11 Important Reasons to Love Yourself

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Contrary to popular ideas on selfishness, it is impossible to truly self-huglove another person, when we harbor negative thoughts/feelings toward ourselves. In fact, it is ludicrous to think we can take care of the needs of others, while depriving ourselves of the love we need to truly give. If the ultimate truth of the Universe is that we are all one, then it is unreasonable to think we can treat ourselves poorly without affecting those around us.

If the concept of self-love feels foreign to you, commit yourself to this question every time you are faced with a decision:

“What would someone who loves themselves do?”

Self-love is the root for which every good thing grows. The practice of learning to love yourself unconditionally is the most powerful healing energy in this Universe. Self-love sets your soul radically free.  By practicing self-love daily, you create a solid foundation which naturally allows you to embrace any experience that comes your way.

To love yourself means to consider your own needs. It’s healthy for those around you to learn your boundaries. When others realize they can’t have ALL of you, it helps them fosters proper responsibility for themselves.

Self-love is about accepting yourself as you are – both the positive and the negative. It’s about admitting where you’re at and not pretending to be anyone but who you truly are. When your sense of self-love feels depleted, a healthy dose of authenticity might be just what the doctor ordered.

If you’re looking for a good reason to love yourself, here are 11:

Self-love attracts love

Self-love contributes to better overall health

Self-love can deepen your spiritual practice

Self-love helps you see and appreciate the uniqueness of who you truly are

Self-love provides you with 24 hour access to someone (yourself) who has your best interest at heart

Self-love gives you the tools to make better life decisions

Self-love inspires more authentic love and compassion for others

Self-love improves your self-image

Self-love helps break debilitating people-pleaser habits

Self-love makes you look and feel younger

Self-love inspires you to give from an overflow, rather than depletion

Ask yourself, “what would someone who loves themselves do?” and watch how your life changes. If everyone truly loved themselves, the world would be a more abundant place.

Wednesday’s Wondrous World: Perseverance

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Perseverance is the difference between a fleeting notion and the pursuit of an idea.  Our ability to persevere is another self-made wonder of the wondrous world.

Perseverance is not simply having an idea, it is moving forward in making the intangible idea into a tangible thing.  It is a part of the means to the ends.

Dictionary.com defines perseverance thus:

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1.steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement.

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Perseverance is the course of action, the purpose – for example, choosing your own way.  Making your own decisions and choices in regards to pursuing the destiny you most want to find.

I do not want to sit back and let my life just happen…I want to make it happen.  I do not want others choosing for me…I want to make the choices.  I do not want my emotions to be a result of the influences of the world around me…I want to choose how I will feel.  I want, ultimately, to be content with my life, and happy with the choices I am making for it.

Yes, there will be bad days. You get doubtful, and frustrated when progress is not what you might desire it to be.  But this is just a part of human nature.  Even the happiest, most satisfied people in the world are not in that state absolutely all the time.

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That is why you persevere.  That is why you make the efforts you make, you strive for the journey and the ultimate goal.  Ultimately, you want to be happy and satisfied, and that is worth striving for.

I look at the world in the way I have always wanted to.  It is not a nightmare place filled with terrible people, tragedies and horrors…it is a world of endless possibilities, of good people, of possibilities and beauty and wonders.  Yes, it is imperfect, yes there ARE all the bad things out there as well as the good, but I can see the world for all its positives more than its negatives.

Turning a blind eye to the adversities of the world?  Wearing rose-colored glasses?  NO.  I see that there are horrid people and awful things in the world perfectly clearly.  But I am not giving them my focus, not giving them my energies, not giving them my attentions and intentions.  I am persevering instead to look at the good people and wonderful things in the world.  And frankly, without those negatives, we would be incapable of seeing the positives.

I am persevering still.  Are you?

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(Note to the reader:  If you also visit my blog, you will see that this week’s Pathwalking is a variation of this same post.  I believe the topic of the self is so important, I wanted to spread it to a wider audience.)

 

 

Me 3-25-13 smallerI am MJ Blehart,  “Wednesday’s Wondrous World” author and photographer (these shots are the progression of the hike up Camelback Mountain in Phoenix, Arizona).  Every week I share a magical wonder of this amazing world, and I hope you will enjoy the journey with me!

Check out my blog, The Ramblings of a Titanium Don, for more of my work.

Also now available, Pathwalking: A 21st Century Philosophy in Book and Kindle form!

Wednesday’s Wondrous World: Living in the Now

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Life is meant to be lived in the here and now.

One of the great wonders of our wondrous world is our ability to know past, present, and future.  But it is the ability to live in the now that I want to explore today.

How do you live in the here and now?

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If you cannot live in the past, or live for the future, but need to live in the here and now – and most people seem to not be capable of doing this – how is it done?  Well, from my own experience, these are the things I have done/am doing/am working to do more regularly that let me live in the present.

Ask yourself questions.  We ask a lot of questions daily, but how often do we ask ourselves important questions?  Sure, we are constantly saying “How are you” and “What are you thinking” and “Are you feeling ok”, but how often do we ask that of ourselves?  How am I?  What am I thinking?  Am I feeling ok?  It is amazing how asking these simple questions we frequently pose to others can immediately bring us to the present moment.

We have become so concerned with appearing selfish, that we take selfless to the extreme, and truly become less of the self.  This point is why, frankly, I drive at the incredible need to live more in the here-and-now than either past or future.  There is no reason NOT to ask questions of ourselves, in order to be in the moment, in the here and now.

This can be a silent question – but I often find that if I ask it out loud, I am utterly drawn to the moment, to the present, in order to know the answer.  The simplest questions of the self, in the moment, can help us live in the here and now.

Be aware of distractions.  I find that I get distracted by outside influences and shiny things and my environment, which I know that everyone does from time to time.  But if I am aware of them, I can take my focus AWAY from them, and return to the here-and-now, to be where I want to be and do what I intend to do.

Yes, sometimes we NEED distractions.  I am not advocating avoiding distractions, nor ignoring them entirely – I am suggesting awareness of them.

Savor food and drink.  No, really, this is VERY hard to do, in especial when you are on the internet or reading a book or even interacting with people while eating.  This is a reason why many of us overeat or never feel fully satisfied by our sustenance.  But really paying attention to what you are eating, and enjoying the texture and flavor puts you very much in the present.  Also, really, you will be amazed how much better everything tastes.

It very much ties into being aware of distractions, but is still a separate idea.

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Be more observant.  How many times while you travel between points ‘a’ and ‘b’, whether you are driving or riding in a vehicle or walking, does everything between the points simply blur?  How frequently can you visit a room and not notice the sounds within?  How many times can you see a person, and have no means to describe their facial features, the color of their eyes, and so on?  That is a lack of observation, and in our high-speed, disconnected society, we become less and less observant of things around us.

Sherlock Holmes may be been a fictional character, but the lesson one may take away from him was that he was the master of observation.  He saw the most minute details of every person he encountered, and always astounded the uninitiated with what he could tell you about them.  This was no super power, or other inexplicable capacity – it was extreme, detailed observation.

It doesn’t take that much to do this, really.  If you start small, you will find that it gets easier to change your focus.  For example, when you are driving somewhere, don’t just pay attention to the road and the speedometer and other cars on the road – see the sky, look at the trees and buildings lining the road.  NOT, obviously, to the point of being distracted from driving – but so that you experience more from it.

Walking between places?  Note the atmosphere around you.  Listen to sounds, look at your surroundings, smell the air, feel breezes and changes in temperature on your skin, and so forth.  Don’t let where you came from or where you are going to be your focus, be where you are NOW.

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Asking yourself questions, awareness of distractions, enjoying sustenance and being more observant are just a few examples of ways to better place yourself in the present.  There are other ways and means to do this, but these are, I think, relatively simple, and can be done by anyone, anytime, unassisted.  And this ability is a real wonder of our wondrous world.

Did you ask of yourself today “How am I?”

(Note to the reader:  If you also visit my blog, you will see that a previous Pathwalking is a variation of this same post.  I believe the topic is so important, I wanted to spread it to a wider audience.)

 

Me 3-25-13 smallerI am MJ Blehart, philosopher and author of “Wednesday’s Wondrous World”.  Every week I share a magical wonder of this amazing world, and I hope you will enjoy the journey with me!

Check out my blog, The Ramblings of a Titanium Don, for more of my work.

Also now available, Pathwalking: A 21st Century Philosophy in Book and Kindle form!

Wednesday’s Wondrous World: The Self

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Truly an amazing wonder of our wondrous world is our knowledge of the self.  But do you care for and love your self as you ought to?

In today’s society, we have become so focused on our jobs, our families, our friends, our coworkers, our education, our finances, our possessions, our weekends, and so on and so forth – that we have become utterly negligent of the self.

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We have become indoctrinated in the idea that this is selfishness.  Too much focus on the self leads automatically to selfishness, arrogance, greed, corruption…and as such we become uncaring, socially unacceptable creatures unfit to walk amongst the rest of humankind.

But this is a lie that prevents us from getting to know ourselves.  We are taught from an early age to share, and to think about others, and to consider the feelings of those around us.  I am not saying that this is a bad thing in any way – but what we neglect to explore is the connection between the self and the person we are sharing with, how we think about ourselves, and considering our own feelings.

I must iterate here that there is nothing wrong with selflessness – except when it involves the utter lack of attention and energy to the self.  When all you do is give, and sacrifice, and disregard your own needs and desires, you create an immense imbalance in your own energies.  Balance is utterly necessary in life.

We have become creatures of extremes.  Society places tremendous attention and focus on the opposites: male versus female, Republican versus Democrat, heterosexual versus homosexual, rich versus poor, fat versus thin, and so forth.  But life is very seldom defined by the extreme opposites; most is balanced somewhere in the middle.

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When it comes to time on the self and time for others, we cannot neglect the self and have balance.  But because we are so acutely aware of these opposite extremes, we forget that there is a line between self care and selfishness, and that we cannot ignore the one because of fear of the other.

Self care, self love, and self talk are NOT selfish.  They are utterly necessary.  If we neglect the self and sacrifice our wellbeing, our happiness, and our desires just to be selfless, we are only hurting ourselves.

Selfishness on the one hand, sacrifice on the other are the extremes in regards to the self.  The question is – where is the middle?  That would be Compromise.

It is surprisingly easy to mistake compromise for sacrifice.  The difference with regards to the self is simple – compromise is striking a balance between giving OF, taking FOR and holding FOR the self; whereas sacrifice is unbalanced with giving FROM, holding NOTHING and taking FROM the self.

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If you do not find balance in giving to and taking for the self, then you might find you really do not know who you are.  And our ability to really KNOW our self is truly a wonder of our wondrous world.

How do you feel about yourself?

 

(Note to the reader:  If you also visit my blog, you will see that this week’s Pathwalking is a variation of this same post.  I believe the topic of the self is so important, I wanted to spread it to a wider audience.)

 

Me 3-25-13 smallerI am MJ Blehart, deep thinker and author of “Wednesday’s Wondrous World”.  Every week I share a magical wonder of this amazing world, and I hope you will enjoy the journey with me!

Check out my blog, The Ramblings of a Titanium Don, for more of my work.

Also now available, Pathwalking: A 21st Century Philosophy in Book and Kindle form!

Self-Forgiveness: Proper Atonement

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Young woman in a wheat fieldMany of us struggle with the concept of forgiveness.  Forgiveness seems pointless, permissive, and often times can feel like a betrayal of the self.  However, when we struggle to forgive others, it’s usually not because the other party must be punished, nor is it usually because the anger and resentment is such a powerful tool we use to motivate ourselves so we can “show them.”  Quite the contrary; when we struggle to forgive others, it’s most commonly indicative of our underlying inability to forgive ourselves for our transgressions against others and ourselves.

How Do We Start Punishing Ourselves?

When we engage in behavior that goes against our alignment, we are programmed to self-loathe.  Do you remember being a child and being called ”bad” for something you weren’t supposed to do?  Do you remember being expected to do exactly as you were told, and if not, then you were the “problem child?”  Our childhoods are wrought with structures and social norms to make us belittle ourselves in an effort to be humble and to disregard the maintenance of our present self.

This doesn’t make our parents or caretakers bad people.  It just means they weren’t the human conceptualization of perfect, and that is okay.  What we need to realize is some of our belief systems or behavior processes simply aren’t useful for having the best life, nor creating the best world.

What Happens When We Don’t Forgive Ourselves?

This is perhaps the most important question to ask because if you are like I was, you might be thinking, “Well, it only hurts me if I don’t forgive myself.   Besides, it really doesn’t hurt if I just don’t think about
it.”  I used to fully believe that punishing myself for the things I wasn’t proud of was the best way to keep myself on track and to never again do those things.  Let’s take a look at what is really going on though when we go through this punishment type of atonement.

If you want to live a happy, fulfilled life but you are engaging in behaviors and feelings of unforgiveness, you begin offering a contradictory vibration to the universe.  Your conscious vibration might be a layer of happiness, contentment, and even excitement depending on your situation.  However, there is an underlying, subconscious vibration of underserving, self-loathing, self-doubt, and self-depreciation.

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These feelings create a lower frequency cumulative wave that goes out to the universe as your manifestation order from the Universal creative menu.  What ends up coming to your life table either turns out to not be what you ordered or comes back with a bug in it.  This not only affects your life, but also affects the world on both an energetic and physical level.

Everything in this world is made of energetic and matter components (more on this in my next article).  Because we are biological energetic transmitters and channels, our energetic outputs affect our environments and the entire universe.  Once we manifest those energetic outputs into our physical space, we’ve created an energetic contract for that experience.  It doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind, but what you’ve done is created the physical, sensorial experience you didn’t want.

Keep in mind, this can manifest in a number of ways, including: manifesting the situation you were fearful of, manifesting the right opportunity at the wrong time, manifesting almost the experience you wanted but it’s just not quite there, or even manifesting the experience you wanted and then engaging in self-sabotaging behavior.  There are other scenarios, of course, but these are the big ones.

As you can see, in order to live in alignment, joy, and fulfillment, it’s important to go through the process of self-forgiveness.

How Do We Start Forgiving Ourselves?

nature loveYou may be wondering, “What is the self-forgiveness process?  How can I overcome the years of programming, guilt, self-sabotage, suboptimal manifesting, and unhealthy emotional processing?”  Luckily, I’m going to tell you.

Forgiving yourself is an expression of self-love and self-acceptance.  That does not mean you accept or condone your behavior.  Instead, you are choosing to acknowledge and take responsibility for your “out of alignment” decisions.

In order to forgive yourself, you need to do the inner work which led you to the original decision to begin with; it is important to note that the “why” of things is not always important, but if you can notice your own patterns and triggers, then you can develop new healthy habits and ways of dealing with these instigative situations.

The next step is to realize the person you are in this moment, is not the person you were in the previous moment.   While your actions had consequences, you do not have to atone for those actions through self-loathing tactics of any kind.  Atonement is more effective when done through the acknowledgement of your out of alignment choice, integrating all of the lessons learned from that experience, and choosing to expand from that experience into a newer, more aligned version of yourself.

When you choose the path of self-forgiveness, you choose the path of expansion, self-worth, and empathy for the human experience.  We did not come here to be perfect, we came here to learn and come back into self-love after seeing ourselves through the veil of separateness and imperfection.

I will leave you with a quote of my belief about life and I hope it will inspire you to fully love and forgive yourself in every moment of every day.  ” I believe life is all about learning to unabashedly, unconditionally love yourself because when you love the creation and the infinite spark of Source, you are glorifying all of divinity.”

Fun Challenge

I want you to consider an area of your life, or specific experience, where you’re having a difficult time forgiving yourself.  You can either share that experience in the comments below, or choose to go through the process of forgiving yourself and share that experience.  We’d love to hear about your  experiences with self-forgiveness.

Much Love & Big Nonlocal Quantum Hugs

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The Saturday Post: Love Yourself, Love Your Ego

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Is it possible to fully love ourselves and all the aspects that make up our whole? I would think so as anything is possible. But why do we make this act of supreme acceptance so hard? I’ve heard over and over again that it doesn’t have to be so hard. If we just stop resisting and allow all will fall into place, eventually. Well one of my aspects is impatient so we had to have a talk about this today.

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Many in the spiritual community look at their ego like a potentially terminal illness that must be continuously watched and at the very best if it’s properly managed they can live a semi-normal life.

For a time, I was one of these people, constantly watching what I thought, what I did, what I said, ect. This gets old really fast, at least for me I felt like I was constantly judging myself which really seems counter productive in the long run.

As it seems to me, judgment is a tool of the ego itself. It uses past experiences to generate fear in order to steer us in the direction of less pain. This really isn’t a “bad” thing in all reality.

So we have a habit of trying to get outside of the ego by using the ego to manage the ego. Once I had this realization, I had a really good long laugh at myself.

The experience of going through this process was quite necessary to get to the point where I am now. I have many long conversations with my ego, as friends, as equals. Once I stopped trying to force my will on this scared little aspect of myself it stopped acting out as much, if at all. I realized I was acting like a tyrannical parent yelling about what I wanted and not taking the rest of myself into consideration at all. No wonder it had been acting out in ways I deemed unacceptable behavior. I had not shown it any love since I was a child.

When I was a child I played by myself all the time.  I had conversations with myself and gave myself any attention I needed.  I spent hours each day totally immersed in nature.  I loved myself and took care of my emotional needs on a daily basis.  It is at some point in our childhood that we develop our egos and this is a different time for everyone.  It seems to be around the time when we are expected to “know better.”

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As very young children, our exploration is simply brushed off as child’s play.  Nobody looks at you funny because your in your room playing with toys having a full conversation with yourself.  It’s just what little kids do.

But at some point in our childhoods we past some imaginary line in the sand when we’re supposed to know that kind of behavior is no longer acceptable.

Talking to yourself is considered strange.  You have to go to school and nature time is drastically reduced.  The inside world were so many of us immersed ourselves and felt safe becomes very far away, some fairy land.

The inner kingdom as I’ve very accurately heard it called, is a place where I believe we all dwelled as children.  We were so uninhibited back then that we could even bring it out into 3D reality and play there for hours.

As an adult it has become my main goal to make this place my home.  Just the realization that it is a real place that exists within me has been a huge step.  I don’t need to go anywhere specific to feel at home anymore.  I AM that place.  Some have also referred to this as the universe within the heart.  No matter the name, to me it’s still the same place.

How do we get there?  Talk to your ego, mine just happens to be my child self.  I can’t say this is the same for everyone, but on my journey the real obstacle was to stop repressing what I deemed as my ego.  To integrate and love this essential piece of myself was the greatest stepping stone to where I wish to be that I ever could have given myself.  Now there is no ego, there is only us.

Namaste Friends.

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The Saturday Post: Jamie Mortinson, self proclaimed renaissance women extraordinaire, tackles life with the same fortitude as her handicapped house duck.  Together they fly through the realms of spirituality and self expression in almost every way possible.  From organic gardening and duck farming to painting and crochet, no part of life’s “creation-fest” is off limits.  Interior design, wild edible foods, reading, writing, cooking, self-sufficiency, photography, meditation, yoga and a general love of life encompass nearly all of her time.  Those moments not promised to her passions are extended to her husband, and their celestial children: a dog, two cats, and lots of ducks and chickens.  She resides in Wisconsin but her home is the world and all the people in it are her family.

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