Monday’s Magic: Soothing the Emotional Body

Aromatherapy, Empaths, The Heart Chakra, The Throat Chakra

A Daily Affirmation for Self-Soothing

I Am – Letting go of my self-concept

Today I see and validate that I Am – and that is more than enough. love energy3

I allow my emotions to flow like a powerful river and I thank them for being my allies in this experience in the physical.

I Am a powerful creator and I know my thoughts and emotions are creating the reality I see before me

Therefore I direct my focus inward – to the causal plane.

I embrace the tremendous power of the NOW and choose to bring 100% of my focus into the present moment.

In this moment I embrace and accept all that I feel, and I choose to direct my focus in flow of relief/validation/and self-love – in a way that gives to my emotional body a deep soothing comfort.

I acknowledge that my emotions are my superpower, and I choose to listen to their wise counsel, always bringing in the Wisdom of my Higher Self to help decide the best course of action for my moment.

This moment is eternal as I am eternal. There are no limitations and no time rush. I have time to feel how I feel and give myself what I need. There is space for me to bask in the delicious and soothing energy of self-care.

love energyI know that through this self-care, I will be more whole, more powerful, more creative, more authentic, more compassionate, and a wiser human.

By allowing myself to FEEL I am causing the expansion of the entire Universe – letting All that *is* be apart of my unique perspective.

It is an honor to be in this human body and feel my way through this existence. I am eternally grateful for this power that has been bestowed on me in this moment, and I choose to use it to the fullest potential of each and every *now* the Universe offers me.

I trust the Love of the Existence and receive in it the deepest parts of my soul, in all the places that have lost hope or feel fear. I allow unconditional LOVE to heal all of me, to be present with me in every moment with every emotion.

I will never abandonment myself again, but will do my best to show up and be present to my emotions, trusting in the wisdom of the Universe to guide me into Joy.

I give myself grace. I forgive everyone, everywhere, in all timelines, especially myself.

I receive the moment and all that it has to offer. I am free.

Monday’s Magic: The Power of Receiving Self-Care

Empaths, The Heart Chakra, The Throat Chakra

For the past 3 months I’ve been contemplating the energies of giving and receiving. Not just because these are the yinyangenergies of the sacral chakra (one of the most traumatized and blocked chakras for most people in our earth journey) but because really, if you pay attention, their essence is identical. Giving and receiving are really just different sides of the same coin — you can’t have one without the other. If we don’t allow ourselves to receive, we have nothing to give, and if we don’t give, we don’t have room to receive. It moves. The painful part of either side is when we stop the flow.

The Universe has been challenging me to receive more. Receive self-love, self-care, wisdom, guidance, and understanding of the opposites in my life (particularly the opposites that have brought the most pain).

Loosing my mother was one of them — probably the most painful trauma of my life. And it wasn’t just her death — it was all the trauma surrounding her death: watching cancer eat her alive, being left in the dark about what was *really* going on (I was only 12), having to move in with my dad (whom I didn’t really know), and worst of all, being molested by a family friend while this was all happening.

I’ve spent over 8 years in therapy just trying to process that trauma — which felt like one dramatic kick from the Universe all at once — and all aimed at my lower chakras (my ability to survive in this world).

Recently, my aunt died. She was my mom’s sister and the last of my mom’s entire family. She’s also basically filled the role of my mom since she my mother died, and while she never tried to replace her, she was there. She existed.

I thought I was prepared for her death. She was sick and we knew it was coming for awhile — but when it happened it felt like a finality I was not expecting. My Uncle (her brother) died a week before her, and that was it. All my mom’s family gone. It was not just an end to my aunt’s life, but it felt like an ending to everything about my mother.

All the houses we lived in when she was alive are torn down. Even the place she worked for 15 years is gone. It feels like the memory of her has been wiped off the face of the earth, and my aunt’s death was the final nail in the coffin.

And I was heart broken.

When my mom died I wasn’t allowed to grieve. I didn’t know how, and neither did anyone around me. All my siblings were in love energy3too much shock — too much grief. And my father’s way of coping was to act like nothing happened. He took me and my sister to a movie on the day of her death (Aladin), and while I know his heart was to get our minds off things, it felt to me like he was saying, “It’s just an ordinary day. We have to move on and keep living — there is no time for your feelings.” Something in me died that day.

On the day my aunt died a similar situation happened — a family baby shower was the same day, and due to certain circumstances the decision was made by family members to still have the shower. And while it was nobody’s fault and just the way the cards were dealt, I felt like, once again, the world around me was saying “you don’t get to grieve. just put on a smile and act like nothing happened.”

I couldn’t do it. Something within me rose up like a red hot flame — all the anger I have ever felt in my life — all the injustice of a world that doesn’t seem to leave any room for grief — every thing inside of me refused to let it happen again — refused to not allow the grief to matter. Everything in me was screaming inside: “NO! I GET TO GRIEVE! HOW I FEEL MATTERS…I REFUSE TO ABANDON MYSELF AGAIN!” And I didn’t go. I couldn’t go. I was in too much of an emotional trigger and the last thing I wanted to do was go to a baby shower with 30 people I didn’t know and pretend to be happy.

Inevitably people’s feelings got hurt. But I was past the point of no return. I was in too much of my own trigger/pain to care. I still don’t have the ability to put any energy toward that — though I logically care about people’s feelings, I have NO emotional validation to give. And to be honest, I’m proud of myself. I feel that if I would have swallowed my feelings and went, I would have re-triggered one of the most painful experiences in my life — I would have abandoned my emotions and given-in to the external world, agreeing with the message that how I feel doesn’t matter.

Something has shifted in me since I made that decision. Not only did I show up for myself and give myself what I needed, I have fiercely protected and defended it — I have refused on EVERY level to feel guilty about my decision. I simply won’t do it. Guilt, after all, is the emotion that blocks the sacral chakra — affecting our ability to give and receive. I knew that if I allowed guilt to be apart of my experience, I would not be able to receive the healing needed.

And somewhere in that red hot flame of self-protection, I’ve learned how much the Universe loves me. I decided to take my own advice and ask myself every day — every 5 minutes, really, how I feel and what I need. And the answer has been space. So I’ve given it to myself. I’ve spent nearly 3 weeks in almost total isolation (minus the occasional talk with a friend or family member).

In this time, I have received more healing, more love, more understanding, more comfort, and more inner-strength than I quantum-energy-healingEVER have in my entire life. And although from the outside it may seem like I’m avoiding people, not being there for others who are grieving, what I’m really doing is embracing all the inner needs and depths of my trauma I have avoided up to this point (so that I will have something to give when the time is right). I am re-establishing trust with myself and beginning to really believe it when I say “I will never abandon you again.”

Thank God for the ability to receive. Thank God for self-care and self love. These past 3 weeks have restored me to a new level of inner-peace and strength — and it has given me the time and focus to heal a deeply buried wound.

So this must be what the tipping point feels like. I am here, where I feel like I can come out of my cocoon and give back — move all the energy I have received. I have drank deeply from the nourishment of God’s peace and comfort. And I’ve done so without guilt. That’s the best part of receiving — when we can do so FREELY.

It’s amazing, really, the way this hologram gives us continuous opportunities to heal old wounds by having similar circumstances occur again and again until we are finally able to receive the healing. But we can only receive healing by giving ourselves permission to do so — permission to matter.

I feel a new peace. My mother feels closer than ever — because I’ve finally allowed myself to receive her. I received her presence these past three weeks, and I’ve said goodbye to my aunt, more thankful than ever for what she was to me while she was here.

Thanks for loving and supporting me right where I am. Thanks for not putting me on pedestal and making me have to be anything I am not. And thank you for being honestly where YOU are. We all are where we are, and that is perfection.

This New Year, commit to giving yourself the gift of self-love. Receive ALL the Universe has for you in THIS moment, so you have something truly of substance to give back. Let 2015 be a year of truly giving and receiving all the gifts of Source.

Have a magical Monday!

Happy Winter Solstice: Bring Back the Treasures of Darkness!

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Can you feel it? We’re Shifting in life-altering ways. As we’ve put our focus on empowering ourselves/taking back our energy/untangling our thoughts and emotions from other people and giving ourselves what we need to be healthy and thrive, a certain inner clarity is arising. The Universal OM is emerging from our inner-most places of darkness.

In my experience, it feels like my inner Shaman is unusually active and helping me go through some of the deepest realms midwinter-magic-260of my subconscious fears. These Shamanic journeys into my own inner realms have also shown me the vibrational boarders of many of my defense mechanisms (after all, we have come to realize that much of our “empathic ability” developed as a form of survival in this world). In other words, I’ve been exploring/healing/and integrating trigger points on my emotional body, and to be honest, there have been moments where it is scary as f**k!

BUT, through all of this, I am finding my inner-strength — the Goddess — the Mother and protector of the sacred realms of emotions, the Wise Crone, the Hag — all the treasures of my inner-world (the Underworld) and all the most valuable secrets of femininity. I can honestly say I am going through a level of empowerment that I have NEVER felt in this lifetime. Ever. It is amazing and terrifying all at the same time. The Universe is asking me to redefine all of my relationships, to evaluate my sense of worth, and to “unplug” as much as humanly possible from diving into other people’s emotional bodies. It is only in THIS way that I am TRULY seeing who I am, what I *really* feel, and what I truly need.

I am strengthening my vibrational boarders — meaning ANY vibrational resonances that is close/similar to past relational tendencies I am healing, clearing, shifting out of (and sometimes, even having to lay the smack down with).

During one mediation I saw a black leopard come out of me — a power animal aspect that I have LONG suppressed (and black panthershe’s SO badass — with a type of strength and sense of personal boundaries that I was unable to access until now). When she came out, she stretched (the way cats do) and then started “patrolling” my vibrational boarders. A few times old vibrations (tendencies/relational stuff) have come-up — and she just knocks them out — the way a cat will bat things out of their way. She gracefully and unapologetically says “No. You don’t belong here.” I have felt so empowered by her presence — so inspired by her grace and form.

This is what we’re doing. We’re waking up. We’re connecting to our inner-strength (and our MAGIC). We’re healing. And we’re changing — for the better. For the SHIFT.

I’ll be talking a lot more about vibrational boarders in my Healing and Empowering the Emotional Body” class, and sharing how I have accessed my inner Shaman, working with power animals to go into our “otherworlds,” and empowering ourselves through our OWN emotional bodies (taking our focus back). I feel this is THE MOST IMPORTANT work I’ve done to date in my life and I’m curious to hear how it’s going for all of you, too.

I’ll do a video on this in the next day or so. In the meantime I just wanted to share a bit about my travels through my inner-dimensions — and I’m bringing back with me all the treasures of darkness.

Happy Solstice!

Responsibility: The Key to Self- Empowerment for Empaths

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When we don’t own how we feel, when we don’t take responsibility chakra solarfor our emotions and accept them without judgment (even the negative ones) we disempower ourselves. We make other people responsible for our emotions and then we feel powerless to the effect their attitude has on us (for good or for ill).

The problem with shifting the responsibility of our emotions onto the world “out there” is that it leaves us with no other option but to blame, fight, and resent.

As empaths, it is especially crucial not to fall into the trap of blaming others for how we feel. Just because we may be able to pick up on the emotions and feelings of others, does not make our emotional stability their responsibility or their fault (and vice versa). We are the only ones that have the power and insight to recognize how we feel, validate it, and do what we need to do to take care of ourselves. Nobody else has the capacity to do it for us. If we don’t do it, it won’t get done.

Of course, we don’t always know how we feel. Sometimes we don’t realize how we feel until days, sometimes weeks after an event occurs. That’s okay. It just means we’re out of practice with listening to our emotional selves. Start asking yourself every day, every 5 minutes if you have to, “How do I feel?
“What do I need?”

Validation of our emotions is crucial. While friends/family, therapists, etc. can be amazing tools for helping us learn to validate ourselves, ultimately WE have to have the final say on whether or not our emotions are valid (and they are!). If we don’t validate (once and for all) that EVERY EMOTION we feel belongs here (even if it may be out of context), we will constantly feel the need to seek that validation from the outside world around us. And that is the ultimate form of disempowerment.

Yes. Sometimes we need reminders. We’re human. We’ve all been heart chakra glowprogrammed to believe we are powerless. We’ve all bought into the lie that to care about how we feel is “selfish” and that sacrificing our needs for the needs of others is some kind of holy virtue. And of course, altruism is a beautiful thing. But not at the expense of our health. If we don’t take care of ourselves, we’ll have NOTHING to offer the world – and certainly not the best parts of us– and that is the truly selfish crime.

At those times we do feel we need support and validation from those around us, we can – by all means – seek it out. But it’s important for us to remember that sometimes the best “support” will come in the form of nobody validating us – nobody showing up. In fact, it is in those times where we feel utterly alone and abandoned that we often find our greatest strength. The truth is, in some cases, not having support is exactly what we need to finally recognize how crucial it is for us to show up for ourselves. That’s when we find out what we’re made of.

We all must come to a point where we realize, if we don’t validate/love/take care of our emotions, nobody else will. It is in those times where we realize we DO have what it takes to love ourselves, and THAT is when true healing can begin.

When you are feeling invalidated and unsupported by the world self love 2around you, remember that you are your greatest guide and the world around you (no matter WHAT the circumstances may be) is your greatest teacher. YOU have strength within you (and the power of Source/Love/God). You have access to that unending fountain of hope, love, and support and it is CRUCIAL that you find it. It is within. As Jesus said, “the kingdom of God is within you.” It is when we take responsibility for ourselves that we can truly begin our journey to the kingdom inside our own hearts.

In order to feel empowered and truly heal we must take responsibility for:

*How we feel

*What we need (and give ourselves that)

AND

*What we are creating

WE are the creators of our lives. Every day each thought/feeling/inspiration/decision we make is literally shaping our future.

Take the driver’s seat of your life. Start caring about how you feel and what you need above all else. Begin to believe you have something within you that is truly worth giving to the world, and it’s not the half-empty, run-down “self-sacrificer” you’ve been told you have to be, but something FAR more powerful, loving, and inspiring.

How you feel matters. You matter. Own that and experience the wonder of true empowerment.

Advice for Empaths

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For those of you who may have missed it, below is my interview with intuitive and spiritual teacher, Teal Swan. Teal is an experienced empath who has a lot of experience teaching other empaths and highly sensitive people how to not only cope with their sensitivities, but to thrive. Invaluable advice:

 

Empowering Empathic Abilities Online Class

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Ever since I taught the first “Empowering Empathic Abilities” online class, I have had many emails and comments asking when I will teach the next one. Because I started the Empowering Empathic Abilities online Facebook community, I am moving away from teaching live classes.

The good news is that I am now making all my previous classes available for automatic download. I am in the process of re-recording all the videos from the previous classes (and adding new content/assignments as well). These will be entirely new and improved classes.

Empowering Empathic Abilities is now offered as a pre-recorded class.

In this course I cover

  • How to feel safe and empowered as an empath
  • Healing the Emotional Body
  • Good energetic hygiene for empaths
  • How to own your power as an empath
  • Allow your power to be perceived
  • Empathic abilities and weight gain
  • The role guilt plays in unhealed empaths
  • Breaking out of the aggressor, victim, savior paradigm
  • Empathic Shapeshifting
  • Creating new energy grids in the auric field
  • And more...

You can purchase this class through the paypal button below. Once your payment is received, you will receive a link to a password protected page with all material, videos, audios, etc.

Price: $22

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The Importance of Daily Emotional Check-ins

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One of my latest articles from Lotus Effect:

Feeling out-of-touch with our emotions is an all-to-common ailment among society today. Most of us are too busy fulfilling our obligations, taking care of other people’s needs, and simply surviving, that we forget to stop and listen to our own wants and needs. When we finally do check-in, we realize there is an avalanche of emotions, wounds, resentments, energetic cords attaching us to others, and trauma that has too often been left to fester and infect.

We would never ignore a broken leg or physical wound in the body, but most of us allow our emotional broConcept image of a lost and confused signpost against a blue cloudy sky.kenness to go untended for years, and then wonder why we feel crippled. Exploring our own emotional worlds can be scary, yes, but ignoring them can be detrimental. By doing daily emotional check-ins, we can ease our way into the world of our (often confusing) emotions and learn how to become experts in our own self-care.

Daily emotional check-ins should be as natural to us as bushing our teeth.

Here’s how to do to it:

Put a notebook by your bed. Upon waking each morning ask yourself the following questions:

“How do I feel?”

“What do I need?”

Write whatever comes to you. If you can’t access your emotions empathic abilitiesright away, connect to your body first. What sensations do you feel in your body and where? Can you attach any emotion to those sensations? What might those emotions be connected to? Listen, honor, and respect these emotions. Our emotions are our guidance system. They are our compass to help us see WHERE WE ARE so we know how to get to WHERE WE WANT TO BE.

Once you’ve accessed what you feel (and write it down) ask yourself what you need. It is important to trust your first instinct and do your best to honor the answer you receive. If it’s chocolate, indulge. If it’s a walk, enjoy a stroll. If it’s support, call a friend. If it’s relaxation, take a warm bath. Your Higher Self always knows what you need on an emotional/energetic level, and your body is brilliant at communicating its necessities too. You need only ask. And listen. Your true, Higher Guidance won’t tell you to do things to simply numb or suppress your emotions, but it will always lead you in the direction of healthy relief.

The purpose of writing down your responses is so you can notice any patterns that may emerge. At the end of every week, look through your notebook and notice any consistent themes. Do this also at the end of every month, and even year. Not only will this give you intimate knowledge of your own emotional habits, you’ll also see patterns in specific seasons and times of year and learn to be preemptive for times you can predict you may be energetically or emotionally more vulnerable.

Doing daily emotional maintenance will cause you to be an expert in your own self-care and give you the tools you need to truly thrive.

5 Ways to Align with the Energies of Fall

Empaths, Spirituality

Check-out my latest article from Lotus Effect:

Fall is a perfect time to align our own energy with the earth’s changing season. Here are 5 ways to energetically harmonize with the essence of autumn:

*Count your blessings: Fall is a time of harvest, and a perfect fall lovetime to count your blessings. Science has proven that the feeling of gratitude produces an incredibly high frequency in our bodies, and when our vibes are high, we attract more goodness into our lives. As the colder months come and the darkness closes in, having gratitude for the abundant harvest is an excellent way to line-up with our highest potential for the fall. Ring in the season with a gratitude journal and make a commitment to write down daily what you are thankful for.

*Balance your chakras in nature: Fall is one of the most beautiful times of year, and with all the lower chakra colors (red, orange, and yellow) in full bloom, it’s a perfect time to balance, clear, and activated your connection to earth and the physical body. Get out in nature and spend time with the vibrancy of the earth’s final blush before her winter slumber. It’s guaranteed to give your body the energy it needs to take on the longer days of darkness.

*Find a balanced routine: As the days get shorter and the access to direct sunlight depletes, it is important to spend our days in balance. Studies have shown that synching our routine with the sun can greatly increase our mental and emotional stability, as well as balance our circadian rhythms. Balancing our routine with the change in weather patterns and sun exposure will do wonders in helping us feel balanced and healthy for the coming of winter.

*Give: Fall is a time of harvest, a time of abundance – a time to reap what we have sown. Energetically, the time is ripe for giving. As we interact with the bright orange colors of fall, the sacral chakra is activated, and with it, our capacity to give and receive. Autumn is the perfect time to practice the art of giving, which gives our sacral chakra the opportunity to release some of its natural receiving energy which is activated in summer. Additionally, giving makes us feel good, which raises our vibration and puts us in a better energetic position to take on the colder months ahead.

*Embrace your shadows: Traditionally, the fall equinox is known as a time of descending into the underworld. Energetically this looks like going deep into our shadows and understanding the thoughts, intentions, and motivations that lurk in our subconscious mind. It’s a time of embracing all that we are and all that we could be. The earth’s energy during the fall season is the perfect time to do shadow integration.

If we use the energy of the season to balance and align our bodies with nature’s changing tides, we are bound to have a more enjoyable transition into the darkness.

Happy fall, everyone!

 

Feeling Crazy? Join the Party! (Lotus Effect)

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Because it’s relevant not only to my own life, but so many of the clients I’ve been working with, I thought I’d share another article I wrote for Lotus Effect (just to remind you you’re not alone!).

Feel Crazy? Join the Party!

Feeling more emotional or drained than usual? Don’t fret. The Earth energiesplanetary vibrations have been intense; from solar flares and super moons to mercury retrogrades, the energies of our world are at an all-time high.

Not only are astrological events affecting our emotional worlds, cell phone radiation and technological interference in our earth’s electromagnetic field affect how we think and feel. Not to mention, as the consciousness of the planet continues rise, all unhealed past trauma and negative patterns in our lives are coming to the surface. Past survival mechanisms/coping methods no longer work, and many people feel their emotional lives have become too difficult to manage.

Here is a list of 10 common symptoms people experience with the planet’s current energy flux:

  1. Sudden and unexpected bursts of emotion Earth energies
  2. Constantly feeling on the verge of tears
  3. Past memories/trauma resurfacing
  4. Relationships falling apart or under extreme pressure (more than usual)
  5. Headaches
  6. Unexplained thyroid and adrenal issues that cannot be healed
  7. Restless sleep
  8. Feeling overly tired and fatigued
  9. A sense of time standing still, speeding up, or not existing at all
  10. Feeling detached/disassociated from your body

For those who make the choice to line-up with these energies and allow their consciousness to shift, let go of outdated belief systems, and heal old wounds, the shift has proved to be not only bearable, but beneficial. Choosing the path of expansion is not always pleasant, but it’s necessary for survival.

If you’re having any of the above experiences, it’s important to own up to how you feel. The Universal energies are calling us all out – there is no more room to pretend, bypass, or suppress. It’s time to take care of our individual energy imprint on this planet and do the work to be healthy/balanced people. We are all responsible for what’s happening in our world because everything we think, feel, and do affects everyone.

Here are three important things you can do to start leveling up with the Universe:

  1. Consider how your current habits make you feel. Pay close attention to what you put in and around your body. What kind of music do you listen to? What is the quality of the food you eat? How do you spend your time? Everything you put in your body (and your mind) affects you and everyone around you. It is important to take good care of yourself and get in touch with what you truly need to be healthy.
  2. Do an emotional detox. Commit to healing any and all old energy patterns that continually repeat themselves. Pay attention to how you feel and allow old emotions to surface. Once they emerge, ask yourself what you need to heal and listen to what your intuition tells you. Distracting yourself and stuffing down emotions only gets the energy stuck in your body (which then manifests in physical ailments and disease). Plus, suppressing just doesn’t work anymore. It’s time to face how you feel and deal with it. You’ll feel better when you do.
  3. Do a physical detox. An herbal or juice cleanse works wonders at clearing out old energy stored in our bodies. Even giving your body a break from over stimulating food can be healing. Listen to your body and do whatever feels right to you, but commit to self-care. Your body works hard at keeping you healthy, and with the intense energies on the planet right now, it’s important to give it an extra boost.

Whatever you choose to do with this information, just remember, you’re not alone.

 

 

Join the Empowering Empaths Online Community

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For empaths seeking a community of support and encouragement, empathic abilitiesI have created a free, private online Facebook group.

Much like the online classes I’ve taught in the past, this group will be a place where I share videos about healing and understanding empathic abilities, as well as excerpts from my upcoming book, Empathic Healing.

Members can join for free, invite others to the group, share  experiences, ask any questions, and even post their own videos too! All are welcome, but only members can see what’s posted.

My intention is for empaths to have a safe place where they feel empowered and supported. All videos/info I post will only be available through this private group, so as to attract only those who are interested in the topic of empathic abilities and want to connect with like minds.

To join, simply request to be added on the Facebook forum.

I look forward to connecting with you!

Are You An Emotional Empath?

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Every once in awhile I need to be reminded it’s OK to be sensitive, emotional, and to have needs. That’s why I appreciate Judith Orloff’s perspective on empaths. As an M.D, psychiatrist, intuitive healer, and NY Times bestselling author, her advice is packed with years of experience working with empaths, as well as her seasoned mastery of her own empathic abilities. If you haven’t checked-out her work, I highly recommend it.

Are You An Emotional Empath? by Judith

Empaths are highly sensitive, finely tuned instruments when it comes to emotions. They feel everything, sometimes to an extreme, and are less apt to intellectualize feelings. Intuition is the filter through which they experience the world. Empaths are naturally giving, spiritually attuned, and good listeners. If you want heart, empaths have got it. Through thick and thin, they’re there for you, world-class nurturers.

The trademark of empaths is that they know where you’re coming from. Some can do this without taking on people’s feelings. However, for better or worse, others, like myself and many of my patients, can become angst-sucking sponges. This often overrides the sublime capacity to absorb positive emotions and all that is beautiful. If empaths are around peace and love, their bodies assimilate these and flourish. Negativity, though, often feels assaultive, exhausting. Thus, they’re particularly easy marks for emotional vampires, whose fear or rage can ravage empaths. As a subconscious defense, they may gain weight as a buffer. When thin, they’re more vulnerable to negativity, a missing cause of overeating explored in my book Positive Energy. Plus, an empath’s sensitivity can be overwhelming in romantic relationships; many stay single since they haven’t learned to negotiate their special cohabitation needs with a partner.

When empaths absorb the impact of stressful emotions, it can trigger panic attacks, depression, food, sex and drug binges, and a plethora of physical symptoms that defy traditional medical diagnosis from fatigue to agorophobia. Since I’m an empath, I want to help all my empath-patients cultivate this capacity and be comfortable with it.

Empathy doesn’t have to make you feel too much all the time. Now that I can center myself and refrain from shouldering civilization’s discontents, empathy continues to make me freer, igniting my compassion, vitality, and sense of the miraculous. To determine whether you’re an emotional empath, take the following quiz.

QUIZ: AM I AN EMPATH?

Ask yourself:

  • Have I been labeled as “too emotional” or overly sensitive?
  • If a friend is distraught, do I start feeling it too?
  • Are my feelings easily hurt?
  • Am I emotionally drained by crowds, require time alone to revive?
  • Do my nerves get frayed by noise, smells, or excessive talk?
  • Do I prefer taking my own car places so that I can leave when I please?
  • Do I overeat to cope with emotional stress?
  • Am I afraid of becoming engulfed by intimate relationships?

If you answer “yes” to 1-3 of these questions, you’re at least part empath. Responding “yes” to more than 3 indicates that you’ve found your emotional type.

Recognizing that you’re an empath is the first step in taking charge of your emotions instead of constantly drowning in them. Staying on top of empathy will improve your self-care and relationships.

Emotional Action Step. How To Find Balance

Practice these strategies to center yourself.

  • Allow quiet time to emotionally decompress. Get in the habit of taking calming mini-breaks throughout the day. Breathe in some fresh air. Stretch. Take a short walk around the office. These interludes will reduce the excessive stimulation of going non-stop.
  • Practice guerilla meditation. To counter emotional overload, act fast and meditate for a few minutes. This centers your energy so you don’t take it on from others.
  • Define and honor your empathic needs. Safeguard your sensitivities. Here’s how.
    • If someone asks too much of you, politely tell them “no.” It’s not necessary to explain why. As the saying goes, “No is a complete sentence.”
    • If your comfort level is three hours max for socializing–even if you adore the people–take your own car or have an alternate transportation plan so you’re not stranded.
    • If crowds are overwhelming, eat a high-protein meal beforehand (this grounds you) and sit in the far corner of, say, a theatre or party, not dead center.
    • If you feel nuked by perfume, nicely request that your friends refrain from wearing it around you. If you can’t avoid it, stand near a window or take frequent breaks to catch a breath of fresh air outdoors.
    • If you overeat to numb negative emotions, practice the guerilla meditation mentioned above, before you’re lured to the refrigerator, a potential vortex of temptation. As an emergency measure, keep a cushion by the fridge so you can be poised to meditate instead of binge.
    • Carve out private space at home. Then you won’t be stricken by the feeling of too much togetherness. (Chapter 8 discusses nontraditional living settings compatible with an empath’s comfort zone.)

Over time, I suggest adding to this list to keep yourself covered. You don’t have to reinvent the wheel each time you’re on emotional overload. With pragmatic strategies to cope, empaths can have quicker retorts, feel safer, and their talents can blossom.

For more information on Judith Orloff, visit her website: http://www.drjudithorloff.com

How to Open and Clear the Chakras

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As many of my blog followers know, I also write content for the amazingly brilliant, conscious fashion company, Lotus Effect.

Today’s article is all about understanding, opening, and clearing the chakras, and since this is Chakra Center after all, I felt it would be an appropriate blog share for today!

Enjoy!

Believed to be the centers for spiritual energy, the 7 Chakras are a chakras3.jpgcrucial system for understanding the flow of personal life force. Not only do these center points hold specific energy in the body, they also flow back and forth between each other and represent a vital aspect of our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.

Each individual chakra has a specific purpose in the body, and can be blocked by unhealed emotions and trauma. When one of these energy centers is blocked, it messes with the balance of our entire system. Blocked chakras can lead to illness, as well as spiritual and emotional unrest. Understanding how to clear and balance the chakras is crucial for our overall health.

Knowing where these energy center points are located in the body, as well as their emotional components, is an important step in learning how to be in-tune with the body’s life force.

Here is a basic overview:

Root Chakra – Located at the base of the spine, the root chakra is rootchakra2where the body carries its survival energy. Issues of money, food, and stability are associated with this chakra. When opened and clear one feels grounded and at peace. The emotion that blocks this chakra is fear.

If you carry fear for your basic survival (this can include financial stress or eating disorders), it is important to work on healing your root chakra. The key to healing this chakra is surrendering to your fears and allowing them to flow through you (rather than resisting and suppressing them).

Color associated with the root chakra: Red

Sacral Chakra – Located about 2 inches below the navel and 2 sacral chakra2inches in, is the sacral chakra. Related to the ability to give and receive, as well as sexual and creative energy, this chakra deals with pleasure, and is blocked by guilt. Because of social and religious programming, most people have blocks in their sacral chakra.

Feeling guilt related to receiving pleasure (of any form), creativity, or sexuality – or carrying emotional trauma related to sexuality,  is an indication the sacral chakra needs to be healed and cleared.

Look at the things you feel guilty about in your life. Accept the reality of the events, and learn to forgive yourself. It is impossible for this chakra to be opened and balanced without self-forgiveness and acceptance.

Color associated with the sacral chakra: Orange

Solar Plexus Chakra – Located in the abdomen/stomach area, solar plexusthe solar plexus chakra deals with one’s sense of personal power and self-control, and is blocked by shame. Feelings of self-worth, self-confidence, and self-esteem are tied to this chakra.

In order to open and clear the solar plexus, it is essential to love and accept all aspects of yourself, including your mistakes.

Color associated with the solar plexus chakra: Yellow

Heart Chakra – Located in the center of the chest, just above the heart chakraheart, the heart chakra deals with our joy, inner peace, and ability to love. This chakra is blocked by grief.

To clear and release the heart chakra, it is important to acknowledge, validate, and release all loss. Allow yourself to feel the pain of grief. Do not hold and suppress the sadness — let your emotions flow.

Color associated with the heart chakra: Green

Throat Chakra – Located in the throat, the throat chakra deals throat chakrawith the ability to communicate truth, and is blocked by lies – especially the lies we tell ourselves.

To heal and open the throat chakra, it is important to release all self-denial and lies – even when those lies are functioning as a coping mechanism. We cannot lie about our own nature. It is impossible to be able to communicate in a powerful way when one holds onto self-deluded lies.

Color associated with the throat chakra: Blue

Third Eye Chakra – Located on the forehead between the eyes, cropped-7chakra1.jpgthe third eye deals with the ability to focus on and see the big picture (as well as psychic vision and insight). This chakra is blocked by illusion. The greatest illusion of this world is the illusion of separation.

In order to heal and clear this chakra, it is crucial to release all illusion within ourselves and understand we are connected to all things. There is no separation. Things we think are separate and different, are actually one and the same.

Color associated with the thrid eye chakra: Indigo

Crown Chakra – Located at the very top of the head, this highest Crown-chakrachakra represents the ability to be fully connected spiritually. It deals with pure, cosmic energy, and is blocked by earthly attachment.

Healing and opening the crown chakra requires us to let go of the things we hold on to most desperately, trusting the love and flow of the Universe/Source within us to be our ultimate fulfillment and bliss.

Opening the crown chakra is not about denying our desires or connection to the earth, it is simply about letting go of our grasp and surrendering to Universal cosmic energy (or God).

Color associated with the crown chakra: Violet

Opening and healing the chakras is about walking the spiritual path of self-awareness. It is not something that is done in one mediation, but rather a daily practice on the inward journey. By tuning into our emotional blockages and needs, we allow ourselves to expand, trust, and ultimately be set free.

Empathic Entanglement

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cropped-chakra-center2.jpgWhat happens when empaths unite to learn from each other/empower their abilities? Major expansion! I am simply blown away by the amount of information/growth I’ve experienced in the “Empowering Empathic Abilities” online class and challenge.

So as to not leave anyone out, I thought I’d send some of the most recent audios. Feel free to leave your feedback/comments/impressions. It’s amazing what happens when empaths unite and share their experiences. Empowerment is an understatement! I’ve learned so much from everyone in the class and am reminded how connecting with others makes me 100 times stronger! Talk about stretching!

Thank you to everyone who has participated this far! So much more to come!

And for those of you interested in The Art of Empathic Shapeshifting, the online class starts on the 21st (Friday)! We’d love to have you!

Empathic Shapeshifting:

Healing Empathic Burn-out by Shapeshifting with Nature:

Empathic Shadow Work:

Empathic Entanglement:

Healing the BS (Belief System) Surrounding Your Sexuality:

How to Deal with Low Vibrational States:

Transmitting Energy Through the Sacral Chakra:

Attention Light Workers: You have a Shadow (and it’s GOOD)!

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In many religious and ‘spiritual’ circles, emotions are often viewed as an enemy to be reckoned with, Shadows are feared, and egos are to be slain. To be ‘emotional’ is to be weak and to be weak is to be undeserving. To have darkness is to be devoid of Light. To enjoy the unique perspective of our ego, is to be without empathy.

Suppressing these fundamental aspects of our humanity is a detrimental belief system to ascribe to. At its core, the good vs. bad mentality teaches us that being human is somehow wrong. When we put ourselves under this belief system, we have no choice but to view our ‘human condition’ as one we must continuously fight.

Downloaded with this program and raised within it, most humans either feel a call to raise up arms and slay the human aspects of our experience (anything pertaining to the ‘flesh’) or simply surrender to their “base instincts” and choose to luxuriate in them. Hence the human drama as it has been from the beginning: fight against your flesh or succumb to its debauchery. Those are our options.

The ones who choose to “fight the good fight” arm themselves with good intentions, moral behavior, and beams of light as they proceed into the “darkness” to slay anything (and any one) that would dare cause them to experience contrast. The term “light worker” itself comes from this energy, and many of us who feel drawn to this “higher calling” often feel separate from the rest of humanity, as if we are on a sacred mission to save the world. The very words themselves (“light worker”/ “higher calling”) suggests there are those with a “lower call”/less important life path, or imply we have no darkness – a belief that is in fact, destructive. We don’t realize we ourselves often strengthen the “darkness” by our resistance of it.

The energy imbued in the very spiritual language we use (and the hierarchy we place ourselves in) makes us feel we must belong to a special category of humans and therefore are above feeling/experiencing the challenges every other human faces. As a result, when we go through periods where we don’t feel particularly high vibe, wise, spiritual, or ‘moral,’ we feel the need to protect others from our emotions and hide-out in a prayer of self-analysis until we fix the ‘problem.’ Or we simply deny how we feel, suppress our Shadow, and continue acting like the good light worker (or religious person) we feel we should be. We do everything but BE REAL.

Here’s the deal:

*We’re no more special than anyone else on this planet. We don’t need a calling, super human soul path, Star Origin, or Church to justify our existence and make us valuable.

*We all have a Shadow, and contrary to popular negative sentiment toward darkness, the Shadow can be our Greatest Teacher. It’s okay to integrate it. In fact, it’s necessary for true freedom and expansion.

So many “light workers” have been caught-up in the mundane rat race of the Matrix, the battle between good and evil, and the struggle to survive, that we believe the only way to justify our existence is through living a life of perfection, or by ascribing to a path that makes us feel more special, moral, or ‘gifted’ than the rest of humanity. We feel the need to separate from our own Shadow because we’ve come to see humans as weak, stupid, emotional, unwise, ‘sinful,’ and dangerous. The pitfall in this type of thinking is twofold:

*It cuts us off from a fundamental aspect of who we are (regardless of our soul origins, religious beliefs, or spiritual practices, we are here, participating in the human experience as a human and co-creating this reality with everyone else).

*It perpetuates the “us and them” mentality which fuels the illusion of separation.

We are all powerful in our own ways, all weak in our unique wounds/chosen path of expansion, and we have all chosen to come into a holographic dimension that reflects our thoughts/emotions back to us. How we perceive this hologram is only a reflection of US, not of the hologram itself. We see the world not as it truly is, but as WE are.

We can’t hide from ourselves here. Everyone we judge is us. Every experience we have is a reflection of us. Every belief we have will show up in our experience, in the exact vibration in which we believe it can manifest. It’s all us. This dimension is a training ground for our soul’s expansion and our judgments only serve to limit the possibilities of what we experience here. Judgments offer no salvation – regardless of how safe they make us feel.

Ultimately, we are all One, and our experience of the One is unique to our soul’s chosen path. There is no “elite” group (or cursed group), or any group that is more accountable to this hologram than another. We are ALL co-creating this experience, and we are all powerfully fueling this illusion — some of us are just more conscious of it than others.

As we increase our awareness of how and what we are doing with the energy in this dimension, it becomes imperative to continually remind ourselves that every person who comes into our experience IS a mirror of us — of our own thoughts. Any judgment or belief we have about another is ultimately one we have about ourselves. The journey of freedom from the Matrix is an inward path of expansion – not an external battle.

When we experience pain, it is crucial that we ask ourselves “what thought/wound/emotion is this experience reflecting back to me?” Then we listen without judgment. We allow our souls to learn from our experiences — to Shift our perspective. There is freedom in surrender.

Let’s let ourselves off the hook. We don’t need to justify our existence through good works. Freedom won’t come by suppressing the darkness. Salvation from the illusion of separation won’t come by denying our humanity. True release is as simple as shifting our perspectives. Our Shadow has no power over us when we embrace it as the Teacher it is meant to be.

Let’s stop fueling the lie that we need to be set apart from the rest in order to be worthy of love. Let’s free ourselves from the belief that some of us are above humanity. Let’s put down our “light sabers” and choose to radically surrender to unconditional love in EVERY aspect of who we are. Only in this way can be free the pendulum swing of extremes within us.

And so it is with you.