The Birth of the Empath

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Since I started mentoring empaths I’ve had to piece together my theories about our ability to feel and transmute emotional energy, as well as create a framework for why I believe opening up our hearts, allowing ourselves to become MORE sensitive, and approaching our empathic lives from a place of empowerment, rather than “protection” is the more logical (and holistic) way to live.

Here’s my take:

If we take a broader view of the human story as it continues to unfold, we can begin to see how the empath in us was born.

What is Empathy?

Empathy is synonymous with the heart, because it represents our ability to FEEL this Heart Mindhuman experience of contrast (and gain a concept of “the other”). It can also be seen as the feminine quality of human consciousness, or the experiencing of “bearing and receiving.”

Empathy can be understood as the expression and experience BETWEEN contrast. As we know, the complexity and function of emotion is not black and white. That’s why we need the heart.  Our hearts have the ability to DISCERN what our emotions tell us; the mind simply judges.

The complexity of emotions:

Let’s say a young girl is caught between the fighting of her parents. She hears her father insult her mother, her mother insult her father, and because she is the most vulnerable “feeler” in the room, she is receiving all this energy PERSONALLY, as if it is direct toward her and is about her. She sees her parents as an extension of herself, and therefore the drama that unfolds is experienced in her reality as a message about her.

The parents may not see the reality of their child, because in their mind they know they child-parents-fightingare talking to each other, about each other. If the situation is approached from the mind alone, it’s quite simple: the argument was not about the little girl and therefore the parents don’t feel obligated to acknowledge her reality of the situation.

Therefore, the young girl’s experience is invalidated and unexplained. Her intimate world of “feeling” is not the reality of the people around her, and therefore goes unnoticed. And when our internal reality finds no meaning, catharsis, or connection in the external world, we feel isolated and separate from others – we quite literally live in our own experience and the meaning we give that experience determines the lesson we will take away, and how we will be shaped by it.

The meaning the little girl gives the fight will most likely be quite different than the meaning the parents have. But her reality is JUST as real. This unexplained and confusing experience has now begun a “tantric” cycle with this young girl, as her heart will continue to attract similar situations into her experience until she makes sense of what happened and corrects any beliefs she may have taken on about herself that are not in alignment with her inner truth.

The little girl’s heart must heal from this experience, and it does this by “feeling” its way back into alignment with its true resonance. “Logic” at this point is irrelevant, because she is making the most logical conclusion she has available to her, based on her level of understanding of the world.

The Heart’s Electromagnetic field

Here are some important things to understand about the heart:

* The heart generates the largest electromagnetic field in the body. The electrical field is Electromagnetic field of heartabout 60 times greater in amplitude than our brain waves and approximately 5,000 times greater magnetically.

*HeartMath studies show this powerful electromagnetic field can be detected and measured several feet away from a person’s body and between two individuals in close proximity.

* The heart’s electromagnetic field contains certain information or coding, which researchers are trying to understand, that is transmitted throughout and outside of the body. One of the most significant findings of HMI’s research related to this field is that intentionally generated positive emotions can change this information/coding. (http://wearechange.org/heartmath-part-1/)

If you look at the toroidal field around the heart (shown in picture above), we can see the heart is literally the center of our electromagnetic field (auric field) and because it’s electromagnetic energy is affected by EMOTION, it’s no wonder many empaths can feel their entire body responding to overwhelming emotions or chaotic energy. Controversy, positive energy can affect our entire experience of our reality in a positive way.

A whole, open, trusting heart is the most powerful energy on earth. It’s capable of sustaining our life force and our energy. Yet, we live in a world of contrast, and this contrast often breaks our hearts. And when our hearts are broken, we are cut off from the most powerful navigation system we have because we learn to distrust the experience of FEELING.

When we distrust feeling, we turn to the mind. And as the saying goes:

The mind is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master.”

The problem with allowing the mind to lead, is it does not have the ability to discern heart-and-mind(understand through the wisdom of experience). Discernment is the heart’s job. The mind views the world in black and white: right and wrong, yes and no – it is a way of navigating through judgement, rather than discernment.

And the problem with allowing the mind to be the sole navigator, is we go to war with ourselves. Because the mind alone does not have the discernment to FEEL when it is destroying itself.

Set on a crusade for RIGHT, our mind takes on the task of destroying anything that doesn’t fit into its “idea” of perfection. Yet, it can only determine what is right and wrong based on programs it receives externally from itself (TV, parents, society, etc.).

Although the mind thinks its protecting the ego, it is actually self-sabotaging its human experience, because the mind (without a connection to the heart) does not have the ability to see itself in “the other” and does not have the ability to discern the complexity and nuance of emotion. Therefore, it’s incapable of truly knowing what a person needs.

The Shadow Side of the Empath

The Sociopath (or psychic Vampire) is the Shadow side of an empath. It’s what we become when our minds work independently from the heart — when we go to war with our hearts and attempt to live from a place of logic, rather than logic AND feeling. And the dark side of the empath is the most dangerous villain we will ever confront (all the more reason to integrate our shadow, eh?!).

Side note: I think the reason many empaths are often drawn to sociopaths is because we are trying to understand the part of us that is so unfeeling/unsympathetic TOWARD OURSELVES – the part of our mind’s creation that sabotages us.

In order for us to transcend the cycle of self-sabotage, we must reconnect to our heart’s navigation, and because we’ve been at war with ourselves, we must relearn the language and story of our hearts.

But how do we do this?

The Hearts tells the Unfolding Story of Human Consciousness

Thankfully, our hearts have been telling a crucial and revealing story for over 2000 years. the-shadowAnd the dynamics of its story contain three primary roles: the Aggressor, the Victim, and the Savior.

The Aggressor/Victim/Savior paradigm is where the heart’s emotions are created, processed, and released. It’s a reality where our heart plays out the details of its story, as many times as it needs, in order to understand itself and become whole again.

Our human consciousness has evolved through the dynamics of this unfolding drama.

In order for a broken heart to find its way back to itself, we live out STORIES or experiences that remind us of who we really are.

It’s important to note that in order for this paradigm to function, the victim is needed.

The “victim” role is crucial for the Aggressor or Savior. The Aggressor and Savior use the Victim to show (to varying degrees) what our “God self” (or higher perspective) does and does not resonate with in regards to relating to our humanity.  In a sense, the person playing the victim role allows our consciousness to see what we are, and what we aren’t.

Empathy is CRUCIAL in a “Aggressor/Victim/Savior” paradigm, because the only way OUT of this drama, is by recognizing our participation in ALL roles.

This is why it is easy for an empath to feel the aggressor’s pain, even when they may be the one at the brunt of the wrath. Or why it’s natural to identify with the savior, because we know the experience of feeling helpless or powerless is very real.

All of us have, at one time in our lives, played each role.

If we didn’t have the ability to recognize ourselves in each role, we would be caught in a never-ending battle against ourselves, because an aspect of us exists in ALL roles. Through living out these stories, we are telling the story of our human evolution, we are living the experience of the release and restoration of our hearts.

And the key to transcending this paradigm is EMPATHY.

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If we never recognize that the one we are at war with is OURSELVES, we’ll never learn to harmonize with our shadow side and reconnect to our power (the heart). When we are disconnected from the heart, our power is untamed and uncontrolled. As we’ve seen, the heart is the most powerful magnetic field in the body – this means we quite literally PULL events and situations to us. When our hearts shut down, we attract situations to us unconsciously,  and life can feel confusing and chaotic.

I’ll post more about the heart’s journey back to itself next week.

In the meantime, if you want to go deeper, check-out some of my recent videos and excerpts from the Empath Mentoring group.

How to Heal PTSD (pt 1)

How to Heal PTSD (pt 2)

Resources for empaths

Also, I still have two spots available for the next round of mentoring (part of a beta testing group that is more than 75% off what the final mentoring cost will be). Send me a message in the “Contact” section for more details.

Happy Wednesday!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to Receive

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This past week I’ve been preparing for my “11 Day Emotional Detox (whichGenielamps  starts on Jan 1st) and came up against residual receiving blocks/old emotional wounds.

These particular past beliefs/programs had been healed but not cleared out of my auric field. Old thoughts/programs show up in weird ways, and rather than tackling them for another go around, it’s imperative to simply release — let them die — and to RECEIVE the upgraded conscious perspective. 

To die is to be reborn, but old beliefs operate so efficiently to create and recreate the same story that we must be conscious about which beliefs we allow to take residence in our lives. Clearing an old program is simply to let it die, every time in comes up, until eventually, the neural pathway is undone.

Clearing out old beliefs only becomes hard if we have an emotional attachment to the storyline — the death requires us to trust that the new version of our story is actually better for us — because it is TRUE for us NOW.

Death of old perspectives is a crucial step to receive the fullness of our heart’s restoration (remember, we attract at the frequency we vibrate, and EMOTIONS attract faster and more accurately to our deepest beliefs than any practice or thought).

Sometimes we have to allow aspects of our thoughts/consciousness to die, so weSun shine can receive the “upgraded” parts of ourselves we’ve been praying for.

Receiving the upgrade is rapture. Here it all makes sense. Here we come from the heart. Here we forgive. Here we trust. Here we embody the greatest and most powerful form of Love: Self-Love. Here we remember we are all one.
It may sound simple, but if we don’t know how to receive (or confront our blocks to receiving) we can unwittingly sabotage our efforts in lining-up with our heart’s true passions/desires.

It gets wonky when we’re this close — really knowing how to use Universal Energies/Consciousness and feeling deeply into our emotional body — because everything is amplified. We have a tremendous amount of energy we’ve tapped into (Source itself) but if we don’t fully trust ourselves with it (or trust the Source from whence it came) we’re liable to get some serious backlash (namely, our own). Nothing we can’t clean up instantly, of course (it’s all about the NOW, after all), but hidden fears or repressed guilt/shame are the two biggest factors in blocking our progress (and they can be incredibly painful blocks too, because at this point, we’ve built up incredible, conscious momentum).

The heart is key. If we can’t trust love (our ability to receiveempath magic and give love) we will never be the truly powerful creators/avatars we know to be.

Your kingdom is only as big as your auric field is allowed to grow.

Think of RECEIVING/TRUST as a prerequisite to embodiment of our heart’s true home.

Happy Thursday!

PS. This audio is from my “Empathic Communication” online class — thought it might be helpful.

 

How Are You Vibrationally Communicating to the Universe?

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This week I have a challenge for us.

We live in a vibrational universe, right? And we’re vibrational begins. And as empaths, we just happen to be chakra balancevibrational linguists. So what if we decided to improve, sharpen, and hone our vibrational skills with OURSELVES this week? The term “empath” automatically conjures up associations with others. But, riddle me this: what is an empath by themselves?

The problem with even using the term “empath” is that it is limiting. It also implies we’re somehow different than other people. And while of course, it might be true to an extent, it is not fundamentally true, because we all come from the same Source. Hence why we have vibration. Vibration is the “true” essence of all things, including us, and even what we call being “empathic” is just a specific expression of vibration.

What if this week we chose to start an intentional/conscious vibrational dialogue with ourselves at regular intervals throughout the day? Set the timer on your phone if you have to, and at least every two hours do a vibrtaional check-in.

Ask yourself:

*Where am I vibrationally?
*What kind of vibration am I swimming in right now?
*Does it feel good to me? Do I feel dominantly negative or positive?
*How can I adjust my vibration?
*Am I breathing deeply?
*Is my energy expanding out, or shrinking in?

frequency

This is basically a way to see how our vibrational conversation with the Universe is going. The Universe is responding AT ALL TIMES to our vibration, and matching it, so it would behoove us to check-in on the conversation. This is more of “feeling” conversation than it is a logical one. And it’s a great opportunity to use our keen sensitivities and linguistic skills to converse consciously with the Universe.

I shared this challenge in my “How to Heal and Thrive as an Empath online class. I’d love to hear how it goes for you, too.

Happy Monday!

3 Ways to Stay Balanced as an Empath

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To have true authority and empowerment in our lives, it’s crucial to balance our masculine and feminine energies. Many empaths and highly sensitive people allow their energies to get extremely out of balance, being controlled by emotions and not allowing our more masculine energies to provide boundaries/structure.

Masculine energy is crucial to balance – especially for empaths and highly sensitive people, (or anyone who comes from an abusive background).

Here are 3 Tips to help balance these energies:

  1. Choose to take authority: A lot of us forget we have authority over our lives/actions/decisions. When we allow our yoda badassemotions or sensitivities to control us, we often feel at the mercy of external forces, but being highly sensitive is not an excuse to be lazy about our energy. Once we realize our thoughts/feelings/and emotions are creating and influencing the way we experience this reality, the more crucial it becomes to own our power. Direct and conscious force of will comes from our masculine energy, and it’s important to use our masculine energy to provide balance, structure, and boundaries for our creative, powerful feminine energy. We have authority to choose what we allow ourselves to feel and focus on. We have authority to choose how we will respond to the world around us. Claim that authority.
  1. Will peace and good things to flow into your life (don’t wait to FEEL them): So many of us (especially if we’ve been abused or are highly sensitive/empathic) grew up feeling as if we were at the mercy of everyone else’s will – like we had no will of our own. This alone is the root of most of our issues: our problem with co-dependency, our tendency to be led like sheep, allowing others to overpower us, and not seeing/allowing or acknowledging our strength to come forth. We have to choose to WILL things in our life, and not wait to feel like doing something – or wait to feel like we’re powerful. This is crucial if we are to truly be empowered. We can choose peace. We can will ourselves to be free from every whim of emotion. We can use our strength to WILL positive energies into our lives. When we make a firm decision to choose good things for us, our emotions/feelings will catch-up. Once we trust our will (or masculine energy) to choose what’s in our best interest, our more sensitive/creative side will learn to trust us and will be free to flow toward joy.
  1. Use your words wisely and with intention: How we speak and feel about ourselves determines (to an I AMastronomical proportion) whether we feel empowered and confident, or disempowered and weak. A lot of highly sensitive people (and empaths) refer to themselves in incredibly disempowering terms. Again, this typically stems from abuse, and we’ve learned to use our sensitivities/weakness as a way to get others to love us. Often, being “in need” or helpless, is the only way we experience the intimacy we so crave. We’ve had to learn this in order survive. But there comes a time when it no longer works. Eventually others tire of always having to rescue us, and we tire of being the weakest link. It’s time to take responsibility for our lives in every manor, and this includes how we speak about ourselves. Notice your self talk. Notice what you say after “I am” and how you describe yourself to others. If we continue to use words like “too sensitive” or “scared” or “overwhelmed” – we will never have freedom. Don’t use your sensitivities as an excuse to a victim.

Stepping into our power is stepping out of a victim vibration and into responsibility. We must do it with love and compassion, but do it, nonetheless. If we use our will and our authority over ourselves to demean, put down, and demonize our sensitivities, we will never be able to fully trust and ground into our strength – and our strength will never trust our emotional power. As long as we are at war with ourselves, our lives and relationships will continue to reflect the conflict.

Make peace with your masculine and feminine energy. See their mutual power and remember that one is always less without the other. Once we begin to trust our strength and our sensitivities, we will truly step into empowerment.

If you want to go deeper into learning about how to stay balanced/empowered/and healthy as an empath, check out the How to Heal and Thrive as an Empath online class.

When Helping is Destructive

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This is one of the latest blogs I wrote for Modbod. I thought it pertained to empaths so I wanted to share it here as well:

When Helping is Destructive

The worst thing you can do for those you love is the things they could and should do themselves.” Abraham Lincoln

When someone we love struggles, we want to help. From an evolutionary standpoint, helping is our most basic instinct because in order for the group to survive, the individual must thrive.

At some point in each of our lives there comes a time when we need assistance. but what exactly is beneficial help and how can we discern when we’re giving it?

Here are 3 examples of beneficial help:

*Beneficial help does not foster dependence: Making anyone feel they need us Enablerfosters unhealthy dependence and ultimately impedes growth. As the old saying goes, “give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” It is important to make sure our help actually empowers those we love to be self-sufficient and to trust in their own abilities.

*Beneficial help knows when to say no: Sometimes saying NO is the most helpful thing we can do for another. Offering to help when it only enables one to continue in unhealthy patterns is ultimately destructive. Refusing to enable another is the best form of help we can give, even if the one we refuse does not understand that we say no out of love.

*Beneficial help does not come from a place of guilt: If we feel guilt to help another, we aren’t doing them any favors – especially when the person we try to help is the one laying on the blame: “if you really loved me, you would do this for me.” If we constantly need to prove our love by what we do for another, it’s not help, it’s delaying their understanding of their own value by agreeing to their idea of conditional love.

It’s easy to feel overly responsible for helping others, but it is important to understand that often in our attempts to help, we make things worse. Sometimes in order for people to truly learn the lessons they are meant to learn, it is crucial they fall. If we are constantly rescued out of our problems and circumstances, we never get to see what we’re truly made of.

Empaths: Connect with Your Tribe!

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A couple weeks ago I wrote an article titled: “Empaths Forgot Their Power” and within just a couple of hours, it had been shared over 4 thousand times on Facebook!

I knew I struck a cord when my inbox began flooding with people expressing a common theme: feeling alone and isolated soul familyas an empath and unable to truly understand themselves. That’s when I realized a deeper contact is asking to be made — a closer connection and a network needs to form that is more cohesive and supportive.

Currently, my “Empowering Empaths” online Facebook group has over 800 members, but only about 10 people who regularly post/share. Although I love the connection we’ve made and the fact that we’ve created a platform TO share and connect, I realize it’s just not as intimate and close as I’d like it to be. I still get a lot of people emailing me privately with their questions, rather than posting and sharing with the group.

So here’s what I’ve decided to do:

Along with my How to Heal and Thrive as an Empath online course, I am going to open a private mentoring group for all the people who have pre-registered. This group will be a place where we can EMPOWER and support each other on a more personal, intimate level. Not merely a place to post articles or talk about our problems, but a place where we can share our strengths, our practices, and even our triumphs, as well as get the encouragement we need when we’re feeling vulnerable and alone.

I will be posting videos regularly and opening up on a much deeper (and more personal) level about my life as well. My intention is to connect with the people who TRULY want to connect deeper, not just be an anonymous bystander who never particulates and is unwilling to to open up.

Empaths, we need each other. And not in the co-dependent, draining way we’re use to being needed, but for true empowered heartempowerment and courage. We need to know we’re not alone in our sensitivities, and that there are people who not only know how to ‘cope’ with their gifts, but THRIVE. We need to know we can consciously create an epic life with our thoughts and emotions, and that being sensitive actually gives us an advantage in the manifestation department – we only need to learn to consciously direct our focus and emotions on what we WANT to feel, rather than feel we are forced to swim in every emotion that comes our way.

There is so much more to living an empowered, empathic life that “shielding and protecting” and’ just doing your best to not get hurt’ don’t even touch on.  I’m so tired of that BS. We are a soul family and we have codes each other needs. Think of the Hundredth Monkey Effect — once one of us get the code for thriving and shows another how to do it, it can spread like wildfire. Think of how different life could feel if empaths were empowered!

If you are ready to go deeper and connect with your empath family on a more soulful level, you can join the “How to Heal and Thrive as an Empath” online class and be added to my mentoring group for 2 months of free mentoring. Please don’t join if you’re going to be a passive participant — we need to hear/see/experience each other so we know we’re out there. Come with your whole heart. I look forward to connecting!

Happy Monday!

I talk a little bit about the group in this audio:

Click here to sign-up for the “How to Heal and Thrive as an Empath” online class!

Empaths and Highly Sensitive People: Not the Same Thing (pt 2)

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Last week I posted an article on some of the differences between empaths and Highly Sensitive People (HSP) which went viral in our little community.

Many people responded with comments like “It’s about time someone talked about this!” While others were a bit confused: “Wait. I was told I’m empathic, but now after reading this, I’m not so sure.”

In this audio I wanted to clear up any confusion, and expand again on some of the points I was attempting to make in the article.

Feel free to comment, like, question, or offer any feedback you have. Let’s keep the conversation going!

To dive deeper into your empathic abilities, check-out my “How to Heal and Thrive as an Empath” online class!

Happy Monday!

Empaths vs. HSP (They’re Not the Same Thing)

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The term empath and “highly sensitive person” often get lumped together, but they are not the same thing..

Most experts agree all empaths are highly sensitive, but not all highly sensitive people are empaths. Here’s the distinction:

A HSP is sensitive and primarily reactive to the energy around them. Dr. Elaine Aron, the originator of the term, defines it this way:

“A Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) has a sensitive nervous system, is aware of subtleties in his/her surroundings, and is tearsmore easily overwhelmed when in a highly stimulating environment.”

While all empaths are highly sensitive to energy, the difference is in their ability to feel and perceive another person’s actual feelings. Empaths, therefore, are more extrasensory and possess at least one significant gift for directly experiencing what it is like to be in the emotional/mental/or physical body of another– literally feeling what the other is experiencing.

This is not to be confused with basic empathy. All humans have the ability to empathize (minus sociopaths, which is an inability to comprehend another’s emotions). Example: If a friend looses their child, most humans have the ability to empathize with the tragedy, even if they themselves have never experienced a significant loss. An empath, on the other hand, might literally feel what the friend is going through in their body – the anxiety, sadness, and emotional pain mimicking in the empaths system as if they themselves were directly experiencing the loss. If the friend has a headache from crying, the empath may develop a headache as well.

See the difference?

A highly sensitive person, on the other hand, may cry and feel overwhelmed by the idea of losing a child – but due to their sensitive nervous systems, a HSP (especially if they have unhealed emotional wounds from childhood) may go into a downward spiral, taking the friend’s tragedy and making it about them “I don’t want to live in this world anymore, it’s too hard.” At this point they are not in the friend’s emotional experience, but simply using the friend’s loss as an excuse to feel their own pain.

I’m not suggesting that all HSP misappropriate emotions, but MANY do. A HSP may be triggered by the energy around telepathy-672x372them, but from that point they remain in their own emotional body/nervous system, experiencing the world through the lens of their intensely emotional and reactive world. Because of this, HSP are often lost in how they feel, unable to have a direct experience of another person’s literal experience.

Both empaths and HSP often have a difficult time dealing with emotions, and having a highly sensitive nature does not automatically make us a saint (I’m going to talk about the dark side of empathic abilities in another article but for now, I want to focus on the dark side of HSP).

Because HSP are highly reactive to energy, they often project their extreme sensitivity onto others, assuming others feel what they themselves are merely projecting. Meanwhile, as they remain consumed by their emotionally reactive state, they often entirely miss what the other is feeling. They won’t even realize they’ve changed the focus to themselves and will often think they are simply validating the other person, when in reality, they are lost in their own reaction – incapable of even noticing they have changed the subject.

In my experience, HSP actually have a difficult time reading other people’s emotions accurately. While they are highly Harry Potter You dont understandattuned to subtle energy (maybe picking up from body movement that a person is uncomfortable or upset) they will often piece together a story in their head about WHY the person is acting the way they are, usually based on their own emotional state in the moment. Because they are highly sensitive/reactive, HSP often make huge assumptions about what other people feel, when in actuality, they’re merely projecting their own fears and insecurities.

Where empaths typically have a difficult time accessing how they themselves feel (due to being lost in other people’s energy/emotions), an unhealed/unskilled HSP is nearly incapable of separating their own emotions/sensitivities from others, especially if they are in an emotional trigger.

It is especially difficult for a HSP person to realize the extreme level to which they project if they THINK they are empathic. In fact, one of the worst combinations (in my experience) is when an unhealed/unskilled HSP believes they are empathic. Now their projection/misapplication of emotions is fueled with a belief that they are, in fact, accurate in their assumptions and even possess some special, extra sensory gift.

Aye, yi, yi.

I’m not suggesting empaths don’t project. We all project to an extent, especially when we’re triggered or insecure. But for HSP, projecting often becomes the main modality for protecting themselves from the world. If they can place the cause of their highly reactive natures “out there” somewhere, they feel less overwhelmed (it also keeps them from having to take responsibility for their own emotions/projections).

For the sake of our mental and emotional health, it is crucial we not only understand the difference between HSP and empaths, but properly identify where we are on the spectrum. As noted above, all empaths are highly sensitive in nature, so they may slip into reactive tendencies like projecting. But usually an empath has the opposite problem – rather than projecting their emotions out, they draw other people’s emotions in (and get lost in the process).

For an empath, an unhealed/unskilled HSP is often the most draining type of person to be around. The strong emotional projection and reactive nature of the HSP triggers an empath’s negative tendency to feel they must take care of the other person’s emotions. In fact, relationships between HSP and empaths can be the most co-dependent (if both parties are not skilled in dealing with their sensitivities), with the HSP constantly needing the empath to validate their intensely sensitive natures, and the empath feeling responsible for HSP feelings.

When an empath does take time away from the HSP (or begins to have boundaries), the unskilled HSP will take the action Fire and waterextremely personal, interpreting the act to be directly against them and often behaving in passive aggressive ways toward the empath. Because HSP reactions are so emotionally intense, the empath often feels the energetic aggression as psychic attack.

An empath, when feeling the energy of another, literally feels what the other feels (rather than simply noticing social dynamics, energy, or subtle body movements), so shaking off the negative projection of a HSP can be especially difficult for an empath.

While an HSP can be kind and compassionate, their emotional stance and energy is typically on the defense (self-protective mode), so if the person they are attempting to “help” says or does something that triggers them, they are unable to stay (empathically) with the other, and instead launch into their own emotional body/wounds/and triggers. In my experience, this is the KEY difference between empaths and HSP.

If you constantly feel hurt and offended by other people and take make their energy/decisions/words personal (to the point where it affects your mental/emotional peace) chances are you are a HSP.

The trick for a HSP is not to put a personal story to every movement in the world around you. It’s important to learn not only to deescalate reactions and validate how you feel, but also release the storyline/meaning you give the experience. It’s the interpretation we give the energy that is painful, not the energy itself.

For empaths, the challenge is separating ourselves from other people’s emotions long enough to recognize our own. This is especially important when dealing with HSP. Sometimes the boundary line between empaths and HSP need to be even stronger than other relationships, simply because of the tendency to trigger each other’s negative traits.

It’s important to clarify: ALL EMPATHS ARE HIGHLY SENSITIVE (HSE), but not all HSP are empaths. The difference is in the primary way of processing energy. An empath has the ability to literally feel what another person is feeling (sometimes it’s emotionally, or it shows up physically — you get a headache when someone walks in the room who a head ache — that sort of thing).

Empathic abilities are extrasensory in nature. While an HSP has a sensitive central nervous system, it ‘s not necessarily extrasensory perception. Someone who is HSP (not HSE), is extremely sensitive to the energy around them, but typically is not able to completely connect to what another is literally/actually feeling because their own reactive/sensitive nature is what they primarily experience. An HSP may be able to feel and recognize when another person is upset, but they can’t literally feel what the other is feeling. It’s not that specific. In other words, their own sensitives are what they are feeling, NOT ANOTHER PERSONS.

Before you assume you’re an empath, access your emotional reaction to the world around you, first. I personally feel some of the healing/thriving techniques for empaths are not only inappropriate for HSP, but will actually exacerbate their tendency to project.

Learn what you’re dealing with, then gather the information that will best help you move forward from there.

Peace out.

Above All Else, Watch Over Your Heart

Empaths

This week marks Chakra Center’s third birthday. And it got me thinking.

When I started this blog, I thought it was to help others. I had no idea it would be one of my greatest tools for helping emotional bypassmyself. Through all the classes, articles, and intuitive readings I’ve done, I realize all along I was learning about me. I saw my shadows as well as my light. My poor boundaries (that I thought 8 years of therapy had cured me of) became glaringly obvious. My tendency to want to fix people made its thrilling debut. My inner critic, I discovered, was alive and well. Insecurities crept into nooks and crannies, and old fears reared their ugly heads.

But I also rediscovered parts of my heart I had long since buried. I was reminded of my endurance, realized my commitment to self-love and growth, and discovered how genuine my desire to help others thrive and feel empowered actually was. And I finally understood the saying “If you want to master something, teach.” Knowledge isn’t enough – it’s practice that makes perfect.

In the early days of blogging, I attracted a lot of wounded/broken people. I thought I could somehow fix or serve or help, butemotions5 often I simply reinforced their desire to be rescued.  And while I know some of them were inspired and encouraged – changed even, I ultimately felt unbalanced and wondered how I could possibly teach or talk about empowerment when I myself still felt completely drained by giving. I struggled finding my authentic voice, and felt, once again, like I was doing a great job creating an idea of what people wanted me to be, but still, deep down, remained unknown and unseen.

So I stopped blogging. I stopped teaching classes. I stopped doing readings. And I looked within. I began to consciously and consistently use the tools and techniques I was so good at teaching other people, but felt I didn’t need myself. I wrote only when I felt inspired, and I let myself feel everything that came up – which was mainly disappointment, self-loathing, and fear.

Despite my attempts to connect with others like me, I felt more alone than ever. A dark night of the soul, perhaps? An ego death? Both and neither are true. I think it was a cycle of reevaluation – we all go through it. So much of my life was spent trying to please others, that Chakra Center ended-up becoming just another extension of that same pattern – a pattern, ultimately, of self-denial. But it has been my greatest teacher, it has been the catalyst for immense growth, and I am proud of what it is, and what it is becoming.

I’m still learning about self-love. And I’m doing better. Slowly, but inevitably, I’m regaining my sense of self…finding my heartvoice – learning, for the first time, really, that my needs matter. I no longer have to pretend I don’t have needs, or that they are small or insignificant. Because the truth is, I have a lot of needs – and they DO matter. I’m reminded of Proverbs 4:23, “Above all else, watch over the heart, for it is the well-spring of life.” 

Self-love allows the nourishment and energy we need from Creator to flow freely into our lives. Without Source energy, we have nothing to give and the only way to survive is to become a vampire, or a blood doll – getting the next fix from those who will drink, and tell us how amazing we taste. Co-dependency at its finest.

I’m not doing that anymore. I don’t need others to tell me I’m a good friend, a good listener, or a wise guide – I need friends who see me and love me right where I’m at – even when I’m empty and scared and have nothing to give. I finally love myself enough to let more friends like that in, and I’m lucky to say I have a few. I cherish them.

Despite my impatient tendencies, I realize I’ve been growing/changing/evolving all along. It’s easy to get down on myself when an old habit or relationship dynamic pops up. And because I am self-critical to a fault, (and on the lighter side, introspective) I’m always looking for areas I can improve, but often miss what beautiful miracles have already taken place (slowly, quietly…unnoticeably).

That’s what I want to talk about. The miracle of simply living and growing and allowing. The amazing strength it often takes just to get out of bed each morning and breathe in-and-out all day long. Being a human is no small task. It takes bravery. Courage. Power. And despite the dark side of empathic abilities, (the trauma, the setbacks, the potency of feeling everything to the extreme), I still chose to get up every day and live – however half-heartedly, and I’m proud of that.

I chose to drop the self-judgment and simply love myself – as best I can. And better still, I’m learning to allow the UniverseFly to love me — to feed me with that nourishing life that sets my heart free. I chose to stop treating myself (and everyone around me) like problems to be fixed. There is nothing “wrong” with any of us. We’re just living and doing our best. God bless us for that.

I don’t want to fight the world any more. I don’t want to save or fix anyone.  This reality works exactly as it is meant to: a training ground for growth and expansion – where we get to experience ourselves in every context imaginable. We see what we are and what we’re not. We test our strength and our ability to love. We observe how we respond to every sort of adversity. It’s intense. Sometimes ruthless. But it’s also full of incredible magic, waiting, as Yeats said, for our senses to grow sharper.

I simply want to LIVE and experience – allowing the best of me to come forth, and learning patience and forgiveness when the worst of me shows up. I want to share my journey with others, simply because I know how it feels to be alone (for an empath, there is no scarier place to be).

And we’re NOT alone. Let’s see each other – look each other in the eye, not with the disempowering message of “you need me, let me fix you,” but with the transformative power of “I see you. I feel you. You’re not alone.”

That is, after all, what empathy is all about.

I want to be THAT miracle.

Become An Empowered Empath Online Class

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How to Heal and Thrive as An Empath Online Class (3 part series)

Part 1: Understanding Empathic Abilities

*What does it mean to be empathic (what it is, and what it’s not) chakras3

*How childhood affects empathic abilities (and can lead to emotional issues as adults)

*What a healthy empath looks like/what it looks like out of balance

*Shadow Work

*The Dark Side of empaths (the stuff no one ever talks about)

                -Manipulation

                -Extreme projection of fear and negativity based on unhealed issues

                -Externalizing darkness/negativity as if it’s “out there” somewhere and does not                  exist within (aka

                 denial of shadow aspects, spiritual bypassing, repression, etc)

                -Disempowerment (always needing to fix and help others)

                -Religious or spiritual fundamentalism (the empathic trap)

                -Judgment

Part 2: Healing Emotional Wounds/Acceptance/Surrender/Shadow Integration

*Begin the healing process by establishing a regular energetic hygiene routine

*Understand emotions and allow them to function properly

*Understand how and why you pick up negative/low energy and why “protection/shielding” doesn’t always work (and can sometimes make things worse)

Part 3: Tools to help you thrive

*How to recognize what energy is yours and what belongs to other people chakra 4

*Learn how to function better in crowded places

*Tips to regularly (and quickly) re-charge your energy

*How to keep your home/environment in a high vibration

*Intuitive eating and energy clearing (to avoid empathic weight gain)

*Herbal elixirs, crystals, and essential oils that help clear/uplift energy

*How to let go of the victim belief

*Accepting responsibility for your own vibration

*Not allowing emotions/energy to control you

All material/content is available through videos/audios to access at your own pace/convenience.

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How to Heal and Thrive as An Empath 3 Part Series

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5 Ways to Recharge Energy (for Empaths)

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Empaths often find it hard to keep their batteries charged. Work, social, and family obligations make it difficult to stay energetically amped up, and feeling the emotions around us more intensely than the average person makes it all the more crucial to stay in a powerful state. Operating on low energy levels is more likely to attract energy vampires and amplify our tendency to hide from social situations and personal relationships.

While frequent alone time and retreats are good (even crucial) for empaths, it’s not always practical with our busy schedules and obligations.  Sometimes we need quick, go-to recharge methods that work fast and keep us in a healthy energetic state.

Here are 5 easy recharge methods that don’t take a lot of time and can help us feel continuously revived and in a state of self-empowerment:

1. Deep Breaths: Sometimes the simplest practices are the easiest to overlook. Our breath is the quickest and most Deep breathsaccessible path to our power, and regular, deep breaths holds tremendous potential to restore and rejuvenate. Not only does the breath help relieve tension by calming our central nervous system, it also releases toxins, supports mental clarity, massages our organs, helps relieve emotional problems, provides pain anesthetic, assists in building muscle, improves posture, improves blood quality,  aids in digestion, strengthens the lungs, makes the heart stronger, assists in metabolic function, and the list goes on.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, drained, anxious, or overloaded with energy, pause for a moment to take some deep, life-cleansing breaths.  I recommend beginning each morning with some quick breath work. I use the 8/8/8 method:

8 slow breathes in through the nose, out through the mouth, 8 in through the nose, out through the nose, followed by 8 breathes in-and-out through the mouth. With each breath, visualize all excess energy being removed from your energy body and auric field. This technique is extremely powerful, energizing, and stabilizing.

2. Epsom Salt Bath (magnesium): Studies have shown that magnesium and sulfate are both readily absorbed through the skin, making Epsom salt baths an easy and ideal way to restore the body’s energy through detoxification.

Magnesium plays a number of roles in the body, including regulating the activity of over 325 enzymes, reducing inflammation, helping muscle and nerve function, and acting to prevent artery hardening. Sulfates help improve the absorption of nutrients, flush toxins and help ease migraine headaches. I recommend Epsom salt baths as a regular energetic hygiene routine for empaths, not only for its numerous health benefits, but most especially for its ability to relieve stress and tension in the body. This is especially beneficial for clairsentients and those who tend to carry the emotional energy of others in their physical bodies.

3. Ground in nature: Nature is another overlooked, yet simple and quick energy booster. Numerous studies have proven Groundingthe amazing healing benefits of nature, but we don’t need to be in some remote location in order to get the benefits. Simply taking off your shoes and placing bare feet on the grass (dirt, or rocks) for 5 min a day can do WONDERS for energetic health. Not only does the electromagnetic field of the earth clear and transmute negative energy and technology pollution, it also acts as an anti-inflammatory, calms the central nervous system, and frees the mind. Combine grounding with deep breathes. If you work in an office, try to go outside on work breaks and take your shoes off to connect, center, and recharge. Every empath I’ve worked with that does grounding as a daily practice reports incredible results to their ability to stay centered and charged throughout the day.

4. Write or talk out your emotions: Empaths process an astronomical amount of energy/emotions throughout the day. Often we don’t know what emotions/feelings are ours, and what we’re picking up from others. Allowing ourselves time to process and release feelings on a daily basis is an important way to keep emotions from being suppressed in our energetic bodies. I like to do an “energy dump” at the end of the day, and write down all that I’m feeling. It’s important not to judge our emotions, and we certainly don’t have to figure them out or “fix” them. Simply feel, validate, and release. Daily emotional processing is good energetic hygiene, and a crucial step to feeling empowered as an empath.

5. Still the mind (meditate): The amazing benefits of stillness for an empath cannot be overstated. It is important to meditationconstantly be poured out, so we can be recharged with new, life-sustaining energy. Think of yourself as a vessel that is always emptied, and always being re-filled. We are in a state of receptivity, and therefore, always being emptied. When we mediate (even just for 5 minutes a day) we still the mind and find our center. All of our power rests in our ability to be in the present moment, and in our experience of silence. In the silence, God speaks (as the say).

Because it’s easy as an empath to get lost in energy and in the emotional climate of those around us, it’s easy to forget the present moment. When we’re anxious, worried, or fearful, we are not experiencing the present moment. Take time each day to still the mind and feel the eternalness of your whole being. You are not your emotions, feelings, or thoughts – and daily reminders of this is crucial for our sanity.

I hope these suggestions helped.

Have a fabulous Tuesday and remember you are loved.

Resources:

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To learn more about empathic abilities (and how to thrive as an empath), check- out these 3 Kickass Online Classes for empaths!

3 Kickass Online Classes for Empaths (for the price of one!)

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Happy Independence Day (for my fellow Americans) and a joyous Saturday to everyone else!

In honor of my country’s birthday, I’m offering all three online classes for empaths, for the price of one (that’s an $88 dollar value for only $33!).

The Universe Within

These three classes not only explore how to thrive and feel empowered as an empath, but also give tips on how we can use our powerful emotions to consciously create the lives we want to be living.

Many empaths feel they are controlled not only by their emotions, but by the external world and all its intensity. These classes turn that notion on its head, helping us feel empowered and healthy in relationships and within our selves. We don’t have to remain inside our “protection bubble” and hide from other people’s energy. Let’s engage with the world around us and live in FREEDOM!

All classes are pre-recorded. Once registered, you will receive access to a password protected page where all material/videos/audios are available to assist you at your own convenience.

For today and tomorrow only (July 4th and 5th, 2015), I’m offering all three classes for the price of one.

Check-out the info below for more details on each class:

Empowering Empathic Abilities love magnet

In this course I cover

  • How to feel safe and empowered as an empath
  • Healing the Emotional Body
  • Good energetic hygiene for empaths
  • How to own your power as an empath
  • Allow your power to be perceived
  • Empathic abilities and weight gain
  • The role guilt plays in unhealed empaths
  • Breaking out of the aggressor, victim, savior paradigm
  • Empathic Shapeshifting
  • Creating new energy grids in the auric field
  • And more...

Healing and Empowering the Emotional Body

In this course I cover how to:

*Love yourself more by saying “yes” to your heart, your needs, your empowerment, and your creations

*Empower yourself by accepting and receiving the power of boundaries (saying ‘yes’ to you might mean saying ‘no’ to others, and that’s okay — it’s the most loving thing you can do for them)

*Focus 100% of your attention on your creations and raising your own frequency/power.

*Release old programming (love = being needed, and any other B.S)

*Receive the power and freedom of being loved (and loving yourself) simply because you exist (I AM, therefore I am loved).

*Release all outdated contracts in relationships and with the Universe at large (it’s time to move to a new level of empowerment)

*Receive the upgraded version of your life (which comes from validating all that you’ve experienced and all that you’ve been, and allowing all that you are becoming to come forward).

Creating with Emotions Online Course yinyang

In this class I cover:

*How emotions fuel vibrations (and our point of attraction)

*The role of emotions in creating our reality 

*The importance of trust, healing, and shadow work in the process of consciously creating

*Practices that help to remove common blocks in our creation process

*The role of DESIRE in creation 

*The power of NOW: How to embrace the moment and use it to its fullest potential

THIS OFFER IS NOW OVER. All classes are still available at their regular purchase price, here..

5 Health Tips for Empaths and HSP

Empaths

Because my emotions/sensitivities affect everything about how I live, the decisions I make, what I will and won’t do, and chakras perfectionhow well I do my work, I’ve learned (the hard way) that if I don’t take care of my energy moment-moment-, day-by-day, I create a sort of etheric straight jacket around myself that renders me pretty useless.

When I first started learning/researching things that could help me as an empath, I noticed a common theme: hide and “protect” — defensive strategies galore. But with my job, I HAD to be around people, so I needed to learn not just how to put a bubble of protection around me, but how to line-up with the best energetic version of myself and those people as possible.

Many empaths think “shielding” and boundaries are their only forms of power, but that “solution “carries within it the very vibration of “the problem” (“I pick up negative energy that I need protection from” – is implied). But when we do this, we forget the most important part of the equation of this vibrational reality: YOU CAN’T PICK UP WHAT YOU’RE NOT A MATCH TO! So shouldn’t the solution for ANY empath involve raising your own energy so as not to be a match to low vibrations?!

energy vampires

If you stay in a disempowered, fearful vibration, you will be a match to people taking advantage of you and wanting to suck your energy. But if you do the work to keep your own energy clean (in the form of shadow work, emotional healing, physical exercise, healthy food) you can use your powerful sensitivities to attract incredible experiences into your life. Truly stepping into your power an empath is learning to open your sensitivities wide– to their most subtle perception, to breathe in the world around you – to experience what it’s like to live as a sensitive/empathic being that is deeply engaged and in love with the world – empowered and in energetic mastery. You get to come out of hiding and LIVE.

If you believe your sensitivities make you vulnerable and weak, you will emit that energy signal out to others. Therefore, one of the first health tips for ANY empath is to start seeing (and believing) how your sensitivity is a strength, how it can benefit you and make your life more enjoyable, how your sensitivities can help you enjoy life more, and when you tune-in and use them, how it can help you consciously manifest the energy you want to play with.

We are NOT powerless and there is SO MUCH MORE IN OUR CONTROL than most empaths ever allow themselves to realize.

Here are my tips for daily energetic hygiene, to keep empathic sensitivities keen, sharp, and working FOR you (rather than against you):

1. Tune-in to your energy regularly: Anyone who has taken my classes or read any past articles know I harp on this yinyangmore than anything else. If you don’t know HOW you are feeling, you can’t move in a direction that is balanced/healthy/soothing. Many empaths have trained themselves to tune their feelings out (so as not to be overwhelmed by them) but this actually works against us in more than one way. Remaining ignorant of our own emotions causes us to overcommit and burn-out, ending-up in situations that drains our energy further (from lack of attention to what our energy bodies are actually capable of), or, on the flip side – causes agoraphobic tendencies, further weakening and suppression of our stronger, more masculine energy (which is what guards and protects our feminine, receptive sensitivities – I’m not talking about gender here folks – just energy we ALL have). Ask yourself every morning when you wake-up (and throughout the day whenever you think of it) “What do I feel? What do I need? AND “What would somebody who loves themselves do?”

These three questions can change your life.

2. Drink lots of water: When we are highly sensitive to energy, our physical bodies are the first to take the brunt of energetic excess and auric clutter. One of the most important things we can do for ourselves is to TAKE CARE OF OUR BODIES, and drinking water is the simplest place to start. I like to prepare a jar of water infused with organic cucumbers, basil, and berries, and drink a full glass every hour. If you have to, set a reminder on your phone so you don’t forget. When you do this, you ensure that your body is not only hydrated, but constantly flushing unwanted toxins/energy. It also forces you to draw attention to yourself/your body, which gives you another great opportunity to check-in “what do I need?”

3. Do regular energy cleanses: I like to imagine a white vortex of energy spinning around me, clearing and cleansing my pranayamaaura. Visualization is power, and it helps to focus regularly on having our auric fields cleared, strengthened, and sparkly. Also, when you tune-in to your auric field, pay attention to how it feels. Being empathic means you are sensitive to subtle energy, and this can be used to your benefit when it comes to energetic health and attracting experiences. Pay close attention to how your auric field feels, and use the power of meditation/visualization to strengthen your magnetism, expand your energy outward (so you’re not contracting and drawing others energy in) and keeps your energy clean so you attract clean energy in return.

4. Strengthen your vibrational boarders by balancing alone time with socializing: A lot empaths feel they need to hide from the world, but if we spend too much time alone, this can cause emotional and energetic imbalances. It also fueles a powerful resistance of “outside” energies. What we resist, persists, as they say, and the solutions for being empowered as an empath is not to resist, but to overcome.

Use your alone time to really tune into your energy, feel what you need, and meet those needs (on the most subtle, energetic level). Then, before you go out, set intentions to expand and allow your positive energy to attract the same energy back to you. Imagine your energy field as powerful and expansive. As soon as you shrink within your “protection” bubble, you put out the “I’m weak” vibe – which is a perfect match for vampiric energy.

Exposing yourself to other people’s energy regularly (and intentionally) helps you practice expanding your energy out into the world, and learning what it feels like to attract powerful, uplifting experiences. If you are a constant match to energy vampires, remember that YOU are the one fueling that connection by not strengthening your vibrational boarders through RAISING your energy. Raising your energy provides an energetic barrier – like energy matches like energy: period.  If your vibe is high, it is simply not a match to low energy. You don’t need a “bubble” of protection – you need STRONG POSITIVE, LOVING, EMPOWERED vibes. This can only come through EXPANDING OUT, not shrinking IN.

Obviously, pay attention to how you are feeling. If your energy is low and weak, build it up before you go out through connecting with nature, music, a salt bath and essential oils. Don’t pretend to feel strong when you don’t, but don’t use your empathic abilities as an excuse to hide from the world, either.

Make sense?

5. Use your words wisely: Begin saying affirmations out loud that uplift and empower you. Words are powerful, and I words have powerrecommend using phrases that draw attention to your strength (not your weakness). So many empaths talk about themselves in incredibly disempowering terms (“I’m too sensitive. I can’t handle people’s energy. I can’t go out in groups. I feel everyone’s pain, etc.”). Feel what kind of an energetic signature those words put around you. Constantly voicing what you can’t handle fuels a strong victim vibration, which makes you, once again, a PERFECT match to energy vampires and predators. Sadly, the word ‘empath’ itself has nearly become synonymous with “victim.”

Does it feel empowering to talk about yourself like that? Start changing your vocabulary about your gift, Here are some examples:

*I am an energy Jedi Master

*I can sense the deeper, more subtle energetic vibrations of love, peace, and joy, making those emotions all the more easy to flow into my life

*I deeply feel and engage with all life forms

*I have emotional mastery

*I am a powerful magnet for love and loving people

*I attract positive people into my life

*I thrive in groups because I can tune-into and feel people’s joy and happiness, which further fuels my joy

*I am a powerful feeler, and this is a strength

Feel the difference?

I hope these tips remind you of the badass, peaceful warrior you are!

If you want to learn more about empowering your empathic abilities, check-out these online classes!

Happy Wednesday!

Don’t Be a Psychic Dildo: Advice for Empaths from Brandon Gilbert

Empaths

Last week I had a talk with herbalist, educator, and owner of Hyperion Herbs/Hyperion Academy, Brandon GilbertBrandon Gilbert 3

In this two hour interview we discuss many of the issues empaths deal with, including:

*why people get sick or turn to addictions to numb out

*how we get energetically divided

*self-hatred

*getting used as a psychic dildo by others

*the role external/internal pathogens play in our energetic health 

*the original self

*the acquired self

*eastern, holistic medicine 

*western magick

*will vs. force

*Chinese herbs

*how to regain our freedom

*and more

We’ve only just scratched the surface with these topics, and I’m sure there will be more (in-depth) interviews to come.

Enjoy! And be sure to check Brandon out at the following links:

Hyperion Herbs

Hyperion Herbs Youtube Channel (where you’ll find a TON of potent information on tonic herbs, elixirs, and ancient wisdom).