those who are interested in the topic of empathic abilities and want to connect with like minds.

To join, simply request to be added on the Facebook forum.

I look forward to connecting with you!


Empathic Entanglement

30 day challenge, Body Work, Empaths, Online Classes/Retreats, Spirituality

cropped-chakra-center2.jpgWhat happens when empaths unite to learn from each other/empower their abilities? Major expansion! I am simply blown away by the amount of information/growth I’ve experienced in the “Empowering Empathic Abilities” online class and challenge.

So as to not leave anyone out, I thought I’d send some of the most recent audios. Feel free to leave your feedback/comments/impressions. It’s amazing what happens when empaths unite and share their experiences. Empowerment is an understatement! I’ve learned so much from everyone in the class and am reminded how connecting with others makes me 100 times stronger! Talk about stretching!

Thank you to everyone who has participated this far! So much more to come!

And for those of you interested in The Art of Empathic Shapeshifting, the online class starts on the 21st (Friday)! We’d love to have you!

Empathic Shapeshifting:

Healing Empathic Burn-out by Shapeshifting with Nature:

Empathic Shadow Work:

Empathic Entanglement:

Healing the BS (Belief System) Surrounding Your Sexuality:

How to Deal with Low Vibrational States:

Transmitting Energy Through the Sacral Chakra:

The Art of Empathic Shapeshifting Online Class

Empaths, Online Classes/Retreats, Spirituality

The Art of Empathic Shapeshifting Online Class Feb. 24th – March 11th 2014

In this class we will be exploring, in depth, the empathic art of shapeshifting.

What is empathic shapeshifting, you may ask?

It’s the ability to shift your energy/vibration to be the projection of what a person needs (or a fun way of describing how one lowers/raises their vibration to match their environment).

I call it an “art” because like all natural abilities, it must be honed and cultivated to really reveal its true beauty/power.

Most empaths shapeshift unconsciously, but because they’re not aware of what’s taking place, it can cause them to feel alone, unknown, invisible, and unsure of who and what they really are. It can also cause them to jump into other people’s paradigms that aren’t the most beneficial for their growth/expansion.

Learning to actively and consciously shapeshift (and when to turn it off) is crucial to thriving as an empath. Once empaths learn to control this ability and direct their focus, shapeshifting can be quite a fun/unexpected journey into other realms (and much more effective in helping others).

Understanding this ability and how to function in a healthy/balanced energy grid while practicing the art of shapeshifting is what this class is all about.

For those of you have taken my “Empowering Empathic Abilities” online course (or those who are joining in on the 21 Day Empowering Empathic Abilities Challenge), this is a perfect “next step.” But anyone who is interested can take this course. All are welcome!

This class is intended for empaths who already understand who and what they are, but want to move forward in fine-tuning their abilities.

TO REGISTER for the class, fill out the form below and complete yinnyangyour purchase through Paypal. The entirety of the class will be held in a private Facebook forum. I will post weekly videos/workshop content, as well as be available daily to answer any questions you may have. The forum format also gives participants the opportunity to interact with each other, have personal access to me, and even post video responses to the material (should you wish to do so).

*Please make sure to register with the email you have associated to Facebook so I can add you to the forum.

Class begins Feb. 24th – March 11th

This two week course is only $22.

*Your spot will not be reserved until payment is received.

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Empathy and Weight Gain

Body Work, Empaths, Uncategorized

Yes. They are linked.

Most doctors and psychologist focus on the ‘depression’ aspect of uncontrollable weight gain, but the connection with extreme sensitivity to other people’s emotions is often overlooked.

In the “spiritual community” there’s a permeating false idea floating around that to be spiritual means to look like a supermodel. Maybe it’s the frenzy with social media spirituality (who’s the most popular and 100% raw?!), but it seems our societal obsession with perfection has lead us to believe that if we don’t look a certain way, we’re just not spiritual enough (as if women need one more thing to feel guilty about).

Some of the most tuned-in, loving, wise, altruistic people I know carry a few extra pounds. Many of my clients who have extreme empathic/psychic abilities almost universally struggle with weight gain and/or health issues. This is due to the way their body translates the energy of others around them.

Often, this over-sensitivity to environment/people stems from a childhood of abuse. In order to compensate for the overhaul of energy felt by those with empathic abilities, their bodies will often carry extra weight as a type of insulation between themselves and others (it’s a form of self- protection).

Even after they’ve worked through their emotional issues/past abuse, many empaths find the extra weight is the last adaptive mechanism remaining with them. Because the excess physical insulation has been so psychologically useful to them in dealing with others’ emotions (and their own), it is often difficult to build the neuropath ways to other soothing forms of self-comfort. Learning to self-sooth is one of the most important healing modalities an empath can learn.

What’s interesting about weight gain caused by empathic abilities, is that often those carrying the extra pounds do not over eat (though some do). Many overweight empaths eat extremely healthy vegan and/or raw food diets. It can be frustrating for these people to lose weight because the issue is emotional/psychological, not an eating obsession or lack of self-control.

The most self-aware empaths are conscious about their body’s tendency to hold on to weight and learn to accept/love themselves as they are. But I find so often that they (women in particular) carry an enormous sense of guilt and shame when it comes to their weight, constantly feeling the need to “fix” themselves. This added stress often leads to additional weight gain.

I personally have dealt with this issue my entire life, often going on extreme (and potentially harmful) deprivation diets in an effort to rid myself of my body’s natural response to processing an overabundance of energy.

Through much therapy and emotional awareness, I’m learning how to have balance and control over how my empathic abilities affect me, and I find that the more I accept my body as it is, the more grounded and powerful I become.

As I’ve learned to love myself unconditionally, I’ve notice my body holds on to less and less weight, because it feels safe with me. It feels loved. Self loves soothes the body and helps it feel less vulnerable in this chaotic world of emotions.

I wanted to send this out for any of you empaths out there who struggle with your weight and feel guilty because of it. Don’t.

Carrying extra weight does not make you any less spiritual or less valuable than anyone else on the planet. Learn to love and accept yourself. Thank your body for how it protects and takes care of you. I promise it will do wonders in your overall health and sense of well-being!

Self-acceptance is always the first step to self-love (which is the ultimate state of enlightenment).

Much love, family!

Mental Health: How Being an Empath Can Ruin Relationships

Empaths, Features, The Heart Chakra, The Third Eye Chakra


Empaths and relationships. It’s that underbelly hot topic that many people in the “New Age” community tend to ignore. But I think it’s important to understand the Shadow aspects of all things, because the more self-awareness we become, the more growth and expansion can occur in our lives.

One of the biggest problems I’ve seen (both in my own life and with empathic clients I’ve worked with) is the issue of co-dependent relationships. Most empaths see this happen in their lives at least once, if not over and over. It can be hard for an empathic person to learn healthy boundaries because they naturally (and subconsciously) spend so much time exploring other people’s auras, that it can be difficult to know where they end and the other person begins.

I found this article to be highly informative, honest, and exactly the tendencies many of us empaths need to understand about ourselves in order to develop healthy relationships and break the damaging patterns of co-dependency.  I hope it helps shed light on some of the more destructive aspects of empathy.

By Marilisa Sachteleben

Fourteen years ago, I discovered I’m an empath. I always knew, even as a child, that I felt others; pain, but it was good to discover that intense sensitivity had a name. Empath Guide defines it well: Criticism, suffering, hurt, humiliation, shame are hard enough for me to bear. Watching others feel them is agonizing. Knowing I’m an empath explains a lot about my interpersonal struggles. It can ruin or heal relationships.

* I can read hearts. Sympathy is feeling for another person while staying inside one’s self. Empathy is feeling with someone. It’s like I live inside their heads and hearts. I understand others’ motives and reasons better than they sometimes do. I make excuses for them they’ve never thought of.

* I’m in constant pain. Empaths often act depressed. We are. Continually feeling others’ pain is exhausting. Sometimes, it’s plain miserable. It’s like having the weight of the world, with all its sin, hurt and sorrow on our shoulders.

* I’m paranoid. As an empath mom and wife, I feel a flood of compassion, sympathy and closeness with my family. That’s good, except that I worry about them 24-7-365. I could easily become a “smother mother.” I read about a mom who couldn’t let her kids out of her sight for fear something might happen and she wouldn’t be there to stop it. I know how that feels. Other parents, sometimes spouses and kids, most of society doesn’t get that. They just think we’re over-controlling, helicopter paranoiacs. We are. We have to be. Empathy dictates that we be constantly vigilant.

* I try to control others. Because empaths feel everyone’s pain, we start to believe we’re responsible for it and can stop it. The guilt is all-consuming. To assuage it, we try to correct, fix and change others’ behavior. We hope to stop them hurting themselves and us by default.

* I drive people away. I had my empath epiphany at a roller-skating party. A stranger fell and broke her arm. I began to sob and shake. I was incoherent. I felt her arm pain, shock and fright. My friends felt sorry for her, but were horrified by my reaction. One said, “Mar, you really take the gospel injunction to ‘bear one another’s burdens’ seriously!” They acted wary of me after that. And these were friends.

* I’m crazy-vulnerable. If friends can’t take extreme empathy, imagine how raw an empath is with unsafe people. We easily fall prey to victimizers and predators. I have been scolded, shamed, punished, abused, mocked and taken advantage of because of my empathy. Empaths are an addict’s codependent-mate fantasy!

* Empathy is a gift and a curse. Being able to get inside someone else’s heart is a double-edged sword. I’ve seen things that will never cease to traumatize me. Compassion frankly hurts. And all the while I’m being hurt, I kept on empathizing. I intuitively understand where behavior comes from. I can never really be angry with anyone because I can’t distance from them. Anger at someone else is just anger at myself.

* I have panic attacks. This part is the hardest to admit, but the most necessary for me and other empaths to hear. In my agony, I have melted down and hurt myself and those I love. Weird isn’t it, that I would hurt those who I worry most about protecting. I used to feel unbearable guilt for this. Now I realize it’s the logical result of so much inner torment. When loved ones do things to hurt themselves, they’re hurting me doubly. When I rage at them, it’s myself I’m livid with.

My story is still being written, but I think it’s going to have a happy ending. I’m fortunate to have a loving family who supports me. I’m learning to recognize obsessive empathy and redirect it. I’m using this existential crisis to understand myself, my relationships and my purpose. I’m seeking positive outlets so I’m not engulfed by angst. I’m finding healthy diversions and channels for my empathy.

(originally published on Yahoo!).


Understanding Empathic Abilities

The Crown Chakra, Uncategorized

A few months ago I did a video on understanding empathic abilities. Since then I have received questions from people all over the world who are finally realizing they are empathic but unsure how to control it or what to do with it.

Any of you who who are reading this post probably understand that having extremely active empathic abilities can be emotionally overwhelming and even scary at times. Public places can feel like an emotional war zone and anxiety can become a daily struggle.

Many people who have powerful empathic abilities don’t have the empathy womanslightest clue what is happening to them. They just feel everything deeply, and it often seems as if their emotions are controlling them. How could they possibly know that this circus of emotions within them is in fact, a gift, and part of how they have chosen to heal humanity?

Often those with highly developed empathic abilities write themselves off as “emotional” at best, or psychologically unbalanced at worst.

The good news is, there are ways we can learn to control our empathic abilities and use them to our advantage.

To even begin to comprehend the seemingly endless well of emotions within us, we must learn to truly embrace and accept that our emotions are our greatest tool, our guidance system, our compass, and our best our friend. Emotions are not the enemy.

Now let’s get to work on understanding them:

1. Find out where the emotion is coming from

Each time you feel a strong negative or overwhelming emotion, ask yourself whether it belongs to you, or whether it is coming from someone else external from you. Your intuition will know. Listen to it.

2. Embrace the emotion (don’t bypass!)

If the emotion is in fact your own, try to embrace it. Allow yourself to empathy self soothing feel it fully, and tell yourself it is OK to feel. Imagine you are looking at the emotion from a higher perspective — almost as if you are outside of your body, viewing yourself and your emotions remotely. This will help give you some objectivity. Notice what you observe about yourself from this higher perspective.

3. Discover the core belief, validate it and sooth it

Ask yourself what the core belief of your emotion is (what thoughts are you thinking that are causing you to feel the negative emotion?). Feel where the emotion is inside your body (our bodies carry emotion in a very real and tangible way). Imagine your crown chakra opening-up and Source energy (unconditional love) pouring through your body, directly to the area where your emotion is stored. Allow the energy of Source to love and sooth you.

4. Shift your focus

After you’ve spent time validating and soothing your emotions, try to find thoughts that feel better than whatever thought it is that is causing the negative emotion. Finding any thought that makes you feel better (even if it is only slightly better) is a step in the right direction.

Change your focus. This is where a lot of people go wrong in their attempt at “positive thinking.” It’s not about ignoring how you feel, or trying to pile up a bunch of happy thoughts upon sad ones. It’s about recognizing the emotion, validating it, sending it love energy, and then shifting your focus away from it. Some emotions need more time than others to heal, but ultimately your goal is to validate and accept them with love and change your focus. Imagine the soothing energy you give the emotions literally transforming them into other things — new thoughts.

5. Transmute 

If you realize the negative emotion you have is not yours (but coming heartstone empathy from outside of you) this is when you transmute. Put up a beautiful white light around you, and imagine the emotion going through it and being transformed. This is where you become a true alchemist. Imagine the emotion (like sadness, for example) being transformed into joy, and then send it back out into the Universe.It is easier to do this when the feelings you are transmuting are not your own, because you  realize you have no attachment to it. You only need to recognize those emotions that are not yours in order to be free from them.

For me, the more I use visualization the better. When you are shielding, for example, use your imagination. What makes you feel the most joy, comfort, and peace? What colors do you want to surround yourself with? How would you like others to feel after their energy has been transmuted through your alchemy shield? Infuse your shield with all of your powerful intentions.

Because you are entangled with each person to whom you share emotions with, you will certainly feel the lifting of emotion when you transform emotional energy, whether it’s yours or not. When you send transmuted energy back into the Universe, the person whom the emotion came from will feel the difference — even if they don’t quite recognize what has occurred. This is how you heal. Your abilities are a gift.

6. Embrace your gift

Recognize that this is your gift to the world. It is the way you heal, and it is a beautiful gift indeed. Strong empathic abilities are not something to be feared, but rather embraced.

7. Shield (comfort)

If you are incredibly empathic and sensitive to other people’s emotions, it is a good idea to ALWAYS shield yourself before going out into public places.

Shielding does not need to come from a place of fear, but rather love. protectionLove for yourself and others. It is not about hiding from your gifts, it’s about learning to use them in a way that best serves humanity. Soothing yourself with white light helps you learn to see thought forms and emotions that “bounce” off your shield (or are transmuted through your shield) without your conscious thought. You can put this intention into your shield — the intention that the light will surround you with comfort and keep your love energy in a high vibrational state while transmuting negative energy.

If you feel like you’ve tried everything and yet continue to struggle with understanding and controlling your empathic abilities, it might be helpful to have a life activation intuitive reading from someone who knows about this kind of stuff. The sooner you recognize this is your gift and learn to use it, the more free you will become. There are many incredible healers and intuitive workers out there who can help you. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support.

Much love!


Here is the original video I did on Understanding Empathic Abilities: